I had this really good friend, or so I thought I did. I talked to him about a few things he had done in the past that I was hurt by and that I didn't think I deserved to be treated in such a way, and what do I get in return? I had my words twisted and exaggerated, accused of all sorts of things, like not wanting to be friends anymore, blamed for his perceptions of what I said, told I should have written it out better,verbally abused, and told what I had said was "garbage" and "rediculous" and " soo stupid. He refuses to apologize and hasn't, yet.
I don't believe I did anything wrong. In fact, I believe I was within my right to take a stand.
What would cause someone to flip out like that? He truely was the nicest person up until that point..I dont know what went wrong...
2007-02-11 13:19:34 · 13 answers · asked by Snuggles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Not a true friend, just a false one. True friends would never act that way. Just forget him and find other friends who will be true to you and not a user.
2007-02-11 13:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a best friend of 20 years now and she is the sweetest person Ive ever met in my life and about a week ago we got into a silly argument over nothing and she hit me in my head and went nuts on me and wont talk to me still. I have no clue what made her be that way towards me at all. I think sometimes when your close with someone and hang out a lot you tend to get on one anothers nerves at some point in time and most people instead of saying something keep inside and then blow up on you one day with all this stuff you never relized was a big deal or anything at all. You had the right to say something and you did what most people need to do and learn to speak up when they have problems like that before it does turn into something heated. Id say give him time sometimes its hard for people to admitt when they did something wrong. Give him time to think about it and he may suprise you and call and say sorry for what he did. If you want give him time to cool down and discuss the matter with him again if things do not change find a new friend because you deserve better then that.
2007-02-11 13:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was within your right to say that. Think of it this way, you are him, and something horrid happened at home, then one of your best friends comes and starts saying that what you did wasn't fair, and finaly, you can't hold your anger in anymore.
I think you need to make sure that he knows that he can talk to you about anything, and if he doesn't apologize, forgive him inwardly anyway. (If it happens again, maybe you should start wondering....). Maybe find out what went wrong, help him through it, "give him a shoulder to lean on." In the end he'll get over it, or you won't be his friend anymore if it continually happens.
And maybe that theory is wrong. My best friend in the whole universe and I are closer than sisters, even twin sisters w/ everything in common could be. But everyonce in a while, I dont' know what happens, but the smallest, stupidest thing on this planet makes us not talk for a few days. If the above doesn't work, try just backing up for a few days, let him be, then maybe he'll cool down a bit.
2007-02-11 13:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to give judgment bu just hearing only one side, without knowing u may 've offended ur friend or something or he is just simply a bustard.
Just a year a go I broke up with my best girlfriend at the time i was made at her almost as u explained above now for the last month or so I started making sense of what has happened and I don't think she behaved as bad as I thought then.
However no one has the right to treat u like that, once u said ur peace of mind then give ur self enough break (or not avoid any contact at all)
2007-02-11 13:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by SMB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a faker and a con... I wouldn't call him a person coz his trash especially if he can do that to someone that calls him friend...
I would advice you to never talk to this person again and tell your true friends what he has done and if the word will break out he will be the one in trouble...
I hope that all this will be settled soon for you! Good luck! ^_^
2007-02-11 13:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have lost a lady friend for telling her that her boyfriend hit on me and uncovered his penis to me. not something occurred between us, for sure, yet my lady friend broke up with the guy yet went back with him some days later and now they are married and that i have not spoken to her because :(. I surely have yet another lady friend the position I realized of her then husband dishonest on her with another chick and that i did not tell her because i did not prefer to work out the discomfort in her eyes. I cried for her after I realized about it. for sure, she ultimately stumbled on out by technique of a few different person (i became there for her even as she did and supported her via divorce) and we are nevertheless very close acquaintances in the present day. possibly issues are diverse with men yet from my experience, i does not tell him each little thing. i'd hint round it...yet maximum probably, your pal will comprehend that his lady friend isn't being straightforward and finally, he will learn about your different pal.
2016-11-27 02:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times the truth hurts ,and you told it to him .And he pretty much told you to go jump in the lake .So in all honesty no one owes any one an apology ,you were just hanging it all out there and got hurt when he retaliated with the way he sees it .
Seek another friend .Good Luck .
2007-02-11 13:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you certain that you did not take things out of contex? If you are certain then ....
Sounds like this friend is very insecure. Anyone who cannot take constructive criticism is in mature. Your were within your rights to take a stand. Let him alone. If he will not give you satisfaction, perhaps he was not so good a friend.
2007-02-11 13:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Contented 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you weren't friends and you were the last one to know it .I don't get worked up any more about people like that ,they soon run out of people.They are hard lessons but we do learn ,some times we learn more from those people .than we do are good friends ,because our good friends wouldn't do that to us
2007-02-11 13:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by colliedogcody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are weird like that...especially young, immature guys.
Ignore it and move on. You should never allow anyone to treat you like that. And there's no excuse for it.
2007-02-11 13:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋