I've been intimate with the guy I'm seeing a handful of times, and it's always been good. When I went over by him today, he was friendly, flirty and complimented how I looked, but when it came time to engage in the act, he was... well... unable to. We tried several times before we just gave up and I took care of him manually. I spent the next couple hours with him watching TV and playing pool at his house, but he seemed very distant and not too talkative. Should I take it personally, or is he just embarassed? I tried to act like it was no big deal (and really, I didn't care... I still like him a lot) without dwelling on it. I want him to know that I care about him and that I care about him as a person, not just someone to have sex with.
2007-02-11 14:16:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
A completely male reaction to the act that he is suppose to be an expert at but in reality, he is just scared that he will not do it right. I was that way until I was with my wife for a year and then I finally learned to relax and enjoy sex. Most men are that way and you handled it very very well. If you really care for this guy, be patient and continue like you have and he will learn to relax and enjoy everything just like I did.
2007-02-11 14:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just embarassed. It is very frustrating for a guy to not be able to "please" a girl the "proper" way. Don't take it personally. Just if it happens again, and he seems frustrated or uptight has you're doing it in other fashions, just whisper it softly and seductively in his ear that it is okay. It is still fun. Then if he seems upset after the whole thing is over bring it up. Tell him you really care about him, and that the sex is not the most important thing. That he is important to you.
2007-02-11 14:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tifferkins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lilly Fair you are an angel! Yes, this is very disturbing to your friend - so don't take this personally.
While he may not want to talk about it, it will be best for both of you if the two of you can openly and honestly discuss this and all aspects of your relationship.
Best wishes and good luck.
2007-02-11 15:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Doctor J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a mild problem with maximum adult adult males. particularly with a clean significant different. i'm specific he became merely embarrassed. you need to to broach the problem at yet all over returned and enable him understand the way you experience. enable him understand you desire to be with him and you recognize it incredibly is not gonna be suitable each time. Heck the subsequent time it could be you that has a "problem". There must be a greater effective be conscious than problem considering that's typical, i merely can't think of of one on the 2nd. besides, enable him understand that spending time with him is what you like maximum and not purely intercourse.
2016-10-01 23:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take it personal, unfortunatly for him, its easier said then done, he's prolly just embarrassed, that as a man, he cant 'do it' but ur able too. So, just act the exact same, until he's ready to talk about it, cuz if you never get passed this, he may never be comfortable having sex period.
2007-02-11 14:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by dall4wwf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens and it is extremely hard on a man. Ego is severely damaged. I would not bring it up again:)
2007-02-11 14:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he was just embarrassed. It happens sometimes, and obviously men don't like it when it does. He will get over it.
2007-02-11 15:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes & yes! Try to be understanding and talk to him about it. It happens to all guys sometimes.
2007-02-12 03:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you are there for him no mater what. He will start to fell beter about it then he will talk to you about it when he feel comfortable about it.
2007-02-11 14:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by hitman53jb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT HAPPEN TO ALL OF US GUYS SOMETIMES
2007-02-11 16:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by sex is good thing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋