I'm 26. I just got married almost a year ago...but it was a marriage of convinience. Now, I just met again the girl of my dreams since I was a youngster...and I'm totally in love with her. I'm in deep s*** am I? Any advise?
2007-02-11 15:57:21 · 28 answers · asked by shaboogs13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your on your way to success! There is always hope! You asked the best question so far.
Drop the old gf, and stick to the marriage. Tell yourself that when you decided to get married, you made up your mind and your mind is made up of your choice. Stick to your guns.
Don't let other chicks change your decision. Don't let your friends trick your choice.
Stop letting other people make up your mind when you have already made it up once, and you were right!
Lead in marriage and do not let others lead you out of marriage.
2007-02-11 16:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sort of depends on what you mean by "marriage of convenience". If it's a citizenship thing, you might have an arrangement with your "spouse" that let's you have a girlfriend. If it's a family thing, that might be a problem. Is it a question of staying in the marriage and no fooling around, ever? Are there reasons why divorce at this time is out of the question? Of so, but you can establish a relationship with your dream girl, then talk to the dream girl and explain the situation. You haven't told us if dreamy is in love with you. That might make a difference. Quick answer, start romancing, get your divorce and marry dreamy. Or, quit thinking about dreamy and stay with your current spouse. Might help to explain "convenience"?
2007-02-11 16:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your clearly not ready for any relationship, if you married for convenience. Yes your in deep sh*t especially if your truly in love like you say you are. Tell your wife, so that your not hiding anything from her, trust me its better to do it now rather than later when you may actually have something to worry about. You need to be honest and really know what you want before taking any action. Does this woman feel the same about you or is she only seeking a friendship?
2007-02-11 16:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about your wife? Do you see yourself being able to be with her and be faithful to her for the rest of your life? If the answer is no, you probably need to get out of your marriage. It may be hard to do, but in the long run it will hurt both of you less to break up than for you to be in love with someone else. Unless, of course, you still need the convenience of the marriage and the 2 of you agree to have an "open marriage".
2007-02-11 16:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a pretty awful situation to be in. I'm sad that you went ahead with the marriage to begin with, but I know you can't turn back time. Definitely get out before you have children, but really step back for a moment and think if this other girl really would be the girl of your dreams or whether you're just in a fantasy. You may be right, but you owe it to yourself and to your wife to take your time and answer this one correctly. You may think the grass is greener. Good luck.
2007-02-11 16:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by MrsTee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't make yourself missarable, you are torn between two lovers and thats not a good place to be in. Now ask yourself if you love your wife.......would you want to keep her?? if you said that the marriage was only for convinience why dont you get out now before it pulls you to far.... just be honest to yourself, if you dont love your wife now, just tell her, you might be suprise what she can say,..............good luck love!1
2007-02-11 16:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does marriage of convenience mean?? If you married someone it shouldn't have been for convenience. You are completely in deep s***, you promised to someone that you loved them and wanted to be with them forever. Do you understand that's what marriage is?? This is going to be very messy and hurtful.
You need to speak to your wife and not this answer board - pronto.. she needs a chance to get on with her life with someone who can really love her.
2007-02-11 16:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jacey S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you do not love your wife then don't stay with her it will only end up hurting her more in the long run tell her that you can't be with her any more and get a divorce. try to hold of on the new relationship for a little while so it doesn't look like you are rubbing it into your ex's face. a little pain now will save a lot more in the long run.
good luck
2007-02-11 16:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with your wife and tell her what is going on and how you feel. You NEVER should have gotten married to your wife out of convienience. You really need to stick to your vows and seek counseling and help for you and your marriage. Dump the other girl and work on your marriage.
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2007-02-11 16:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything out of convenience....
I don't know what to say, but try counseling with your wife...so that you can have your feelings mediated by a professional...
See how things work out then...and if they don't change...then you need to do some serious thinking and some serious soul searching to find out exactly what you want out of life and marriage...because you can't keep doing this
2007-02-11 16:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋