2007-02-11 12:25:12 · 17 answers · asked by Hawkeye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! Perhaps that is something that she should have communicated to you before marriage. Does she just have no drive or are there emotional reasons she doens't like it (i.e. past abuse) I think the two of you really need to sit down and talk about this. Have you tried experimenting a bit. I don't know how old the two of you are. Perhaps in her experience it has been mostly just sex with no foreplay. Have you tried spending a little time before getting to the deed just kissing her and caressing her - there are a whole world of little nerve endings between the head and her nether regions to explore that perhaps no one has taken the time to before. Communication is key. Sit down and have and honest conversation with her (withouth being accusatory and without trying to make her feel bad). Find out what it is that she doesn't like about it. Perhaps there are self esteem issues. Maybe it is physically painful for her for some reason. Or, like I said previously, perhaps she doesn't like it because she isn't getting all of her needs met. IF that is the case, then find out what those needs are. Chances are good she won't know off hand - it will take soem experimenting to find out. If talking to her doesn't work, you may consider counseling, individual and couples.
She is mistaken in her statement about most other women. I, for one, enjoy it very much as do 99% of the women I know. But most of us are 30's or older and know what we like and how to effectively communicate it to our partners. It could be she just needs to find what it is that she likes. Good luck
2007-02-11 13:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u kidding me? I am very sorry to tell you this but your wife sounds like she is hiding some things... maybe she is having sex with someone else or is attracted to the same sex. Now sometimes women go thru periods of time where they just dont want to have sex but I just dont think that this is the case here. I wish we could tell you what she was thinking and feeling but we cant so the only thing you can do is ask her. Because from these answers that you are getting you should see that women love sex just as much as men. If not then more than likely there arent interseted in the opposite sex. This is a horrible thought for you but what if shes just not attracted to you sexually. Sorry and good luck
2007-02-11 20:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to burst your wife's bubble but this is not a true statement. I in fact, enjoy sex. I think society sends way to many mixed statements to women on their sexuality. Has your wife explored any of the many options open to her? Sexual toys, oils, Tantric ceremonies, same gender relationship? Is she comfortable with masturbation? If the answer to any of these is no then I think she is repressing herself. Did you ask why? Is it your size, the lack of stimulation or what exactly does she not like?
2007-02-11 20:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dale D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think she is speaking for "most women". I certainly enjoy sex with my husband.
Is it possible sex is painful for her? Maybe she needs to see her doctor. Certain medications can also reduce libido. Perhaps she is self conscious about her weight or body image? You need to sit and talk to her to figure out why she feels this way.
Good Luck.
2007-02-11 20:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally do and many of my friends that r girls do, so I think that what ur wife is saying is just from a small majority of women
2007-02-11 20:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Katie Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i enjoy sex. some women i know don't. and then some men just don't know how to please a woman.
is that your wife's problem? she doesn't like sex because you don't know how to please her? has she ever truly had an orgasm? are you sure or did she "fake it" to make you feel good?
take some time learning a few things about the womans anatomy and read a few books about the clitoris. try it with her and see if she doesn't change her mind.
2007-02-11 21:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe in HER circle of friends most women don't enjoy sex but she doesn't know me or the circle of friends I have...because we DO enjoy sex...
2007-02-11 23:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is mistaken about other women. I love sex with my husband.
2007-02-11 20:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy sex a lot.
2007-02-11 20:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is greatly mistaken. I want to have sex as often as my husband wants to. Sometimes I want it more often than he does.
2007-02-11 20:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋