I am a recovering alcholic with so many positive things going in my life,but not marriage that i don't want to lose
2007-02-11 16:01:15 · 6 answers · asked by j drywaller 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your a recovering alcoholic....that obviously takes alot of inner strength and courage......put that into your marriage.
You fought to become sober, fight for the one you love.
I wish you all the best.
2007-02-11 16:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by pepc1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek out a neutral third party if you can't talk to each other alone to mediate the conversations that you two need to have. It doesn't have to be a therapist--family friend or church officials work just fine too. Depending on how far along you are in recovery there could be a weird backlash happening. As the dysfunctional part of the family gets better the family/spouse can get angry and things fall apart because they don't know how to operate when everyone is healthy. Or issues they are having now need to be addressed since you are no longer the focal point of the family tension/stress. It can be prevented sometimes but having worked with more than a few couples, getting totally healthy may just put you into better relationships with other partners.
2007-02-12 00:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk. Communicate. The essence of any relationship is communication. She stuck it out for 15 years so she is pretty tolerant, and understanding. If the marriage is worth saving, it's worth working at to save. Consider couples counseling, family counseling, personal counseling. But communicate. Most important.
2007-02-12 00:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
check out this cool marriage conference. Family Life puts out a yearly conference in your area. It's allot of fun, great folks, and also includes a date night. Look for the marriage conference and check out "A Weekend to Remember."
Great speakers. No fat guy asking you boring questions on a one on one basis. Everythings done in a public auditorium and teaches men and women "how to understand the opposite sex".
Check it out dude, i think youll regret it if you dont'.
2007-02-12 00:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like u just saw light at the end of the tunnel. Convince ur other half to hang on. As the saying goes..sucess do come just by hanging on. (perseverance)..
2007-02-12 00:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
completely humble yourself and seek God through the word daily so that no matter what happens you'll trust God to take care of you. I think God wants to heal your relationship but you have to be willing to humble yourself and let him do it.
2007-02-12 00:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋