this guy and i have been going out for almost two years and we love each other to death. im almost positive i want to marry this guy and he feels the same way, but my mom keeps pushing me to get out of that relationship just because he has hurt me emotionally before, (more then a few times) i love him, but i don't know if im in love with him. what makes things worse is im only 16 almost 17. i know thats young but i really do think im in love.....help!
2007-02-11 14:10:18 · 7 answers · asked by puppy8090 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a good chance that you honestly do love him; that this is not puppy love. BUT based on your age and his prior behavior I will say you two are not mature enough for marriage. Being in an adult relationship is not suppose to be emotionally abusive, nor should it be tolerated. If you truly feel this man is the "ONE" wait it out a few years. Say....oh....your 2-3 year of college. Between the ages of 16 and 20/21 there is a TON of personal growth and understanding.
Some parents can be overprotective. But take an honest and 3rd party view of what your mother is trying to tell you. Does she have legitimate points of argument against your BF? If she does, those issues must be addressed and reconciled between you and your BF before marriage.
2007-02-11 14:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is first Love is Love no matter how old you are. Puppy love is a just a phrase and there is no one on this earth who doesn't remember there first love and I bet they would all say that it was LOVE at least at the time it was. I got married when I was 16 years old to a boy I knew since I was 12 years old my parents said and did the same thing to me as your parents are doing to you, but I have to admit they were right what I felt for him was LOVE but not the True love. It took me a long time to finally figure out that I did not love him I was in love with the word LOVE.
"I love him, but I don't know if I'm in Love with him," these are your words and they mean YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM. You are in Love with the word Love. For if you were truly in love with him those words would have never entered your mind or heart.
Now for this emotional hurt that he has caused you I would have to say to hear your parents with your brain and ears not with your heart for there is an old saying that says LOVE IS BOTH BLIND AND DEAF. And from the little I've read it sounds as if you are leading your young life with your heart which is not always good. This is why GOD gave us all a brain, eyes, and ears, so that we could see, listen and decipher situations in life. The heart well is just beats, lol.
Think of the life you want, where you want to go what you want to do, what you want to learn etc. Life is such a joy, you have so much yet to learn, there are so many decisions yet to be made, before you take on the responsibility of love.
You should expience life first as friends and see where GOD leads the both of you. Prayer is always good. Go enjoy life's expiences first and if this love you feel for your young man is true (and he still feels it too) than no matter what you two will be togther but later so much later. Go have a good conversation with your parents and remember to listen with your ears, and brains not with your heart.
good luck
2007-02-11 15:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 17 you will probably be in love at least two more times before its all said and done. real love doesn't hurt ("more than a few time")
2007-02-11 14:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is okay, but you must consider that you need space to feel life and establish your own Independence before making such a commitment
2007-02-11 14:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to marry this guy to begin with. You need to slow things way down hun and grow up first. Your mom is right to tell you to break it off with this guy since he is emotionally and mentally abusive to you. You can do much better in your life and wait until you are at least 18 please to start dating.
2007-02-11 14:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, if your 17 ----- it's puppy love. Secondly, if he has hurt you several times already, he doesn't love you.
Listen to your mom, she loves you and wants to save you a little heartache!
2007-02-11 14:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you to should take a break and see if he come after you in a few mouths.
2007-02-11 14:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋