HE WAS VERY ABUSING TO ME, INFRONT OF OUR 3 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER! HE JUST GOT OUT OF PRISON DEC. 6th AND HE IS BACK IN JAIL AGAIN HE IS NO LONGER APART OF MY LIFE, BUT HIS NEW G/F WANTS TO BECOME FRINDS SO SHE CAN TAKE MY DAUGHTER TO SEE HIM!! HE HAS NEVER BEEN THERE FOR HER AND SHE THINKS MY FIANCE IS HER DADDY!! MY FIANCE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR BOTH OF US NO MATTER WHAT,AND HER REAL DAD HASN'T, HE HAS NO RIGHT'S AT ALL RIGHT NOW!! BUT HIS G/F SEEMS TO B OK..NOT SURE REALLY I TALKED TO HER FOR A FEW ON THE PHONE!! ANYWAYS WHAT SHOULD I DO??
2007-02-11 13:25:07 · 14 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really don't know her don't let her take your child to see their father, its a nice gesture,but i wouldn't. It seems to me that your childs dad did not want nothing to do with her. so forget it. you don't need that type of abuse for you or your child. and I am glad that you found a wonderful guy. If your ex does not want anything to do with his child and once you and your fiance is married, maybe he can adopt her. good luck.
2007-02-11 13:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your job as a mother is to protect your child at all costs. Do not let this woman take your daughter anywhere! If she is dating someone who is abusive and in jail, then who knows what she would do for him? Kidnap your daughter, help fill her head with craziness. Don't do it, when he gets out let him go through the court system to get visitation. If he really wants to see her then he will do the right thing.
2007-02-11 21:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to give your daughter a stable family,don't traumatize the little girl by exposing her to who knows what, do not trust your daughter to a stranger and certainly not to your ex..When she gets older ( 8 ) you can explain things to her, but for now stay away from those 2 people.
2007-02-11 21:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not let your child go with anyone who you have only talk on the phone with anyway never less to a prison camp to see some man who do not know her anyway that's how i think about it. Pray to God before you to anything.
2007-02-11 21:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Darlene a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first priority has to be your daughter. If he was abusive to you, eventually he will be abusive to the new GF and even your daughter. If he has no rights to your child, then by no means should you let her go to JAIL to visit someone she doesn't even know.
2007-02-11 21:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lynsey T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell his girlfriend that you all have your own life to live and if she wants to have a relationship with him then that is fine but your daughter needs to be in a more stable environment at this time. You are going to be friends with your ex-husband's new girlfriend? Don't even think it.
2007-02-11 21:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Michael C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what is best for you and your child and that is to have nothing to do with your ex or his girlfriend. Get rid of the drama. Sounds like what you have now is good, why bring this junk into it?
2007-02-11 21:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Rev. Lynn D. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is you and your childs life and none of these other people count. Try to distance yourself from these people for the good of yourself and your daughter.
2007-02-11 21:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Erica S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO IS ALLOW THIS WOMAN TO TAKE YOUR CHILD ANYWHERE... MUCH LESS IF HE IS A DEAD BEAT DAD... WHEN HE GET OUT IF HE PAYS CHILD SUPPORT.. GO TO COURT WITH A LAWYER AND STATE THAT YOU ARE AFFRAID OF HIM BECAUSE HE WAS ABUSIVE AND THE VISITATIONS SHOULD BE SUPERVISED.. PLEASE DO NOT RISK YOUR DAUGTHERS SAFETY... HIS GIRLFRIEND TAKING THE BABY TO SEE HIM IS A NO NO.. YOU TELL HER ALTHOUGH YOU APPRECIATE HER GESTURE YOU ARE NOT THE TYPE OF MOTHER TO LET YOUR BABY GO ANYWHERE WITH OUT YOU.. AND THE ANSWER TO HER REQUEST IS NO. GOOD LUCK.
2007-02-11 21:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you really want a 3 yr old visiting her father in jail? and if you do, why don't you be the one to take her, not a g/f.
2007-02-11 21:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by schnazzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋