How hard is it to please a mother in law? She is filipina and very picky about cleaning...?? My apt. is pretty clean but i'm a busy girl and its not perfect. I am trying to get it as spotless as I can before she sees it but dont know if I can possibly please her or not?? What do mother in laws look for in their daughter in law's house? I dont have bugs or anything but I sometimes let the dishes get stacked up and dirty clothes in the bathroom.
2007-02-11 14:03:16 · 11 answers · asked by o 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Other - Home & Garden
you're right, the reason the kitchen and bathroom are the worst is because they are so tiny!! It gets crowded fast and looks messy all the time just because its so tiny!
2007-02-11 14:35:44 · update #1
Thanks for the bit about the candles. I love them too
2007-02-11 14:36:19 · update #2
It's hard to know what level of cleanliness different people like. But it's always polite when you are having company to give your home space a basic cleaning beforehand. For example, a home should be basically vaccumed and dusted, no dishes in the sink, no clothes on the floor when you are expecting company. Things put away where they belong and a minimal of clutter showing. That would show respect for any guest, including your future mother-in-law. And I would expect the guest, future mother-in-law or anyone, to show me respect. A good guest is not going to criticize your home making techniques, realizing this is your house, not hers. Don't go crazy with anything more than basic hygienic cleaning. If you do you are setting a standard for her visits that you may not always have the energy to come up to during future visits.
2007-02-11 14:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure space is a big problem for you judging by the way you say dishes stacked and dirty clothes in the batroom.. What I would do if I were you is make sure you know when she is comming, then prior to the date of arrival wash all dishes and place your dirty clothes perhaps in a bedroom closet.. (just for the time being) Get rid of all your clutter and most important arrange and light scented candles throughout your place. As a mother I believe that when I walk into a room with the candles pre-lit just makes me feel so welcome.
That's my thoughts as a mother of adult children.
2007-02-11 14:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by mygirlfriday2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could hire a cleaning service to give it the once over, to be sure you haven't missed anything. And make sure you have no pile ups anywhere. Or just do your best, because if you do marry into the family, you'll have to deal with this situation again and again. To a certain extent, I wish mother-in-laws would hold back, as most of us, do care to have a nice place, clean and all, so unless you're auditioning to keep house for the Pope, I'd say you can only do what you can do! If it's not clean enough for her, ask her to pitch in!
2007-02-11 14:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the dirty cloths in the bathroom.get a basket to drop them into ,if you don't have room for one in the bathroom ,just outside the door would do.it takes no more than 5 minutes to clean up the dishes in the sink .just keep the kitchen and toilet clean ,thats the most inportant rooms to keep clean. a cloth on the broom will wipe up any cobwebs on the wall once in a while
2007-02-11 14:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by masie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your kids the focus. Not that you're not thinking of them, but your life decisions are being complicated by others. When you weed through the all the other people's issues, the bottom line is how you see yourself being the best mom/woman you can and where you want to do it. Forgot about whether or not you're making him choose, you make a decision based soley on the kids, and everything else will fall into place.
2016-05-23 23:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how well you clean something, someone can and will find fault, since they see things differently than you do. When she comes over, try to have dishes and clothes picked up. As long as it is tidy that should suffice, you want her to like you not for how well you keep your apartment, but how well you treat her son. Just be you, relax and enjoy your visit with her
2007-02-11 15:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to leave it alone. If you try to keep up with her standards you'll end up driving yourself crazy. If you and your fiance are comfortable, then she's just going to have to live with it. If she makes an issue of it explain that your time is better spend working, spending quality time with her son, cooking, etc. than trying to keep everything perfect. Whatever you do, do not demean her cleaning standards, skills or routine, this will only cause misery. You can even consider asking her for advice about cleaning. This approach worked for me (Jewish mother-in-law)
2007-02-11 14:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are not good enough for her little boy. Repeat that! Now, the important thing is to make her think you are willing to change. Straighten up your house, but don't clean it very well. After you have met her, confide in her that you don't know how to clean and you would love for her to show you. When she announces other faults of yours, acknowledge them and apologize. The secrete here is to show her you are NOT a threat to her. That you want to love her BABY and take care of him. Good Luck!
2007-02-11 14:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by T C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just clean it to your liking and leave te rest to fate. Simple as this if you plan to spend the rest of your life with her son, do you constantly want to have to keep up the i am a perfect housekeeper act?? Surely you'd exhaust yourself. If you don;t fulfill to her specs your not marrying her anyway so she will just have to like or not like and deal with it.
2007-02-11 14:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by jmcbuild4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire someone to do a through cleaning right before she comes, then she'll probably take over after that anyways...
2007-02-11 14:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by christina9202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋