As soon as I started to show, people wanted to touch my pregnant "bump". Although if it was a friend of mine I wouldn't care if they touched me, I had and still have a big issue with strangers coming up to me and touching me and my now huge "bump". Why is it that people feel they can violate a pregnant womans space? It isn't like they would come and rub my belly if I wasn't pregnant or rub a beer belly on some man standing in line behind them...Just wondering what makes strangers feel they can touch other people - especially without asking!
2007-02-11 13:17:04 · 16 answers · asked by Amber R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Next time it happens reach out and squeeze their nose. Tell them that you thought it was a bicycle horn. lol!!!
I know people are so rude!!! You really ought to tell them to keep their hands off.
2007-02-11 13:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, I am almost 9 months pregnant with a child im placing for adoption. It seriously aggravates me when people even my own family touch my stomach. I had no problem with my close family touching my belly with my 1st daughter. But this pregnancy is different. I was as the mall just the other day with my daughter and we sat down to eat and some lady just walked over to me and patted my belly and asked my daughter if she was having a brother or sister. It upset me so much.
2007-02-11 14:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drives me crazy... I know I am about to get boo-ed for this but just say "What the f*** do you think you are doing?" and I have a reason, if you say something polite they argue or insist that you have a problem, but if you say that they just walk away, quickly. Works better when someone has kids with them, and they should have known better. I'm 2 months away from delivering my second child, and I am starting to wonder if there are some kind of charges you could press. I intend to find out, because if you just walked up and started rubbing on some random non-pregnant person I bet they would call the cops- why should I not do the same? (Sorry for the extra grouchy rant, but this is my second time around and I am sick of it! I shouldn't have to dread Wal-Mart anymore than I would normally!)
2007-02-11 14:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree - i'm 31wks and find it extremely annoying - when i notice anyone who is "eyeing" my belly i clasp my hands over the front of it - so as not to give them a chance to touch it at all!
I also dislike the fact that "we" (pregnant women) become public property whilst pregnant - not only is it ok to "touch" a pregnant belly - but also to comment upon how big or small you are etc etc - no one would say "you look HUGE" if you were just fat would they? Nor would they comment on how LITTLE you were if you were just skinny... it drives me crazy! Pregnancy does not equal public property!
*sorry for the rant - just walked back in the office after ANOTHER person tried to feel my belly and then commented on how small i was for 31wks and proceeded to ask if i had a sickly baby! Insensitive!!! *
2007-02-11 13:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God only knows why people do that. It is irritating, and I've mentioned to people before that I didn't understand it, and they acted like I was being too picky or sensitive. It's as if you should appreciate strangers patting or rubbing your pregnant belly. I actually got several t-shirts that said "Do Not Touch the Belly!" My sister and I made them, and they actually worked!
2007-02-11 13:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by herefordsun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what u mean. i've had my babies and got fixed (I sound like a cat or something) when i look at a pregnant woman i think of how wonderful it was to be pregnant i loved it to the max. i would do it 24/7 365 days a year. the thought that u are carrying a life (yep starting to cry) and everything that goes with it. i would never go and touch someone elses belly but i sure would love to!!!!! just try and be polite and tell them to back off!!!! good luck with your pregnancy!!!!
2007-02-11 13:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by 4.my.4.boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind if it's a family member or a close friend. Or even if someone asks permission ( I always appreciate that). But some people haven't any tact and have to reach out and rub my belly and it's extremely rude.
I guess some people just don't know any better.
2007-02-11 13:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the style you cope with this is superb already. i'd purely try make an excuse...i advise you're pregnant and have plenty occurring. purely say some thing that your skin is tender simply by stretching, alongside with your ribs besides. clarify that any stress on your tummy is uncomfortable good now. in the event that they dont get the hint purely purely say to somebody "yah, constantly moving, its tiring having people grabbing on the youngsters each circulate all day" in the event that they asks questions like "are they moving around in there" (in the previous they make a grab for the tummy). this manner apparently like your joking approximately different persons truly than the guy who you're presently conversing with, and this would cause them to understand that it annoys you with out you having to be right this moment rude to them.
2016-09-28 23:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by heusel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I feel the same way. Can't wait for this to be over. I'm 39 weeks and being induced on Wednesday. People do some of the most stupid things while you are pregnant.
2007-02-11 15:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, I had the same sign on my belly. But if they were perfect strangers and I wasn't in a particularly happy mood, I'd say, "excuse me, would you like it if I just walked up to you and touched your (insert larger than normal body part here) since it's bigger than everyone elses?" I loved seeing their shocked faces....lol
2007-02-11 13:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by AMY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does seem to be socially normal to touch a pregnant persons tummy. I feel it a bit odd to be honest.
As if your tummy is no longer part of you. Just step back and place your arms or your shopping or hand bag in front of you.
2007-02-11 13:22:16 · answer #11 · answered by serenity seeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋