I have recently discovered that my 14 year old daughter has been viewing pornography. (she forgot to empty the recycling bin!)
I have not said anything about this yet to her. I have been reading some of the other Answers on here trying to get a sence of how people feel about this.
It seams like 99% of everyone on here agrees that teen masturbation is completely normal and healthy. But people seam to disagree on pornography....
I started watching porn when i was young too and i feel i turned out "all right", but did I just get lucky? Should I prevent her from watching porn?
2007-02-11 13:47:56 · 21 answers · asked by Yahoo! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't talk to her about it. Masterbation is healthy and there is no risk of infections or pregnancy. You don't want you daughter to get embarressed about it and think it is bad.
Just make sure the porn she is watching is not illegal, and not going to get her into trouble.
As long as she knows that masterbation is only acceptable in a private place, then don't worry.
She seems to be a smart kid, choosing masterbation over the real thing =]
2007-02-11 14:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by ★☆✿❀ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Look, he thinks porn is ok, and you do not. He hides it because you do not think it is ok. You are going to have to compromise. This may mean you need to quit snooping, quit suspecting, and thicken your skin a bit with regards to the subject. Likewise, he is going to have to quit sneaking porn, quit viewing it as much, and be a little more sensitive to your needs. It's time for a frank conversation. Give each other 10 minutes to talk about your needs without interruption....with the knowledge that you aren't going to get EXACTLY what you want out of the conversation. Think hard about some compromises that you can live with - and focus on yourself and your part of the compromise rather than his part - hopefully he will do the same. Maybe he can watch porn sometimes - and long as you are there with him - who knows - maybe it'll spice up your sex life a bit, and he won't feel that he needs to watch it as much. Compromise means neither of you get everything you want. Even though this feels like a marriage wrecker for you, it doesn't need to be. Good luck.
2016-05-23 23:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to give her the sex talk NOW if you haven't already done so. I would NOT bring up the porn to her. She should be told all about stds and babies ect. She could be just masturbating to it or she could be trying to find out what to do in real life. Also as long as you don't give her the porn its not illegal for her to see it. If you start giving it to her then it would be a legal issue for you.
So you should:
Talk to her about sex, STDs, babies, why she should and shouldn't have sex ect. Don't let her pass on it or say I know mom about everything you say.
You should not:
You should not stop her from viewing it.
You should not bring it up.
You should not try and bust her in anyway.
2007-02-12 06:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by pws8us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out this site! http://www.safekids.com/looking_porn.htm
I personally think at that age she shouldn't be looking at it. I mean she might be totally innocent, just seeing what everyone else is talking about or she could be getting ideas on how to have sex.
"Approximately One Million teens become pregnant each year in the United States."
http://www.teenshelter.org/data.htm
"Revving the search engine
In a survey, 60% of American teens looking for sexual health info used a search engine (like Google or Yahoo!) to find the information they were looking for. To find what you want using a search engine, you have to use the right keywords. For example - if you just type "teen sex" into the search box, you'll probably notice that there're a lot of websites about 'teen sex' that don't give any advice at all - and, unless you're looking for pornography, they won't be any help to you. Try using different words, as well as teen or sex - words like advice, help, or information."
If she is looking at porn and you are okay with it, don't forget to tell her about sex. Let her know that porn is nothing like how sex should be between two people.
"Remember - porn only shows sexual images, and there's much more to sex than this. Sex is also about feelings and relationships, and pornography doesn't show that. It also doesn't show important parts of sex - like how to protect against pregnancy or STDs."
"In some parts of the world, there are age limits on looking at porn - make sure you're over the legal age. The laws about what is illegal are different in different countries - don't assume that it's legal just because you can look at it. Pornography involving children or animals is illegal in most countries. In many countries, if you are under the age of consent, it may be illegal for you to view all pornography - whatever type, pictures, films or written."
http://www.avert.org/teens-sex-internet.htm
Good luck!
2007-02-11 14:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm 14 and I have never gone to a sight to watch porn but some kids need to they think it is cool . But also they want to learn more about sex and things.
I urge you dont try to tell them about it but if you notice it going to far put your foot down!
2007-02-15 09:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by robeangirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine. masterbation is normal and healthy. and if she uses porn to help her with it then all the power to her. its her choice. don't confont her though it may make her very embarrassed n she will try to hide everything from you. would you rather he b at home masterbating to porn or out having sex? i think the answere is easy here. maybe she was just curious to learn about sex and searched porn. it's possible. just give her, her space and let it be.
2007-02-11 15:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Samski 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14 going on 15 never watched porn. but I find nothing wrong with it. Talk to her tell her it's ok you don't have a problem with it. and teach her how to respect another persons body. not just to see them as an image.
2007-02-11 19:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont really see anything wrong with it as long as it doesnt make her want to become a porn star. I mean at least when she does it she'll know how to do it right.
2007-02-11 17:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'fd mention the porn to her. Tell her what message it sends about women and sexual relationships. Tell her that sex is really pretty different from that - because it relates to love and self-respect and not 'performance.'
2007-02-14 12:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally normal. some talk about it at school. all the people that say they dont. ok not all but alot of people that say they dont watch porn do.
(on a lighter note)
teach your daughter to cover her tracks better. lol :P
2007-02-14 14:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by sambucca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋