That is up to you...but I think the main key is how well you know each other...
Check on some good premarital counseling...and then see if you guys still have the same chemistry ... and if you do...go for what works for you....
Marriage is fun...it has its ups and downs...but, when you are with someone you love...you can't beat that....
2007-02-11 14:56:01
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answered by LIFECOACH 3
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There is no set rule on this. Some couples know within a few dates whether they could build a life with each other. If you are young, you should probably wait a year or two. If you are older, six months might be enough. The important thing is that you talk over lots of important things BEFORE you get married: like how you both feel about having children (or not having them); how you would handle money; how you feel about religion and politics; what you enjoy doing together and separately, and how you feel about your partner's family. How will you handle holidays? All of these things need to be discussed and agreed upon before marriage to ensure that you will not have nasty surprises to rock the marriage. Good luck!
2007-02-11 23:39:37
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answered by Wiser1 6
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I would say at least a year if not longer. Usually the longer the better. It takes time to get to know someone really well so take your fime and dont rush it. Be sure you know each other really well and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are both ready for marriage and that you are marrying for the right reasons then go for it. BUT not until then. My husband and i knew each other a little over a year before marriage and we have a happy and great marriage and we love it!!! Been married going on 8 years now and together going on 9.
2007-02-11 23:01:41
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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It depends, but I would say not until you know everything you can about each other, family, friends, habits, good and bad things, financial aspects, religion, wanting to have children yes or no, etc. This could take a year or so maybe more, the best thing to do is to resolve all questions before making that step to make your chances much better, just look at the divorce rate....
2007-02-11 22:56:16
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answered by ACTS 4:12 4
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I think a couple should be together for at least two or three years, if not longer before even thinking about marriage. I dated my wife for five years before we married and we have been married sixteen years.
2007-02-11 22:56:42
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answered by Anonymous
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A year is an adequate amount of time to get to know each other, but here's what's important to "know":
- whether you two have a good amount of shared interests and activities, as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
- whether or not you have an adequate sense of compromise; the ability to work out problems without a lot of trauma and anxiety.
- whether or not you have an adequate sense of sympathy and forgiveness, because you're going to make some mistakes, and it's important to be able to forgive, learn from the mistake and move on. You do not hold a person's mistakes over their head forever.
- whether or not you are both emotionally mature enough to live together harmoniously. There needs to be a larger sense of "we" than "me."
2007-02-12 08:35:15
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answered by Anonymous
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at least for two years. Marriage is a one time doing. You dont' get any do overs. Or a re-kick. It's for a lifetime.
during the two years, you plan the perfect wedding. You save enough money to buy your bride to be a nice little starter house.
Remember, your going to have to plan for the SUV as well, great for kids.
Two years of seeing the mother in law, should tell you what your asking for in the future!
Proceed with caution!
2007-02-11 22:57:31
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answered by ? 4
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Not sure about others, but for us it was about 2 weeks and engaged - 3 months to married! 13 years later and still hot!
2007-02-11 22:59:55
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answered by lady_blu_iz 4
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They should know each other for at least 2-3 years, so that they know each other well enough.
2007-02-11 22:58:10
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answered by musiclover 5
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Never get married, that way when it is over there is no long never ending divorce procedure. You can pack up what's your's and go your marry way.
2007-02-11 22:58:54
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answered by ? 4
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