To those who think being gay is ok, let's say your raising a kid. Would you allow him or her to be gay? Is that ok with you?
2007-02-11 14:14:33 · 51 answers · asked by Z 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
would you allow your children to be left-handed?
2007-02-11 14:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well, first of all if a person doesn't have a problem with homosexuality then they probably don't have a problem with their kid being gay.
Secondly, one cannot prevent or ensure that a person is gay or not. Its not natural and its not the way life works. You are either gay or you're not and you can't simply change. A straight person doesn't wake up one morning and decide to fall in love with a person of the same gender! It doesn't work that way!
So, if a person is gay, I am gay, I would be fine with my child being gay, it wouldn't bother me in the least.
2007-02-11 14:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You can't punish gayness out of someone. So, whether or not I would allow such a thing is irrelevant.
My only concern if my child is gay would be this: Some people in this world are unkind to gay people. That makes me worry that my child would have a more difficult life. I would try to take extra pains to ensure that my child always had a firm source of support at home.
2007-02-11 14:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by inkantra 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You bet. I'm not gay, but my son is. He's a great kid. His boyfriend is a great guy also. They are good for each other, and their relationship is stronger than a lot of heterosexual couples I know.
By the way, did you know that the homophobia you are displaying is a sign of subconsciously having homosexual feelings yourself? Look it up in any psychology textbook, or, when you finally decide to go see a therapist, ask him about it.
Long Live Jambi
2007-02-11 14:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You don't just allow your child to be gay for one. Your child is born that way. It's a matter of accepting the fact that your child is gay. And yes, I would love my child just the same. I have 3 beautiful children and I would never love them any less if they said they were gay.
2007-02-11 14:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Aimee 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What about you? Your kid comes to you and says “dad I’m gay”, so what do you do? Kill him, send him back, take him to the doctor for a cure? So you’d tell your son “it’s not ok” and then what? You can’t change him, so do you just send him to his room for the next 60 years? You can’t say to him “I will not allow it” and seriously think he’s going to reply “Okay dad, I’ll go out and find a nice girlfriend” (surely you can’t be that stupid).
Could you get sexually turned on by a man and then make love to him? Your answer to that would be “no way in hell”, yet you seem to think gays can force themselves to get turned on by women. If a kid is going to be gay, then they will be gay no matter what.
2007-02-12 02:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by pissed off with abuse, goodbye! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My friend and I had this conversation a long time ago. She wants to have a gay child. To the point where she talked about "Making him gay" and them come running to me saying that he didn't want to be gay but wanted to make his mom proud. Well, personally, I feel love is love, and you shouldn't stand in the way of love.
2007-02-11 15:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa Breazeale 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well its not up to me its to my child,and I would be ok if my child was gay as long as they are happy. I would just let them no that being out as a gay person in society isnt easy and be there for them the best i can
2007-02-11 14:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by lala 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's their decision to make. You cannot tell a child to "ungay" themselve because you don't approve of it. Lash out and you will put distance between you. Accept it (even if you don't wnat to) and remain close to your child.
They know what's in store for them. They've probably already experienced it are ready for the rest of the challanges.
Be the best parent you can be.
2007-02-14 04:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since people are born gay, I certainly couldn't forbid my child from being gay. I am gay and can't speak for people that aren't, but I know how it feels and I certainly wouldn't want my child to feel that I have abandoned them or that I refuse to accept them. The reality is, we can't keep our children from being who they are, so we basically have one choice: Accept them or lose them forever. What would you choose?
2007-02-11 14:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my partner and I had been fortunate enough to have or adopt a child, then we would know some of the pitfalls that await them > Hopefully we could raise them in a loving family and guide them to be good people.
Rose P.
2007-02-11 15:11:07 · answer #11 · answered by rose p 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋