I have to go to this family function with my husband...his Ex & their kids (w/girlfriends) will be there ( the kids dont like me because I am the new comer) although I've been around for awhile & have seen these kids grow up I still feel uncomfortable & unwanted...How do I deal with this one?
2007-02-11 12:25:26 · 11 answers · asked by east2west92 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go with this in your mind,You are standing up with you MAN,and don't even worry or think what others say or do.They are ungrateful snobs.
2007-02-11 12:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, Ive been in your shoes, heres what you do. Bring a dish, make it sooo good they will ask for the recipe. I have a carrot cake recipe that could revive the dead!!! Look fabulous, a little sexy, but mostly conservative. Do you know what these kids are into? Like can you be interested and attentive?? Ask questions. Help clean up. Oh, and kill em with kindness. Try to compliment everyone there about something and smile like you mean it!!! If you are uncomfortable, they will sense it and maybe make it harder for you. Remember, he is your husband, you are obviously the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, but sometimes we have to bite the bullet, no matter how hard it seems, and just turn on the charm.....
2007-02-11 21:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by notso_recoveringwino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and have a good time. Make an appearance and be there for your husband as his wife and be there by his side. This will say alot for you ask a wife and that at least you are trying to make a positive effort to fit in and be there for the kids even if they dont like you.
2007-02-11 20:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't look good if you refuse to go. Put on your best behavior and not make sarcastic remarks. If others start targeting you, tolerate for a bit and then politely bow out. Thiis is called maturity. Then, you are not the instigator and if his family can't see that, then he can't blame you for not going next time.
2007-02-11 21:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband for support, but don't ask him to choose sides. He should work to keep everything cool, but you're oing to have to help as well.
Don't make a scene, no matter how you may be baited. He's supposed to help, but he can't if you make it impossible. If you can "grin and bear it" for a day, you'll get through okay.
Also, don't blame your husband for their not liking you. There's nothing he can do to force them to love you, and it's not an argument worth having.
2007-02-11 20:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Travis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You handle it like the rest of us have over the years, you wear your "painted -on smile", and you "fake it till you make it". We've all done it a million times......one more is not going to hurt! Good Luck! I know it's hard, but you CAN do this!!
2007-02-11 20:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By supporting your husband, nothing else at this family function should matter....pray...prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives.....Jesus loves ya
2007-02-11 20:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be very nice...you can go to sleep at night knowing you tried!
2007-02-11 20:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go and hold your head up high! Smile, be friendly and have fun.....don't take any bait...before you know it, it will be over!
2007-02-11 21:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Booze is the only answer...
2007-02-11 20:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Fred Phaggins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋