He was supporting me before I got pregnant and has continued doing so. We first agreed that 3 months after the baby is born he will pay me 800 a month for child support. But now he has a girlfriend and he's giving 2 months and said he will be paying $600. I think he should be paying more because his income is almost 4,000 a month and I will have the baby 95% of the time, not to mention because hes in the navy on deployment he wont even see the baby until he's 7months old. And the only reason he's getting paid so much is because he's been seperated from his wife for 2years and hasn't divorced her so he collects about $1,000 extra a month for that. I just don't want to get played and would like to know how much I should reasonably expect...
2007-02-11 12:32:58 · 14 answers · asked by ModelChick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok i'm a former Jag with the Navy now retired after 34 years of service, and i've dealt with this kinda crap for years. You will need to hire an attorney. You'll need your attorney to get a court ordered paternity test done (DNA), once that is done, and the results recieved verifying he is the father, you can then go to the nearest Court or Family services office and file for childsupport. Your attorney will have to help guide you through this.
Once it is confirmed that you are entitled to childsupport you can then with your attorney and that state agency approach the Nearest Judge Advocate General of the Navy at the nearest naval facility and present the order, and other information and the navy will commence payroll deduction for the childsupport.
You won't get $800 per month, but more than likely $600 per month plus full medical benefits for the child. You have to move very quickly on this work on this every day Also, your child would then be on record as a dependent of this service member even after he leaves the military, your child would be entitled to benefits from the Veterans Administration.
You can email me directly for more detailed guidance on this issue if you like. michael_trussell@yahoo.com
2007-02-11 13:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let's see now YOU don't want to get played but you ARE a player? Yes you are, You said it yourself "he's been separated from his wife for 2years and hasn't divorced her" So you've basically been f u c k i n g a married man because until all the I's are dotted and all the T's are crossed on a divorce decree he is LEGALLY married. And what he gets in his marriage allotment goes to his LEGAL wife. As far as YOU getting support, you shouldn't get any, however his CHILD is entitled to support and that will be determined by a court according to his income not according to what YOU think YOU should get. YOU will get nothing and that is what YOU can reasonably expect to get.
2007-02-11 18:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normally 20% of his check. If you take him to court, you won't get played. If you can afford it, get a lawyer now so they can start proceedings. Even though he is deployed, doesn't mean anything. They will just take the money out of his check and send it to you. If you can't afford it, go to the public aid office, and ask when they can start proceedings. But tell him what you are doing so it doesn't look like you are trying to "get" him. Just say that so there is no misunderstandings you would like it done through the courts. That way you both agree on things and it is a done deal. Man, that is all someone in the Navy makes??? No thank you!
2007-02-11 12:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to cause him alot of problems, but if anyone's asking for it, he is.
The Navy is very good about assuring that he takes care of his dependents, and if he isn't, a call to his Ombudsman (usually the commanding officer's wife) will make the command aware of the situation. They'll take care of it whether he's on deployment or not.
Talk to a child support representative about the actual support amount. it'll help if you have a copy of his recent Leave and Earnings Statement. (the command can help there too) Also talk to a lawyer if it looks like family court may be in the picture.
The important thing is not to let him stall you, but don't call up the command like a crazy lady. They get alot of those calls, and it only hurts you. You need to collect your thoughts and only mention the things pertinent to your situation in a calm and cool manner.
2007-02-11 12:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you financially able to take care of yourself and the baby? Very basic issue. Babies cost lots of money. Do you have a job? Do you go to your scheduled doctor checkups? Have you decided what you will do with your life now that you will have a child to take care of? In other words, your baby's dad is the least of your worries. Were you married? If so, you can ask for child support. If you're not married and you still know where he is, you can go to a good lawyer and ask (again) for child support. If he wasn't treating you right (abuse of any kind, etc.) then forget about him and find a safe place for you and your baby to live. If he dumped you because of the baby, then you should forget about him. Try to do the best for you and your baby. Without knowing any specifics, that sounds like a crappy boyfriend and father to me. Work hard, take care. Take comfort in your family (parents, siblings, etc.) if possible.
2016-05-23 23:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you got played the second you started dating a man that wasn't divorced from his wife.
The thing is, if you pursue this legally, the guy will most likely get in trouble for having an affair, and will either get discharged or knocked down in rank, so you will be getting less in support than you think you will. I would say to try and do what you can, but be prepared for the worst.
2007-02-11 12:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get a lawyer.
2. After your baby is born, have DNA ordered and get full legal and physical custody (write down everything that has happened, so you will get this).
3. Take him to court for child support. (you can also have this proactively).
4. Good luck!
The run of the mill child support amount is usually between 15% to 20% of his gross (before tax) income.
2007-02-11 12:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first have to prove paternity on the baby. Just you putting his name on the birth certificate when you have the baby is not enough. Then go through the court systems, prove paternity and get a child support in place. If you do not have alot of resources, you can check in your local phone book for legal aid services. You may get all of this done for nothing depending on the circumstances.
2007-02-11 12:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with a loser from the start, find a real man next time, in the mean time, get a lawyer and make him pay what the courts say he must pay.
2007-02-11 12:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by katie d 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court and get mandated child support. That might be the only way you will get a regular payment of any amount.
2007-02-11 12:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋