Too far? My friend "Ann" moved out of state for college and was doing well til she and her bf broke up.

Question

I was there for her everystep of the way over winter break, but when she went back to school, she was depressed all the time most of her weekends involved getting drunk. She's 20. She doesn't seem to care, she even brags sometimes. I tried talking to her about it, but instead she just wanted to yell. She then took a personal shot at me, and told everyone that because of a screwed up relationship over 2 years ago, I'm broke and attending a "junior" college and struggling because of it. She's acting like because I go to a junior college at home (and making As and nearing my major), while she's barely making Cs at a big college makes her better. I'm broke because I don't work. I don't work because of school. She's never even had a job, I have plenty of work expirience. And I'm not in any way struggling. Do most college goers feel that way about "Junior" colleges? I'm not looking for any answers about communication. I just want to know where this opinion comes from. I love my school.

Answer 1

I am sorry I really don't know. but you should not let your friend bother you what she says. just ignore it. you are not responsible for her grades, you are only responsible for yours. if the better collage makes her better, then why is she getting the grades that shes getting. it has nothing to do with school. and your friend is just jealous because you are nearer in your major. and shes not. so that should tell you. Keep going and do the best you can . you will do fine. and ignore what others say. do what you want for you and no one else.

Answer 2

I think it all depends on the person. If somebody attends a junior college and gets really good marks and does really well then they will probably get a good job. Somebody attending a big university and only getting C's probably won't have top choice of employers and may not get the job they really want when they are done school. A university degree does not equal a good paying job. A good example would be that I have a friend who just finished a university degree and couldn't get a job so she went and got a college diploma and found a job right away.

Answer 3

Nope, she is just looking for ways to make herself feel better about herself.
You're doing just fine.
When people hit the college years they can change and sometimes it's best to let them go and do there own thing. This sounds like such a time.
Good luck

Answer 4

dude, ur taking it too personal. She's hurt and vulnerable. We humans have this tendecy to hurt those we care about the most when we're feeling hurt and vulnerable. ex: parents -> children

she needs someone to talk to. she needs you now more than ever. don't give up on her. and just try not to take her insults too seriously. she doesn't mean it