all the guys that i meet just want a one night stand and then i find out afterward that they were either with someone or maried or jsut not with anyone and just wanted a one night stand so what do i need to do ? and then there are other guys that have their noses up in the air and will not talk to you why are they like that?
2007-02-11 15:11:22 · 9 answers · asked by sexy_hot_gay_dude 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to tell the guys upo front what you expect, and do not go to bed with them on the first night
2007-02-11 15:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wish i knew. if i did know i would have a man and i would tell everyone, especially you my secret. our community has fallen and can't seem to get up. all anyone likes to do is have a one night stand. i think this comes from us getting so used to the fact that we are shunned by most of the straight community and so we are used to being alone and taking care of ourselves. we have learned and adapted to a life that we feel comfortable with. we got to the bars, meet someone, take them home or go home with them and when we are done doing the deed we leave and that's it. we are done getting our rocks off now we can back to the rest of our life. it's just like the straight men in the old days when they would take a wife that they really did,t know or cared about. they would claim it was their right as the husband and man of the house to get some whenever they wanted it. they would climb on top do their business and when they were done they would climb off roll over and go to sleep. when we do the one night stand sort of thing it is the same as those poor bastards in the olden days.
maybe we are the ones that need to change our habits and start going to different places other than bars and try going to bookstores or coffee houses that are gay hang outs. or maybe to the MCC, but i do not relish the idea of going to church with religious gays. something in that sentence bothers me. i am sure they are not bad people so don't get me wrong but could you imagine a queen at the confessional.
as far as the other guys who have their noses in the air, i don't know why they think they are so special. they just need to wake up and look at theirselves in the mirror really well. not just the outside of theirselves but the inside as well. acting the way they do just confirms that some of them may be hot but their personalities suck. and not in the good way. to me those guys are not what i am looking for anyway and i don't even acknowledge them. a person that is ok looking or even below average but with a great personality is more appealing than any really hot guy with their nose in the air.
hope something gives for you and wish the same for me. take care and good luck man hunting.
2007-02-11 16:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are usually the most likely candidates for good boyfriends. Although, if you don't mind being "modern", just post a profile on those relationship sites stating what you are looking for and hope something good comes out of it.
Just do not expect to find a boyfriend in nightclubs or bars. Join groups that do things that you like to do, like hiking, dancing, volleyball or whatever it is and maybe you can meet someone nice. Life is full of surprises!
2007-02-11 15:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ziggy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are guys. Unfortunately you just meet the wrong ones. Its hard to meet a serious guy at a club or bar unless your lucky and find someone like you. You know, maybe wear a T-shirt that says, "Marriage Material," lol. Otherwise, good luck. It took me it seems like forever to find Mr. Right, unfortunately, many others thought I was Mr. Right for them but I didn't think so! So, while you get there, you may be the one breaking someone elses heart!
Good luck!
2007-02-11 15:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Befriend people without sleeping with them. Gay people network and you won't always find what you're looking for on the club scene or the Internet. Put yourself out there and let it be known that you are interested in commitment. Go on dates, make it clear they are dates. The word will get out. Join a LGBT support group, and weed out the one nighters right off. You can't do it sitting in your room, go hear the music play, life is a Cabaret old chum, I can equate anything to a musical, excuse me for that, but you get the picture. And smile. Trust me.
2007-02-11 15:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im looking for a nice guy too. I don't know why they like one night stands.
2007-02-11 15:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by artistguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
society has brainwashed people into thinking that one-night-stands are cool. i think it's quite sad.. they are silly and meaningless. i agree, i wish more people out there were looking for relationships instead of just sex.
2007-02-11 16:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression "looking for a needle in a haystack"?
2007-02-11 15:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not possible
2007-02-12 00:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by marty_cohen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋