I seen this happen all the time with my guy friends and co-workers and many other guy that I have known, the work so hard to get a girls # and than getting a date and getting her to fall in love but all of a sudden the just give up.. while they say I still love her... if guys are scared of commitment don't you know the girls are too, and but why can't the take it slow and let things fall naturally
basically my question is why do so many guys give up on love so easy?
2007-02-11 13:24:46 · 7 answers · asked by Holy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Lets say I am trying my darndest but not to many out there and plus we all got some sort of a hang-ups. What has happen to things and courting a woman or a guy? Lets say I feel that I am in the same boat
2007-02-11 13:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I obviously can't speak for a whole group of people but I can say that I've been guilty of this more than once..... Turns out sometimes that I was more into the chase of a particular girl than I was into actually BEING with that girl. That's not to say that I had those intentions going into it. The time(s) I've been that way, I really did think I liked the girl. But, once I got her, something just changed. Plus, to be fair, in both cases that I've done this, once the chase part was over, neither girl acted anything like they did when we first started out. Hope that helps.
2007-02-11 21:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the COMMITMENT that men are afraid of, its the loss of FREEDOM that bothers most of us. And I don't mean sexual freedom. I'm talking about the freedom of being able to do what you want whenever you want to do it. I think the answer to your question can best be answered by the married men who know the difference between being single and being married. Single men don't really know the other side yet.
I think most men would probably agree with me when I say that men do not want to change. We want to go hunting, fishing, bowling, golfing, hanging with the buddies, drinking, or whatever a person is into without having to always go with the girl in our lives. That doesn't mean we don't love her just as much as she loves us, it means we want to be ourselves.
Most married women I know, do not associate with as many friends as the man does. Somehow women believe we have to do everything together all the time. Men still want to do things they did when they were single without having a woman to tell them not to do it or give them the guilt trip over it. Thats the FREEDOM men want to hang onto. Every single man will attest that a married man has told them not to get married because life as they know it will end. That speaks for itself.
2007-02-11 21:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by eiplanner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear this is a question i have asked many a times myself.
The answer is insecurity and the fear of being hurt and the fear of losing the myth of freedom.
The other is we dont listen to women which i wish we could because that could solve atleast the problems between the 2 sexes.
Well your question is an answer to my question And when i marry i will take my womans body after i have taken her mind and heart and that means take it slow and you will be rewarded.
2007-02-12 02:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women just make it to easy for them , just wait it out but let him know you are interested and waiting on him to call but be a little hard and ma by the natural love will come flowing down, good luck
2007-02-11 21:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by JT B ford man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they don't want to get hurt. i mean nobody does, but guys aren't supposed to show their hurt..it's just not the "macho-manly" thing to do. course the world would be better off if it was ok, but we haven't evolved that far
2007-02-11 21:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by conx-the-dots 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NFL
2007-02-11 21:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋