I am 15 and me and my mom do not get along at all.... My aunt and uncle said i can move in with them but the way the do things is a lil "Different"... my mom doesnt believe that im serious about moving how do i prove to her that I am....she gave me permission to switch schools and move but she doesnt believe ill last and she thinks ill come running back home..
2007-02-11 15:26:07 · 7 answers · asked by ballerinagirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and im really excited about going...
2007-02-11 15:31:11 · update #1
Why don't you and your mom get along? If you are like most teenagers and their mothers it is probably because you feel like you are an adult that should be making your own choices. Your mom still sees you as a kid and is trying to protect you and not letting you have all of the freedom that you want. Who is wrong? Maybe both.
This is all because you are growing up and because your mom loves you very much. If she didn't love you she would let you do whatever you wanted.. Raising a teenager is hard. You want the best for your baby and they're not babies anymore. If you were in her shoes how would you protect your daughter from making the "wrong decisions" and still let her have her freedom? Your mom is in a tough spot. She has to balance letting you go and protecting you from the world. Ask yourself, if the rules she sets are really to be mean and limit you or to protect you? Have you shown her that you are worthy of her trust, or have you made poor decisions in the past? Talk to her about what you could do to prove that you are responsible and are worthy of some freedom. Then act responsibly.
Going to your relatives house isn't a bad idea but they are likely not going to put up with all of the stuff that your mom does. And they will also likely only be there for you up to a certain point. If they let you do anything you want it doesn't mean they love you it means they don't care.
If you go keep an open mind and go back to your moms house when you are ready to live by her rules. Going back doesn't mean failure, it means you have matured. It's all part of growing up.
Whether you stay or go... Try to talk to your mom. Maybe even suggest family counseling. Try to see things from her point of view and ask her to do the same for you. Learn to talk things out. As long is you live in her home she will have the final say. But she is going to be your mom forever, you need to start learning how to communicate with her as an adult.
I went through the same thing with my mom 15 years ago (when i was your age). We are best friends now. And I hated her then.
Good luck. It's hard to belive it now but it's a phase and it will get better. Unfortunately, it won't be better for a few years.
2007-02-11 15:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Amy J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 ------the best thing I remember about this age is that when you double it you'll be 30. First of all what do you mean by a "little different?" You know sometimes a little can mean a lot, and you might find out your mother isn't so bad after all she did allow you this growing experience cause this is what it's about and after you mature enough to see some of her point of view you may be happy to return home. There's two sides to every issue so you're probably not ALL right or wrong, therefore she just could be right about some things too!! Good luck and write this in your journal to read 15 years from now!!
2007-02-12 00:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think life would be better at another home? You are still going to have to follow the rules of that home.
It sounds like your Mom is trying to be supportive of your decision. It's up to you to make the decision that will be best for both of you.
Are you wanting to move out just to prove something to your Mom? Think about how many different lives this decision would affect. I realize you're 15 and think that the world should revolve around you.... but it doesn't.... maybe you should just try to get along with your Mom instead of running away from your problems.
2007-02-11 23:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will be back home. this is the good time for a cliche, " the grass is not greener" at your aunt and uncles. its normal to not get along with your mother.
but then again i do not know u. my nephews are 15 and 7 and if they were to move in with me, i doubt they would move out because i practically raised them.
2007-02-12 07:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shut up, go to school, and get a job. I'd bet money that you just have too much spare time on your hands and you are getting yourself into trouble. If you had it so damn bad at home you wouldn't even have access to a computer.
2007-02-12 00:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by readmywritings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So move out. Sounds like your mom loves you and wants you home, but even though it is painful to her she is willing to let you go. Follow your conscience. I will pray for you.
2007-02-11 23:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Marie B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably right, and you sound as bad as me when I was 15!
2007-02-11 23:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by f_jayce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋