ok so i dont want to make this long so short and simple:
I was in the car with my cousin today, he brought my sister shopping in the city so i thought that'd id go just to get out of the house. So on the way back, i dont evan remember how but he starts talking about "c.ock sucking ******" ( thats in his words ) and how he wouldnt suck a d.ick for a million dollers. I am bi and didnt come out to anyone yet, so of course i was laughing but in my head, i just wonder will i ever be able to come out to anyone.?
2007-02-11 16:25:13 · 8 answers · asked by The Con 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, coming out isn't a single action, but a process. Only come out to those you feel safe coming out to. As far as your cousin's actions, any time you are idle when someone makes a slur against others (whether it's because of race or gender, age, religion, orientation, etc.) you are letting them know that kind of behavior is acceptable to you. You can say that you don't find something funny or that you think it's inappropriate without coming out to him. Be patient and don't think you have to come out before you can do so safely (this may mean until you can support yourself living on your own if you're not already doing so). Good luck!
2007-02-11 16:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how old you are but it sounds as if you are still young. don't worry the day will come that you just can't stand it anymore and you will be old enough to take care of yourself and the dam will break. you will let everyone know and you will feel so much better. just wait for the right time. it will come. as for your cousin the only reason he started talking about it seems to me that he has it on the mind and i am thinking that if the situation was right and he knew no one would find out he would suck a c.ock for free. but him saying that makes him an a$$hole.
2007-02-12 01:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
before i even officially knew that i was bi, i never laughed at gay jokes. guess something deep down inside of me knew that i had this bi side.
i finally reached the stage where i officially accepted my true feelings, and shortly there after, i started telling people close to me. botton line, i want people to know that gay jokes won't be tolerated, i also don't want them to be surprised when i say something about my bisexuality or my transgenderism that will throw them off.
every family is different. if you don't hang out with your cousin very often, then perhaps, you will never feel the need to tell him.
sexual orientation is a very personal thing. we don't necessarily have to tell everybody we know.. just ones that really need to know. at least that's the way i feel about it.
but next time, dont laugh along with him.. just sit there in silence.. and that should at least send a message that you don't appreciate such jokes.
2007-02-12 01:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People seem to forget that coming out is a life long process. you only do it once per person but you do it to everybody you meet.
You will be able to come out when your good and ready.
You may not be gay you may not be straight, you are what you are and thats all that matters. I just wouldn't choose to hang out with somebody so closed minded and arrogant. surround yourself in beauty, luxury, and compassion. People that mock gays are usually gay themselves. Then by the time the come out of the closet it is too late they are like 75 years old. withered and they have alot of anger inside all bottled up. Family is different though....after you come out it becomes virtually impossible to recieve hateful lectures. people tend to keep their mouth shut around you. Hope this helps dude/dudette!!!
2007-02-12 00:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People who say things like are compensating for their own feelings of inadequacy. Rather than talk about what they can do they run others down. This is true with homophobes, races and misogynists. You are best if you put distance between you and him.
2007-02-12 02:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be wrong but my first thought is this.
I think he may suspect you are gay and wants his thoughts to be known on the subject by letting you know where he stands.
2007-02-12 01:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Incognito 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will eventualy find acceptance. But it may not be with that family member.
2007-02-12 03:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He little speech says more about him than anyone.
2007-02-12 00:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋