Why do my friends sometimes make fun of my for being a dancer?

Question

I dance and i find sometimes people i try to be firends with dont seem to understand what i do and they think its lame. ( evn tho i love to do it! What can i say or do to get people to understand what it is that i do withoout them thinking i am a dork ( by th way most of my true true good friends, like 15 of them think it is awesome but newer friends , i cant hardly explain what it is i love.)

Answer 1

That's terrible that they make fun of you for doing something you love. Like many people before me said, they could just be jealous one that you found somethin you love and two you are good at it.

Dance is by far a very unappreciated art form. A lot of people think dance is very simple and don't understand the hours dancers put in to look as good as they do. I know some people who think ballet is simple; all you have to do is stand on your toes and move in a circle. People who don't dance don't understand the hard work dancers go through. They don't understand the technique nor all little things you have to know to make it as a dancer.

As for your friends, maybe ask them why they think it's lame. Maybe it will spark a thought they had you can explain. Another thing I absolutely love is to show off my "battle scars." Say you feet are all blistered up, show your friends what your feet go through when on pointe. Maybe you have bruises from rolling around on the floor or on you knees. You could even invite them to an upcoming show if you have one. This may not be your best choice, but it's a thought.

If they still think it's lame, then maybe they really aren't your friends.

Answer 2

It could be jealousy that you have found something you are passionate about and are good at.

Just explain that you feel so blessed to have entered dancing at an early enough age that you've been able to dedicate yourself to it.

Cos it takes a lot of WORK to make it in dancing, and maybe they're jealous, but they don't know how much you've put into it.

Answer 3

that would be called Jealousy. My daughters dance. My oldest is 15 and she has had the same issues. The dance around saying making fun of her. You don't need to explain yourself but if you want to tell them it's no different than any sport they participate in. Or you could just say...... "It's an art you wouldn't understand"

Answer 4

Jealously is an ugly thing. I imagine that your friends are jealous of your talent or don't understand dance. They're probably just mildly teasing you, but you should tell them it bothers you, or even better, invite them to watch you rehearse or perform one night. I bet after seeing you they will be in awe, and might even want to try themselves. It can't hurt.

Furthermore, you don't have to explain yourself to people, they will have their opinions regardless of what you do. The only thing you have to do is be the best you can be at what you do and be a good person. You can't completely please anyone but yourself.

Answer 5

They're jealous. Dancing requires talent, strength, knowledge and patience. You have all of that, I bet the ones who make fun of what you're passionate about, don't.

Keep doing what you love, all that matters is how dancing makes YOU feel.

Answer 6

Then they aren't true friends if they make fun of something you are passionate about. Dancing is awesome, and something that I have just started learning myself. I wouldn't care if anyone teased me about it because I love it and not about to stop.

Answer 7

They don't understand it's your passion.
Like I write, and I preform. Some of my friends use to make fun of me for wanting to sing for a living, but after they seen me on stage they seen that's where I wanted to be.
Don't push them to like dancing, but tell them that if they don't like it then they need to keep it to themselves, because it's what you love.

Answer 8

They are just jealous that you have found something for which you have a passion. DO NOT let them make you feel that it is lame, it is not.

Answer 9

You are luck! For a lady to be a dancer is just alright! They may make fun of you indeed... but what if you are a man? You could imagine how people think of me when I started my career as a dancer! I am a professional, a professor, a social scientist, and life to me came to a halt when I started to dance! Dancing is not just so awesome to me but it becomes my own self expression, my passion, and what makes life more meaningful to me now. And when people teased me, I simply invite them to join me dancing. They stopped teasing me because I really mean it. Last night, I and my friends went to a dinner in a fast food. There was a band playing. When the band started to play salsa, I stood up and walk towards the band and their lead singer. I started to dance. My friends so me. I gazed at them, wink and invited them to come and join me. One lady friend run to my side and did the steps I was doing. The music was so awesome, that one by one, my friends started to stand and join us. We did a "suelta" a line dance salsa. To the band's amazement, everybody was so engulfed by my passion and the happiness they saw in me... and how inviting it was... they cannot contain that sense of regret of they will not join me! And indeed, we did not only suelta salsa but also suelta cha-cha. It was fun, until everybody around us lost that sense of shame associated in dancing.

People make fun of dancing because deep inside them is that yearning to dance. It is not that were envious of us, but they are also trying to cope with that sense of wanting to dance but couldn't because of that sense of shame. But once you make them feel that it is alright to dance, and show that patience of inviting them to dance, entice them to dance... your patience will reap its fruit. Believe me... it happened to me.

Answer 10

don't worry about what new friends think, they will come around, keep on dancing, have a blast, go get them.....