he took his wedding band off..and said he would but it back on when he thought things were better..it's been 2 months...but he still says he does not know what will happen in a few months from now..he is still living with his mom and dad and stops at the house every day to see the kids and get his mail. If he is not coming home wouldnt he of changed his address and taken all of his things? and yes he is still paying 90% of the bills, but also takes my check every other week....
2007-02-11 13:41:29 · 16 answers · asked by hurtalloveragainks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didnt do anything..he had words with my son..his step son it got out of hand..well lets just say they hit each other, and he said things need to change here, and it's not him who needs to change. We have been changing making things better here and he keeps saying it has not changed enough and its not that easy. And he is not trying to change.
2007-02-11 15:14:44 · update #1
let him go...you've been waiting for him to make a decision about your relationship??? meanwhile a thing called life continues, so file your paperwork and tell him to put someone else's life on hold, because you're not going to put up w/ it anymore. good luck
2007-02-11 13:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by schnazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it has been 2 months now it is time for you to tell him this
"Ok the for better or for worse phase is up. Since you don't wear your ring; you aren't living with us as a family and are still living with your parents after 2 months; are you wanting a divorce because living in limbo like this is not healthy for me or the kids. You can't have you cake and eat it too. So, you either get your butt back in the home with us and act like a respectable husband and father or we file for divorce and I will take half of what you own and earn and you become a part time Daddy and see the kids every other weekend and maybe one night a week. Which is it?"
Maybe you are scared to ask this question to him but it is something you need to find out so you can move on with your life either way. Good luck.
2007-02-11 15:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why did he take off his wedding ring? are you'll having marriage problems? if so go to seek a marriage counselor with him if he agrees their is a marriage worth saving OK. does he love you still? does he show any kind of signs that is is cheating on you? if he is still paying have of the bills or you said 90% of the bills and still takes your check every other week then maybe he is just needing time away from you for awhile to think about things OK. give him time OK if he still loves you then you have a chance with him OK. if he didn't change his address yet then maybe you both have a chance to save your marriage and work things out with each other and also if his things are there in the house then he isn't going to file for a divorce yet or if he was i believe he would tell you am i right?> as long as he stops by and sees the kids every day and gets his mail i believe you and him have a chance together still OK. give him time OK he will come around if he still loves you PS what is he taking your check from you every other week still? do you have to pay child support payments? to him? tell him either he comes home or your both thru OK seek help go to a marriage counselor together OK. tell him no more of your checks untill he comes home OK if he still Love's you tell him that you both need to sit down and talk to try to resolve your marriage
2007-02-11 13:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real
why are you letting this man have your check, if he is than he is not paying 90% of the bills,
what is doing is insure that he has his cake an eat too, this man is having all his freedom why he is keeping you tie to him
1- no more giving your checks
2_either he come home or he moves out
yes he has the right to see his children and also he does need to continue paying the bills but that will be done without your checks at the moment your check can be taken care of an other woman
2007-02-11 13:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is keeping it off because he does not want the marriage or you either. Do not let him take your check. You keep your check and let him work and make his own money since he is not living with you right now. Seems to me he is just using you for the money and the sex if you are giving him any. Have you both been to marriage counseling yet? Seek counseling and help for you and for the marriage and if he refuses to get the help with you then you need to file for divorce. Why are things so bad here? Why are the two of you seperated? You really need to stop being a doormat her hon and start putting your foot down with him. Why dont you take your wedding ring off til he puts his back on. This may make him think twice about what he is doing and what is going on.
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2007-02-11 13:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good sign. He is getting used to the marriage taking this turn in a different direction. If you don't get some counseling or take some action now, it will not get better. I would consult an attorney before he drops a bomb on you, just to be prepared. It doesn't mean you are giving up - only that you are being prepared. Shame on his parents for allowing him to behave this way. They need to tell him "son, go back to your wife and kids and work this out - be a man already". No good parents would encourage their kid to stay with them when they are having marital problems. That only makes things worse. If you divorce and he wants to stay with his parents, then that's a different story. Until then, he needs to get his butt back home and work on repairing your marriage. Good luck!
2007-02-11 13:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are just the way he wants them. He is at home with his parents, free to come and go as he pleases, (with no ring on), he has you at home with the kids, apparently broke, because he takes your check every other week. If I were you, I would think very seriously about what you are getting out of this arrangement, if anything.
2007-02-11 13:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like to me your dealing with a pimp. i kinda like your dude i want to be like him when i grow up. how could u let him take your check every week. check his mail. chill with the kids then bounce on u. u need to change the lock and sort out his mail so he don't have to come in the house. and when he want to visit his kids tell him u will drop the kids off at his parents house. I'm give u too much game. real talk i think your to slow to keep up. just let your ex run all over u until he get tired HOLLA
2007-02-11 13:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me that he wants to be single man : no ring, living with mom and dad, sees the kids with its convenient for him and picks up his mail and also has an extra income YOURS! Cut this guy lose you don't really have a marriage anyway. Go visit a attorney and file the divorce papers
2007-02-11 13:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a change of address and stop giving him your check. Tell him you're not waiting around forever while he makes up his mind and he better come up with answer real soon.
2007-02-11 13:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him your check for starters. Don't make yourself so available to him either. Show him that you are going to go on with your life and not wait on him to make up his mind, and you aren't so sure that you want him back. I'm not saying do anyting like cheating, keep good morals, just don't leave it all up to him. You have a say in this too. You have pride and respect, don't be a doormat.
2007-02-11 13:47:38 · answer #11 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋