Pro's and con's of being a married man's mistress?

Question

I know its wrong, I just want to hear what everyone else has to say about it.

Note: I am not a *****, I didn't do anything with any married man! I just want to know how the public feels about it.

Answer 1

Honestly, if he is married, and he is also with you, what type of man is that? He may be charming or whatever you see in him which may not be bad, but if he is not man enough to make a choice of what he wants out of life, then what really makes you think you will be truly happy with him. And if for some reason he decided that he no longer wanted to be with his wife, and chooses to be with you, what would make you think that later down the road that you wont be in the same position as his wife is right now? There really is no pros and cons, only risks, it is a play by your heart type of game. Think really hard about how you feel when he comes over to you, after he has been with his wife, personally I would not feel to good about it because I would think if he is with me and hes married, is their anyone else he is with that I dont know about? But it is all a matter of personal opinion. I wish you all the luck in the world, and make the best choice that is right for you no matter what anyone thinks.

Answer 2

That is such an open ended question. You have Men with a mistress that the wife knows about, you have men with a mistress that the wife doesn't know about. You have Men and women in a Me'nage a' trois. You have all kinds of situations. Different situations are simply different. Cheating is cheating but what if everybody knows, including the wife and she is okay with it ? But my personal opinion is a woman who does NOT want to get involved with a married man better find out before she gets involved and asking him isn' t the answer. It's like asking a girl if she is over 18 and then trying to plead ignorance when you get arrested for having sex with a minor. You better find out if he is married from some other source than just believing him.

Answer 3

I've been married and have had a mistress... I also ended up divorced. It's a messy thing and no one is happy with the results. When he is put into a postion of becoming accountable and responsible for his actions, you end up getting put in the middle and you become the "home-wrecker" dispite his willing participation. You loose the respect of your girlfriends and women in general. He is using you. He is taking advantage of your lack of respect for yourself and your low self-esteem to have a good time. Knowingly or not, he's telling you what you want to hear to minimize the risks of being caught and also to keep what he currently feels is a good thing going...

Having been "through" and out the other side of the situation, I cannot with a good conscious tell you there are any pro's at all. I am certain that my former mistress would agree whole-heartedly!

You deserve better than that and so does his wife. What goes around comes around and you may very well find yourself in his wife's situation down the road if you don't take this seriously!

RUN!

Answer 4

Pro's:
NONE
Unless they have seperated and plan to divorce, then your not really the mistress
Con's:
Your a mistress not the wife
Your getting the left overs
You are sleeping with another womans husband
He's cheating on both of you
They would have to be pretty naive to do this
Not being able to sleep at night
Having to be quiet when the wife phones
Listening to all the lies he tells
To many to think of....

Answer 5

Cons
Not having someone to hold on the Holidays
Knowing that u r always gonna b second
Cant b jealous
Setting yourself up 4 failure
Settling for not being number 1
Having half a man
Respect
He can have someone else but u cant....Trust me
Ruining a family and knowing it
Not always convient

Pros
Money
Married men most of the time do make the best lovers....
Enjoying life for that moment,minute or however long
Excitement maybe the rush

Answer 6

Years ago in my wild days i was a mans mistress once. I felt so bad for her and being the other woman that after about a month or so i dumped him and did not look back. I felt so guilty and bad i just had to stop. He was mad but oh well life goes on. His poor wife. If i could find her today i would tell her what i had done and i would ask her to forgive me.

Answer 7

Do you like to spend a lot of time waiting for someone to call? He is going to call you when he can sneak a call in without being caught. You are going to be at his beck and call 24 hours a day. Why don't you find a single guy? This guy will play you like a fool. There are no pros for being someone's mistress, unless of course, he is filthy rich and supports you. You were right. It is wrong for a lot of reasons. Do yourself a favor and find a single man.

Answer 8

CONS
1. You'll always be the second plate
2. Not only will hurt yourself but you will destroy a family.
3. You will loose all self respect and dignity that you may have.
4. You will have to see him only on HIS terms,
5. Always hiding and worrying about someone else seen him with you.
6. and after a few years of "wasted time" and he gets tired of you, and drop you, you'll find yourself way too old to start a new relationship.
7. "What goes around comes around"

PROS:
1. NONE
I couldn't fine one that make sense.

Answer 9

Mistresses can't see the light of day. They have no dignity, no self-love and no respect for people. They are prepared to live in the shadows. They sell their souls for material things and for a man to look after them. They have no backbones and don't have a good job nor do they want to work. They are lazy. They are prepared to give birth to bastards......that makes them selfish. They don't care for their children's feelings or dignity. They are basically parasites.

Answer 10

no lasting benefits u r there when ever he is ready u sit around waiting for him even if he doesn't show u probably think about getting caught &wonder if we do will he blame u or leave her for u. what happens when u r the wife he cheated with u will he also cheat on u .& last what if he dies ur left with nothing but hurt & emptyness is this all u want out of life