they're very orthodox.help!
2007-02-11 12:43:35 · 11 answers · asked by Rocket 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tell them that your the same person today that they've always known and your no different than the person that they've always known and loved. Then tell them that you need to let them know who you are and that you are gay and want them to know the truth, that you love them and hope they still love you. That your still their son and always will be and you hope they can get over their disappointment and accept and love you for who you are.
Good luck!
2007-02-11 12:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'll tell you how I told mine. They were sitting in the living room and my mom was reading a Christmas letter from my cousin and his partner. She asked me if I knew if they were a gay couple. This was the perfect opportunity for me to come out. I said yes, and then said, "This is probably a good time to tell you this, I'm gay. My mom responded by saying "you are?" and then she asked how long I knew and how I knew. I told her I had known a long time and that I just knew. She said that she was glad that I shared it with her. My dad was very quiet and didn't say anything. Although, he is a quiet person anyway. I am sure he is okay with it, because he doesn't act any different around me. Later that evening my mom came in to my room and again thanked me for telling her, she said she knew it must have been hard for me and that I could talk to her about it whenever I wanted and that she loved me. Luckily, I have very great and understanding parents. You need to make them understand that homosexuality is completely normal and that you are they same person you have always been. If your parents really care about you, which I am sure they do, they should be understanding. Good luck.
2007-02-11 22:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
what a sad question!
when my best friend came out (he was 17), his mom kicked him out of the house. might be a good idea to have a safe place to stay for a awhile already set up.
his mom called me that night and asked me what was 'wrong' with her son - i said 'nothing. he's beautiful, loyal, intelligent, got a wicked sense of humor, and apparently loves you enough to to keep something that is a huge part of his identity a secret for years just because he wanted to protect your feelings.' it helped for a while, she let him come home, but they went back and forth for years before she finally came to terms with it.
you could try to reassure them that this doesn't mean you're gonna start leading this wild life like something out of a porno, but the truth is, if their minds are very closed on the subject, they're probably not gonna handle it well.
i would maybe talk to the parent i was closest to first, then have them help me tell the other parent.
if you are afraid they will harm you physically, they don't deserve to have a child that loves them enough to be honest.
2007-02-11 21:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by mommynow 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are young and still depend on your folks for support, I would wait awhile. You may want to confide in a counselor and see if they would be with you when you spoke with them. I personally prefer to keep my folks in the dark regarding my actual sexual activity, and they know that my partner and I are roomates. They accept my partner as part of our family. But, it is because we do not hang all over each other, etc. around family. Guess it works for us, may not for others. Just a suggestion
2007-02-11 23:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by kar506 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think they're going to react really negatively it's probably best to wait until you don't have to live "under their roof" anymore. But if you think they won't react that way, sit down with them one night and tell them you have to tell them something. It's really difficult and there's no easy way to do it, but you'll feel better after (so long as they don't kick you out, and you might even then.)
2007-02-11 22:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
are you saying you want to come out to them or are your parents coming out?
2007-02-11 21:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
are u independent? If you cannot support yourself if you went kicked out to streets I recommend being careful and wait if you can.
2007-02-11 20:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont know either im working on that to tell me what u do
2007-02-11 21:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by I am me and thats all i can be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that you like things your butt, it's not that hard
2007-02-11 20:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
"lets get one thin straiht. i am not:
2007-02-12 00:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by gerber baby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋