I got back in touch with a friend from middle school that is a leisbian. I knew she was gay. After hanging out for a month and becoming tight, she now loves me, if you know what I men. She told me and knows I'm staying straight and I'm not changing. She said she understanding perfectly. Another friend she's close with likes me and IF I hooked with him (which I don't really know if I will want to) she said she would be hurt, but understand and deal with it, She likes me more. I don't know what I should think about her liking me. One thing is she a great friend, and we are close like I said, though she is gothic and I'm not. I'm confused. What should I think or feel?
2007-02-11 12:55:26 · 16 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would treat that situation the same as if i had a guy friend that liked me that i didn't like back. YOu said athat you already explained to to her that you didn't feel the same, and that she understood. Just treat the situation sensitively but honestly. And if i was you, i would feel like "whatever" it doesn't really matter to me. Dont' stress so much.
2007-02-11 13:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept her homosexuality (or don't) and move on. You obviously shouldn't have to modify your behavior so you don't risk hurting her. You should never be a slave to someone else's potential for getting emotionally hurt by your actions. This chick is too attached and you need to discuss with her the idea of boundaries. If she can't detach herself or "just be friends" or deal with this on a mature level, then she should act in her own self interest and remove herself from the friendship situation. Unrequited love sucks whether it is gay or straight and if the person cant move on without getting hurt...then they need to get some distance. This isn't your issue, this is her issue. Don't let her make it more of an issue than it should be.
2007-02-11 13:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Evan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sure I will get no points for this, but ask the question and apparently are looking for answers, some you will like and some you will not like. I think the Lesbian friend should stop trying to turn you into a bi sexual or lesbian. If she is a friend, she would not do that. While you could still respect each other choice, she needs to respect the fact that your straight also. Most gothic are bi sexual, are claim to be, some also do not believe in God. I think if your lesbian friend is trying to get into your pants, you need to tell her to back off are hit the road. The same applies to you, you need to back off if you do not want her in your pants. If you are straight , then act like it, as she is lesbian, she acts like it. Ask your Mom, see what she says before you jump off into something that you will regret later. Threesome's are no fun, and that is exactly what all this is leading up too, no self respect.
2007-02-11 13:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dizz we all do it sweetie, being honest and tell them how you feel is the best way of dealing with it. If they are a true friend they will see past mistakes and forgive. Love ya hun Hugs Sugar bug
2016-05-23 23:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie;
i have allot of gay friends and i adore them,but most of all i respect them and they do the same for me. your friend must understand that you both have two sides of your sexuality and that she should respect yours,as you do heir's. i understand that she may be hurt with what you decide on , but if she is a friend like she claims and saids that she is,than she will be happy for you and understand (the most. ) just let her know that you do value Yale's friendship,but if she can not except you for you,than maybe it's best if you both just go your separate ways.
2007-02-11 13:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by kidslovedawna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oy! I have a really close friend of mine that me n my best friend (also a friend of heres) suspect is les! this is kind of odd, because we don't kow, and you do, but i have just kind of distanced myself with her a little ever since we decided that this was likely. i mean we are still friends, but i won't like hug her or mess around like i do with other friends with her... jus incase she gets a wrong impression, ya kno?
i'd say jus tell her no way hosea and that u are STRATE as an arrrow n r stayin that way!
2007-02-11 13:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Doz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it where me it wouldn't bother me at all but I'm a guy . I have had gay guys approach me and I couldn't help it I had to pop them in the eye . Its all sick and the signs of the times if you ask me . Best just to stay away and finde new freinds .Birds of a feather flock together.
2007-02-11 13:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be up front with her about you have no intrest in that kind of relationship with her, if she want`s to keep being friend`s with you then she will accept that ,and not try to make you feel uneasy about any one you would date even if he is her friend.if then you are still uneasy of the relationship with her then you should let her know you cant`s be her friend
2007-02-11 13:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by chance 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't cross the line.
some things are best left untouch.
do not be what you are not.
two parallel line will never cross each other's path.
keep it that way.
have a great life (love life, that is).
2007-02-11 13:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by ricodzeus 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
times like this will make you question your own sexuality. Decide that first. Then you will know what to do.
2007-02-11 13:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by vthokie4ever 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋