Im 13 and bi, and i am attracted to some of the girls in my school, even in love with one, but im afraid of saying anything because of how people would treat me and all. But i would like to say something but dont know how. Would like advice for a young person thats about to go to highschool!
2007-02-11 13:15:17 · 20 answers · asked by misa_shini 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't rock the boat, they will harass you until you go insane
Join a support group, you can find LOTS, just go to Google and ask
2007-02-11 13:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by ma 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kiss a girl you like! At your age, that's a good thing and people would think nothing of it if a 13 year old kissed a BOY, so I think fair is fair. If you kiss a girl, make SURE you have privacy in a safe place. All your life, you are going to run into people who are going to treat you funny, so don't let that stop you from being who you are. You might even like girls enough that you lose interest in guys some day. You are young, and anything is possible. You might not be ready to handle coming out yet. You will be surprised to know you're not alone - there's more like you at school who don't admit it. I always found some in art classes, softball... Then I found them everywhere! Maybe in three years it's good to come out. But I admire your guts and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-11 14:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... ignore everyone who says you need to "grow up" and that you're too young to be feeling such things. They're old and jaded and bitter that they've since resigned to middle-class drudgery and probably suffer from severe constipation. *shrug* "Anyone who ever had a heart wouldn't turn around and break it" - immortal words, really (a la Mr. Lou Reed). =) So yeah... they're just bitter that they're old now.
That being said... If you want to say something, then do. You can't hide who you are... it'll only get worse and you'll drive yourself crazy. But be aware the kids can be MEAN (almost as mean as adults, but less passive-aggressive). You WILL be teased. You're a girl, so you probably won't be beaten up too much (if at all).
It depends on where you live... If you live in a major city, you'll be OK. If you live a small hick town, then, well... the next few years of your life are going to be hell. But no matter where you are, you're sure to find people who are accepting. Just don't shut yourself off... be open and willing to LET people accept you. You'll find friends who support you if you haven't already (you'd be surprised who actually comes around and embraces you when you come out).
Keep a strong sense of who you are and be willing and able to throw the s**t people give you right back at them. DON'T be afraid to defend yourself, and don't let people make you feel like there's anything wrong with you.
But yes... don't be afraid of how people will treat you. If anything, this will sort out who your real friends are. But you need to come out... if its already bothering you this much, imagine how bad its gonna be if you try to hide it for the next 4 1/2 years.
When you leave highschool... people are still a**holes, but they become better at hiding it (this is when the passive-aggressiveness and condescending BS comes in... like people trying to tell you what YOU feel or don't feel without knowing anything about you).
And good luck!
2007-02-11 15:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow does that sound familiar, I am 14, and I am also bi, I figured it out last year. I have only told 2 people and they both understood. Probably because one is my best friend and the other is lesbian and had come out last year. But it all depends on where you go to school and how large your school is. My school is rather small, its 600 people and K-12th grades and in the country, so everyone is homophobic who was born and raised here(i wasn't). So, I only told two people because had I told anyone else they would have certainly veered away from me and I'd be a very lonely lonely person. So I would definitely suggest to not tell anyone yet, It wont bring you many good things.
Also, is the girl you love bi or even lesbian? Because I really like this girl in my school, she is lesbian and one of the 2 people I told. When I told her she simple said "well, thats fine hun, I cant judge you, I'm gay anyway" and accepted me for who I really am. Since I told her she proceeded to tell me a few things about herself and as it turns out, She likes me back and has since the beginning of the year, but never said anything to me because of obvious reasons. And now, Well, tomorrow, We are going to see if there is REALLY a connection between us by kissing when we are alone. But the whole point of me telling you this is that SOME good things happen when you find someone trustworthy and open up to them.
Also, if you go to a small school like I do, Then you should definitely hold back until your older and out of school to tell all of your friends and family because then people other than your closest friends will take it seriously, I mean, the other answers have been clear that they dont take you seriously until your older anyway. But if you do go to a small school then remember you have to be around these people until your 18 and if they ridicule you now, they will ridicule and spread nasty rumors about you until you graduate. I really hope this helps you girl, I would have wished for someone to do this for me last year and I certainly hope it helps you at all.
2007-02-11 14:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Im exactly like you, im 13 going to high school next year, and im bi.I think scince your bi, date girls until you feel 100% ready to tell people. Right now your not ready ( neither am i ) because your asking this question.
2007-02-11 16:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by The Con 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you have a lot of livnig and learning to be done. The best thing you could do is stay in school and do your homework. Be successful. Once you have matured emotionally and physically, explore your sexuality.
2007-02-11 13:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm already in high school but i found out in 8th grade that i had the same problem.. but now alot of people knoe they dont treat me ne different..
2007-02-11 15:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by IM 2 PAC N WAT.!! 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont say anything. high school kids are sooo mean and horrible. i told my best friend i am bi. i told her this summer. she told everybody. they picked on me so bad (just the girls. the guys thought it was hot) i wanted to kill my self.
2007-02-11 14:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by rocker_chick 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
although i'm no a bi but i understand how u fee lthere's nothing wrong with it feel open tell that girl or person how u feel even though she rejected u but at least you tell that person how u feel so yeah.
2007-02-11 13:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're too young to start having sex, so don't start trying to have some. Just continue to socialize the way you have been. Develop social skills, learn about good friendships, form bonds w/ friends of both sexes. Don't worry about it. Don't try to rush things.
2007-02-11 14:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by flacocajuncujo 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋