My husband seems to have developed a relationship with some woman whom he met at the local bar while we were very much living together and married. I have since left him but this has been going on since July of last year and they still talk everyday and he calls her before she goes to work and vice versa...he said it wasn't a sexual relationship but when I confronted him he lied about everything....what would you believe?
2007-02-11 14:29:01 · 18 answers · asked by shellybear0925 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is surely something going on there...
I wouldn't trust it....
If you want to work it out you need to see a counselor with him...
But, if you have a comfort with letting it go, then you should...it is clear that he has an issue or two...and it is far beyond you!!!!
You have things that you need to do with your life...I wouldn't suggest waiting on this man to get right before you move on...
That is a tough decision...but I would say weigh it...but if you stay....defiantly get counseling...for the marriage.....
2007-02-11 14:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HA! That's easy for HIM to say! My EX said the same thing about the similar problem about some woman he met, only where he worked in a family business. She got hired there and was after ANY guy who would buy a SOB story she crafted.
Anyway, like you, I confronted my Husband (at the time) and he straight out LIED to me, SO, in this case of yours, I wouldn't believe HIM AT ALL, from the sounds of your situation!
I hope you meet someone you can trust and have that one love you back AND with respect!
2007-02-11 23:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw him out of your life, he is not worth the drama, he might have like STD now or who knows, a bar fly? How sick everyone knows bar flies are dirty and boy they get around them dirty nasty male whores. What is wrong with him, does he think he hit the jack pot, more like he got every ones left overs! You know what to do, and that is to move on and don't even look back. My friend was going through this and it's just not worth it, she just ended up getting sick & the looser hasnt changed just goes after any woman who gives him the time of day! GOOD luck and run for your life~
2007-02-11 22:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see now, he's been seeing her since last July, calls her before she goes to work and visa versa and it's not sexual. Interesting. However you say you have left him, obviously you haven't filed for divorce yet? Why not? As for what I would beleive, why does it make a difference now? You've left him.
2007-02-11 22:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
walk away divorce him and dont look back.. there are too many people in this world to put up with that . once a cheater always a cheater maybe he will stop but you will never forgive him let him go and look ahead and do things you have always wanted to do and experience and meet people and dont get married again not for a long time and if you do make sure that this will not end the same way .this is all experience.
2007-02-12 02:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually don't really understand: You said you've left
him,so why you still have to worry, you can't trust him . .
There's no way you can have peace of mind being
with him.. You'll just gonna end up in disaster. . I'm
sorry,,
Something I learned, I will never chase someone
again, I nearly end up dead while I was chasing my ex.
I was nearly hit by a truck, when my car slipped on that
rainy day.
You can't stop them, they'll just gonna do it behind your
back . . I'm now free and live in peace.
BE SMART AND STRONG : there's a better life for you.
and you can do it. Believe in yourself, believe in what you
can do, believe that you can..
2007-02-11 22:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by JUSS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You left him and I would have hoped you would have moved one somewhat by now.
I know it's hard to move on by trust me it's not good to hold on to someone that you know was cheating, you have the right to be mad and up set. But try to let go a little each day. Your better off with out him in you live.
Good luck and keep on smiling ;-0)
2007-02-11 22:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by choiceav 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you said you've left him then just leave it at that. The point is he has already lied to you and therefore broken one of the most valued parts of marriage. I wouldn't believe him and at this point I wouldn't care. Move on...life is too short.
2007-02-11 22:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by ←Shea→ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop keeping track of his interactions with this person and move on to improve your life so you can find a good man who is worthy of your attentions and will be respectful and monogamous.
2007-02-11 22:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This answer is as clear as the nose on your face, and you know it. Of course he is having sex with this woman. Men will lie about cheating even if you catch them naked in the act.
2007-02-12 00:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mensa Head 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋