8 stages of acceptance?

Question

what are they?

Answer 1

I remember reading it a long time ago, so I cannot exactly remember|

But I think they are shock, depression, denial, barganing, and finally acceptance (I know that is not eight)|


But there is a very very good end to this story|

There is something beyond acceptance where you simply consent to live in a reduced state|

That is renewal on a whole different level.


What happens there is that you are totally reintegrated and restored, and actually come to a much higher level than before your loss|

It is from the wisdom and perspective gained|


We have to know that God wants us to be truly happy and fulfilled, so he will allow a good person to suffer a great set-back or even be the victim of a great injustice| This is done to purify the person and educate him or her with only that education that can come from trial. Then we come into what is really meant for us, which we then see is the best thing possible|




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Answer 2

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my problems, I could not stay happy; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

Spirituality has a big play in it(being the best person you can be)(far different than religion)
Thats a short term answer for now (Terrence Gorski has 8 steps i think thats who you might be referring to when you say the 8 steps so i will research and will get back or you can always email me [e-mail])

Answer 3

Why Me ?

What did I do to deserve this? How many times have you heard yourself say this? This stage may appear as a period of depression or it may linger on with unexplained bouts of crying.

Frustration And Depression

Constant minor problems that disappear and reappear often cause feelings to fluctuate between "is this all in my head", to the reality that the "minor" problems are having a serious effect upon being able to function. There is a sense on "losing control" of mental and physical functions when the patient is unable to go out socially. Chronic fatigue may be a cause as well as an effect of depression. Stress is complicated by e forts to perform all duties and appear normal for fear of being labeled a "neurotic" or a "hypochondriac".

Hopelessness

Inability to cope with daily tasks or mental confusion can have a demoralizing effect. Feelings such as "why should I bother to try" occur when something doesn't work the way it is supposed to. For example; fatigue doesn't improve with sleep. By refusing to accept their limits and make changes, the person may accept defeat and admit failure.

Impatience

Tolerance for accepting physical limitations of the actions of others may increase or decrease; tempers may flare. During symptom-free periods a person may feel an urgency to "catch up" on everything they haven't been able to do and put things in order "in case something happens". Over-exertion required to do this will only complicate the health problems.

Fear and Panic

Fear of the unknown is a natural phenomenon that must be dealt with on an individual basis. Fear may be exaggerated by the fact that the person is a frequent user of medical or social services which carries a social stigma in a society which values personal freedom and independence. Because so many
health problems or treatments do not guarantee normal functioning ability, feelings of being a guinea pig may develop. Personal doubt about one's mental and physical abilities can add to the fear that others can't possibly believe or understand what you're going through. Fear can build and cause a panic reaction. For example; a person who has suffered chest pains which are not related to a heart attack may suddenly have chest pain that causes them to panic and feel that "this is it", that this time it must be a heart attack. This stress can prolong the spasms, which increases the belief that the heart is involved and it's being hidden from them.

Over or Under Reaction

The response to physical health or the interaction with others is constantly subject to over or under reaction which sometimes makes a person feel that they are unstable. A person may refuse to help by hiding physical distress and trying to perform "normally" or they may expect that everything be done for them. Alienation may develop between family members because "body language" and the spoken word may differ. Fear, needs or complaints may either over or under emphasized.

Acceptance

This is the most difficult stage. Family and friends is based on the interaction of personalities as well as personality changes, which temporarily alter the individual. A patient having difficulty adjusting must also come to terms with the adjustments, problems and fears of the family members. Feelings of resentment, guilt, bewilderment or disbelief can affect others as they are encountering the various stages from a different perspective. For example; a person may de-emphasize physical complaints because a family gives the illusion of disbelief or because they previously over or under-reacted and became over-protective or depressed. Often, problems are caused by family members trying to protect themselves as well as the supposed feelings or reactions of others. How often have you said "well, I can't do this or that because so and so will get upset"?

Answer 4

The Seven Stages of Acceptance


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By

Linda Laverty


Dealing with a chronic health problem can have a traumatic effect on an individual and the family structure. The reaction to a diagnosis varies with individuals. These reactions can be grouped into seven generalized categories after a diagnosis is made. They are:

Why me? Frustration or depression. Hopelessness. Impatience. Fear or panic. Over or under-reaction. Acceptance.

The Initial Diagnosis

Most people are frustrated or depressed when they are waiting for a diagnosis. This is often temporarily relieved when a diagnosis is made. Some people experience a feeling of "euphoria" at this time because their illness finally has a name. The problem is recognized and medical staff display interest. This is usually short lived when it becomes apparent that there is no immediate cure. When problems reoccur even in a minor form, pre-diagnosis depression may return. The effect or impact may be worse at this time because the diagnosis can't prevent a reoccurring illness from happening and the impact this has on the individual or family. The patient is expected to accept the diagnosis, its impact, and make changes at a time when one is least able to cope. Time is often the only cure but families and individuals should recognize that changes will occur with any illness of unknown duration.

Recognition of the various stages will help the patient and family to deal with the complex physical, psychological and social manifestations of the situation. The order in which the stages are encountered will be different with each person as well as the degree of impact. Professional help should be sought in any situation which is beyond immediate control or exists for a long period of time. It must be remembered that stages may occur at the same time and that all or any one of the stages may reoccur. A reoccurrence is generally less severe because you have already experienced it, and survived. Family cooperation, support and understanding are essential to every success story.

Why Me ?

What did I do to deserve this? How many times have you heard yourself say this? This stage may appear as a period of depression or it may linger on with unexplained bouts of crying.

Frustration And Depression

Constant minor problems that disappear and reappear often cause feelings to fluctuate between "is this all in my head", to the reality that the "minor" problems are having a serious effect upon being able to function. There is a sense on "losing control" of mental and physical functions when the patient is unable to go out socially. Chronic fatigue may be a cause as well as an effect of depression. Stress is complicated by e forts to perform all duties and appear normal for fear of being labeled a "neurotic" or a "hypochondriac".

Hopelessness

Inability to cope with daily tasks or mental confusion can have a demoralizing effect. Feelings such as "why should I bother to try" occur when something doesn't work the way it is supposed to. For example; fatigue doesn't improve with sleep. By refusing to accept their limits and make changes, the person may accept defeat and admit failure.

Impatience

Tolerance for accepting physical limitations of the actions of others may increase or decrease; tempers may flare. During symptom-free periods a person may feel an urgency to "catch up" on everything they haven't been able to do and put things in order "in case something happens". Over-exertion required to do this will only complicate the health problems.

Fear and Panic

Fear of the unknown is a natural phenomenon that must be dealt with on an individual basis. Fear may be exaggerated by the fact that the person is a frequent user of medical or social services which carries a social stigma in a society which values personal freedom and independence. Because so many
health problems or treatments do not guarantee normal functioning ability, feelings of being a guinea pig may develop. Personal doubt about one's mental and physical abilities can add to the fear that others can't possibly believe or understand what you're going through. Fear can build and cause a panic reaction. For example; a person who has suffered chest pains which are not related to a heart attack may suddenly have chest pain that causes them to panic and feel that "this is it", that this time it must be a heart attack. This stress can prolong the spasms, which increases the belief that the heart is involved and it's being hidden from them.

Over or Under Reaction

The response to physical health or the interaction with others is constantly subject to over or under reaction which sometimes makes a person feel that they are unstable. A person may refuse to help by hiding physical distress and trying to perform "normally" or they may expect that everything be done for them. Alienation may develop between family members because "body language" and the spoken word may differ. Fear, needs or complaints may either over or under emphasized.

Acceptance

This is the most difficult stage. Family and friends is based on the interaction of personalities as well as personality changes, which temporarily alter the individual. A patient having difficulty adjusting must also come to terms with the adjustments, problems and fears of the family members. Feelings of resentment, guilt, bewilderment or disbelief can affect others as they are encountering the various stages from a different perspective. For example; a person may de-emphasize physical complaints because a family gives the illusion of disbelief or because they previously over or under-reacted and became over-protective or depressed. Often, problems are caused by family members trying to protect themselves as well as the supposed feelings or reactions of others. How often have you said "well, I can't do this or that because so and so will get upset"?

How to Deal with the Stages

Patients experiencing these stages should write down the things that bother them the most. They should keep a record of questions they want answers to and then present them at the next medical appointment. This is an important step which can relieve fears. Answers should be written down to avoid confusion when relating information to the family.

Ask your family doctor to arrange an explanation period with family members. Often a spouse only knows what is related by the patient, which may be "slanted" in the retelling. Also, a spouse may feel "left out" or have questions which would receive a more complete answer when it is known that the family is co-operative.

Discuss problems and fears with family members and try to make decisions which compromise. Try to consider how the others feel. Listen to what others say because they may "see" a solution which you didn't or hadn't thought of.

The way you discuss a problem is very important. Avoid verbal abuse questions or answers that begin with; "you always" , "you paid" , "don't tell me" , "I don't care what" If you have a different opinion, than state it honestly with an explanation. Tone of voice or body language will often contradict the spoken word. Never resort to the techniques you use to start or win an argument. If you do, you may win the battle but lose the war. Remember that many problems are compounded when selfishness overrules reason.

Answer 5

are you certain you don't mean the 5 stages of grief?

Answer 6

Nice way to get your homework done for you.