I have hurt my friends emotionally and have been influenced by the worst people at a very early age i have been a hipocrit and a liar even to my parents i just wish to be able to change i need help badly i just want to be able to rest easily for the first time in 8yrs.
2007-02-11 16:19:32 · 11 answers · asked by Antonio B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tony, learn to love yourself. Learn to accept yourself without judgment. You are truly special, unique, unlike anyone else in the entire universe. And you are your own best friend. Everything you have ever done was done with the thought that at the time it was the best thing to do. It was only later that you decided you shouldn't' have done something. So you didn't really make mistakes. If you can learn to truly honor yourself, you will find that you will honor others. You will treat others the way you treat yourself. So, love, honor and respect yourself. The rest will come naturally.
2007-02-11 16:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you want to change for the better. All I can tell you is you are the only one who can change yourself. Yes, you can look to family and friends for support or even strangers like me, but you are the only one who can make anything happen. You have to be strong and learn from the mistakes you have made. Just have faith because some things will probably be harder to change than others. You can do this though if you really want to. Best of luck to everything will work out it always finds a way.
2007-02-11 16:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really applaud you for wanting to become a better person. First of all, you need to go and apologize to the ones that you have hurt. You only can change if you want to change. You also need to admit to yourself that you were all those things and tell yourself that you don't ever want to do those things ever again. Keep putting positive affirmations in front of you. Start speaking it and do it. First, you need to love yourself before loving and caring for other people.
If you need more help, than join a self help group and search self-help books on line. Or, you can read this book called, "Bad Childhood, Good Life", a good book to start off with.
You can do anything if you put your mind to it. Life is what you make it!
2007-02-11 16:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't know 8 year olds had this much stress? My answer is to just be the person you want to be. It really isn't hard. Just stop lying and remind yourself when you are faced with a challenging situation that you want to be a better person. Seek advice from people you admire. Real people you actually know and ask them how they live their lives and the key to their personal happiness. Some people have a strong spiritual foundation which strengthens them and gives them inner peace. If this is true for you, speak with your minister, pastor, priest, whomever and definitely talk to your parents.
2007-02-11 16:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by Blackerdaberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well today is the first step towards a brand new you.....congrats! We have all done and said things to others that we are not proud of but its how we learn from it and grow from it that counts.
Give your parents a big hug and a kiss,tell someone that you are sorry, you'll be amazed at how much better you will feel and trust me you'll want to carry that feeling on with others for the rest of your life.
2007-02-11 16:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by pepc1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your on the right track. You have realized that you have done the people that you love wrong. Now just do an inventory check of yourself and your wrongdoings. You now have the opportunity to reclaim the friends and family that you lost. Love yourself and you will be loved. Good Luck to you young man.
2007-02-11 16:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Alice S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst part is over. you know that there are some things about yourself that youd like to change. now, change them. when you notice yourself telling a lie or saying something you know is hurtful, stop. it might be hard to catch yourself at first, but the more aware you become of your actions, the easier it will become. before you know it, you be making these changes without even noticing.
2007-02-11 16:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by How Sweet It Is 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first step in making a change in any situation is realizing you have to do something about it... so from now on just watch what you say or do... and prove it to your family and friends... its never too late to become a better person.. goodluck =)
2007-02-11 16:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by be yourself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on realizing you need a change in your life. Now what are you going to do about it?
2007-02-11 16:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to cousnling and church and anger mangement
2007-02-15 11:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋