Regarding marriage...Do you think marriage will last longer if you marry in church vs. being married by a justice of the peace? Thanx for the answer...just settling a bet.
2007-02-11 13:20:45 · 44 answers · asked by rosey 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think its WHO you marry...My first was in a church 7 years and she left me with two little girls. I was single for 5years and remarried this past Aug 1st. at the court house..we both just had our mothers with us and the girls.To me it was less stressful. by the way my wife now has been more of a mother to the girls than there real mom...
2007-02-11 13:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by mjnjtfox 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless your bet is "how many people think one way and how many think the other" I don't see how YA can settle it -- you're just getting a bunch of opinions. You need a research study. I've looked briefly and haven't found one that measures this variable, but there probably is one -- check with your local librarian.
IMHO, the main determinant is the intention of permanance, regardless of where and before whom the vows are pronounced. Couples who leave the door open too wide find it too easy to escape when things get hard. Church weddings may have a couple of advantages in this regard: they often require some advanced counseling and (if the couple continues to attend church) the church community can be supportive.
2007-02-11 13:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is only going to be a difference if the couple are believers in God.
if they both believe in God and are not part of some so called church that is really just a place of political PC policies such as the united church of Canada then the marriage has a much better chance of making it . this is because people that read the bible themselves can see it clearly states there is only one grounds for divorce and that is adultery. it also states remarriage is not allowed but that some women who are left by the husband may need to re marry and that when that happens its the husbands fault . further more it states it is a sin to marry a divorced person plain and simple . you don't have to be a scholar to understand this as its plain as day in the bible.
2007-02-11 13:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think where you get married is a determinant to how long you will stay married. People get married at both places and end up in divorce or staying together. It's the work put into the marriage by both parties, such as communication, honesty and openness that determines the a lasting marriage.
2007-02-11 13:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter. I was married by the justice of the peace when I was 18 and I've been married 20 years. My mother had the big church wedding thing and divorced my dad 18 years later.
2007-02-11 13:23:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lynnemarie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL I know plenty of marriages that have failed and they were married in a church! My parents were married by a justice of the peace and they have been married for over 20 yrs! The same JP who performed my parents ceremony also married my husband and I 20 yrs later! We have been married 5 yrs.
2007-02-11 13:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Booh♥ ☺☺☺☺☺ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think WHERE and HOW you get married makes no difference.
The difference is in how seriously the participants take their vows.
A church or a justice of the peace have nothing to do with that.
I do know this....my husband and I married nearly 15 years ago. Since I was raised Catholic, we got married in the church and they made us go to an "Engaged Encounter" before we got married. There were 11 other couples. All of them, except hubby and myself have been divorced since then...some are remarried (and divorced again).....come to think of it....all the people I know who had a church wedding didn't make it.....the only friends I have who stayed married other than myself and hubby got married at Cupid's Chapel Of Love in Reno....so that is 50% for church and 50% for non church.
Frankly, I think the question is moot....it is the heart of the participants, not where they marry, in my opinion.
But that's just me......
2007-02-11 13:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either or as long as you are married in your heart.We have been married for 39 years and there has been good and bad times but what makes a marriage last is never give up never surrender.Talk and listen those are key to any lasting relationship.Commitment by both.
2007-02-11 13:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by flossie mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters where you are married. If a marriage is meant to last forever it will and it you work at it you can sometimes make it work. I was married in a small wedding chapel later we did have our marriage blessed in our church. We've been together for quite a while.
2007-02-11 13:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by Marenight 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some say if you put your faith first in the marriage then the church wedding would be more signifiocant,however I don;t believe the place matters at all.the commitment to each other must be real for it to weather all the storms,and there Will be some..just wondering how you'll settle that bet? lol...I know of many church weddings that fell by the wayside,and I know common law who have been together for many years.so I don't really know the stats on the question.I know more...who are unhappily married.than ..happy........
2007-02-11 13:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by shasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It makes no difference where you are married. What matters is how devoted you both are to each other. Marriage is a two way street, give and take. What matters is that you stay together through both the good times and bad times, and love each other.
2007-02-11 13:31:37 · answer #11 · answered by Starscape 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋