Do you wonder how is it that people deny the fact that they had other purposes when they met their...?

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...spouse or life partner? I'm sure there's a romantic answer to the big 'how we met' question. But I think that in the beginning, interest (no matter how vain) does play a part as a reason for selecting a partner. How is it that people call it unconditional love?
We all have made mistakes and have flaws of our own. But everything always comes afloat. There's more than one question here:
Are they denying the truth about meeting each other to live in a dream world?
Do they lower the standards of their convictions?
Are there real conditions?
Does 'change' take a part in all this?

PS. Change can destroy a relationship.

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Answer 1

i was in church when i met my husband to be. but i wasn't watching him, i was watching another guy that i knew liked me. my sister actually pointed out the fact that he had a cute butt. LOL
i think unconditional love is a tired old cliche.
if everyone who ever got married had true unconditional love for each other we could remove one word from the dictionary. (divorce)
there are real conditions in every relationship. i think it depends on each persons values, ethics, and certainly their morals.
and yes change has to take part in relationships or i don't think they could grow and mature..Unfortunately,change almost did ruin my marriage on several occassions.
We have to monitor our emotions and our growth to really see where we can go or better yet where we should go with our relationships.
hope this answers your questions.

Answer 2

You sound jaded.

Yes, all relationships initially hinge on attraction, and people look to draw different things from them.

I personally believe this "love" is a coping mechanism in which people project and superimpose the image of the person they want their love interest to be on them. It is a lie you tell yourself.

I also believe that love "breaks down" when the lie can no longer be upheld. The person who destroys the illusion is then blamed for the death of the relationship unwittingly.

I think you have the gist though.

Answer 3

First of all very few people understand what uncontional love means, that's why their relationships fall apart. Sacrafice is the essence of love, if no one is willing to sacrafice in their relationships, it will never work, it's a two way streak. A relationship needs a firm foundation to work, our life begins at the cross and ends at the cross of Christ, because He was the ultimate sacrafice.....Jesus loves you