2007-02-11 16:22:03 · 25 answers · asked by jimbswife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's cheating now, he will continue to do so. Why would you want to marry someone who shows you so little respect? The main foundation of a good marriage is trust and he has already proven that he can't be trusted - its doomed to fall apart from the very beginning. He obviously doesn't love and respect you. Dump him. Staying with him will only cause you more misery down the road. You deserve better than that and better than him. Give him back the ring and tell him not to call you again. I am not saying its going to be easy, in fact it will hurt like hell in the beginning, but it needs to be done. In time you'll find someone deserving of your love who will actually respect you enough to stay faithful to you. Years from now you'll wonder why you waited so long to get rid of him.
2007-02-11 16:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cheat on him to get even. If he is suppose to marry you and he is cheating now before you even took the step, then I would seriously let him go. He may tell you he has stopped, but most of the time they just get smarter about how they do it. And you deserve better then that. Dont allow yourself to think you are happy, because after you get married to him, are you really going to be able to trust him? And if you can not trust him, will you really be happy with him. If you are not happy with him, can you honestly spend your life like that. Many men do change, BUT, it takes alot of heartache and pain to get there, and lots of times it only ends up making you hurt more in the end. Whatever you do, you have to think about you and your future. What is best for you. I am sorry I could have better advice, but I have been through something like this, and I have come to learn once a cheater, always a cheater, but each man is different. Follow your heart, it will never lead you wrong as long as you listen to it. Good Luck.
2007-02-12 01:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by sneekygirl69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you would want a cheating fiance. What kind of husband do you think he'll make and why do you want someone whose opinion of you is so low? Do you think you'll ever be able to trust him again? By taking him back, you're giving him the okay to treat you like garbage.
2007-02-12 00:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you gotta let him go. I know it hurts, but you'll be doing it for YOU. Nobody should be going through that. You'll be hurting yourself more if you keep thinking he'll change and you stay with him. It's not love if he's cheating. I know thats not what you want to hear, but he's your FIANCE, your going to MARRY this man. How can you marry someone if you do not trust him? If you marry him, he will keep on cheating no matter what you say or do. "Love is never meaning to say your sorry". I know thats not what you want to hear, but if you do stay with him you will wonder why and grow to hate him for doing that to you, or eventually think its your fault he's doing it and think your doing something wrong, which you are not! Please get rid of him, do it for yourself. You will find someone who will treat you right, show you the respect you deserve, show you passion, love, and someone who will never cheat on you and love you no matter what. THe person you are with will never give you that satisfaction.
2007-02-12 00:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not stop a person from cheating . Perhaps the best thing to do is to discontinue your relationship while you aren't married yet . First of all it is because you can not trust him. He is showing you signs of infidelity ]which would only spell trouble in the future. Don't waste your precious time on a person who is not worthy of your love and trust. Rejoice, at least you discover the secret before it is too late.
2007-02-12 00:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want him to come home.. Why would you still want to marry him? The only way he will quit cheating on you is when you get rid of him. Kick him to the curb and move on. In fact, run over on the way..
2007-02-12 01:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by jweggie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make a stand and say you will leave if your fiance doesn't begin to treat you with respect then you have to be sure that you will leave, if not, it's an empty threat. If your fiance won't sit down and talk to you, then it sounds like they don't want things to work. Rather than get angry, maybe start with, "It makes me really upset that..." and try and play to their emotions. You don't need to beg, it's just trying to communicate your feelings. That is a tough one. Good luck
2007-02-12 00:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by MrsTee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be a moron to marry someone who is doing that to you. You must love being traeted like a door mat. I know how to make him come home..get on with your life..dont let him think that he has you to fall back on and let him get tired of the woman hes cheating with. If he loves you he will come back to you but if he doesnt he wont. If he comes back kick him back to the gutter and you need to smarten up and move on
2007-02-12 12:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...Definately don't listen to the person that said cheat back. Cheaitng is completely wrong! Tell them you love them but you can't take that and they need to stop because you don't think they love you. Break it off and I guarantee that they will realize what they lost and come back to you. If they start being all like I will change I will change before you break it off, don't take it because it is probably fake. Stand strong.
2007-02-12 01:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by ilovejunior7789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, What would you think of him if he did not cheat on you. Would he mean as much as he does now because he cheats?
2007-02-12 00:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by gotagetaweigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋