i have been with the same guy 9 yrs and married 6 yrs we have 3 kids 7 5 and 3 i was very small when we got to gather and now im 200 pounds i have been trying to lose weight and have lost around 30 pounds and my husband says i have to lose at least 60 more pounds or he is leaving should i just say bye or try harder to lose weight
2007-02-11 15:43:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have always lost my (baby) weight but after my 3rd kid it just seems to stick no matter how hard i try and yes i love him butand would do anything for him he dosent show me the same
2007-02-11 16:01:19 · update #1
You know what? You can tell him for me that he is an as-hole. I am the same weight as you and I was allot smaller when we got together but my husband never says anything. And I don't even have any little ones to blame mine on. He is mean. If he would leave you over that he is mean. What would he feel like if you told him that if he didn't perform better or get harder that you were gonna leave. I don't know what to tell you because you have 3 little ones. But I know what I would be telling the as-hole. sorry for you .
2007-02-11 15:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh brother what a jerk. Ok here I go. First of all lose the weight for yourself. Secondly if he really loves you he would accept you the way you are. My hubby and I have been married for almost 5 years and I have put on some weight since we got married. Well he still says I am as sexy as ever. Sounds like your husband has some issues. Let me say one more thing. You have to lose the weight for yourself and no one else. Losing weight is not something that your husband should be threatening to leave you over. I sure hope I have helped you out. You take care and keep your chin up.
2007-02-11 16:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Christina A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eat nourishing food with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables being part of it. Chew each morsel at least 32 times. This will activate signal to the brain as soon as u have had enough. Further eat only when hungry. Besides this change in eating style, take regular light exercises and brisk walks every day. U will be able to gain/shed all extra weight gracefully and in a reasonable time span. No food or drink in between the food and not more than three meals a day, unless u r diabetic. U will urself feel happier if u loose. What is the notice period?
2007-02-11 16:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, thats harsh-leaving you because he thinks your 'overweight?'.
Personally, I don't like the idea of divorce, especially with kids so young. My mom's divorced and its been tough on me. But if your husband is telling you this then why bother with him?
But if you really want to keep your marriage together and try harder to lose the weight, I would suggest joining a dieting program-such as weightwatchers (there program is really easy, and works really well!). Also, you should try excercising at the gym everyday for atleast an hour.
Goodluck! < 3
2007-02-11 15:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by webuysocks 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With the option the man, who is supposed to love you and stick by threw thick AND thin, is giving...I think you are better off just saying bye. And only for yourself should you then choose to lose weight. The negative body image your husband is giving you, should not be used as motivation! Find someone that will love YOU for YOU. (and those precious little ones of yours) Make every mental and phsyical desicion for yourself and noone else! <3<3<3
2007-02-11 15:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest I used to go for looks when I was younger, but now that I ve grown up a little ive realised that its the ones with the good hearts and maybe not as good looking as others that are always the best people cause most of the good looking boys are big headed jerks not all but alot lol hope this helps you out a little :)
2016-05-23 23:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm? well i had 2 kids and was just a bit smaller when i met my man we now have a baby which makes 3 for me and im also a stay at home mom now he always tells me to loose weight and makes comment but i always think i was this big when you met me...keep in mind my man is skinny as can be and is unable to gain weight...so about your issue i dont know me personally i dont like being overweight but we both know how hard it is to drop the pounds so i guess if you have enough dedication then go for it but if you are happy or if he just simply refuses to see how hard it is for you then let him go.....
2007-02-11 15:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now that depends; are you comfortable with the way you look or would you like to lose weight too? On one hand, your husband is being honest with you. But, he should love you no matter what!! Marriage is suppose to be forever.
2007-02-11 15:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he like totally selfish or what? I mean is he thinking of your health? Has he taken into consideration the children? Is there perhaps more to the story here than meets the eye? See if he will go to counseling with you. If he won't go then leave him and then finish losing the weight, he will be so jealous.....just teasing, hope you can make it work, good luck.
2007-02-11 15:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by espee65 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While it one thing to be concerned about your health and any effects excess weight has on it it is totally another to threaten you with leaving just because of your weight...tell him he has to be there and help support you trying to lose weight and if he's got shallow body shape issues show him the door
2007-02-11 15:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by kayla 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋