Is she my TRUE friend?

Question

My best friend whom I've known for 5 years is sort of.... cruel. She disses my boyfriend CONSTANTLY- then when I say something (just as a joke) she'll get all mad and stomp off then tell people Im a bi***, she takes my food and gets mad at me for EVERYTHING- then she likes my best friend Kyle, and she always tells me to talk about her in a conversation, and when I don't she gets all mad and tries to make me feel guilty- and when I get tired of all her crap and I tell her to back off- she'll just ignore me- talk sh** about me to all her friends, then come back like nothing happened- I'm seriously doubting whether or not I should hang out with her anymore- she's way more trouble then she's worth.
PS- she accused my sister of lying to me about my boyfriend- MY SISTER. Plz help!

Answer 1

I see too many red flags saying that she is not a friend, She is someone u need to stop hanging out with because she a jealous troublemaker and u don't need that kind of person in ur life so in all do respect get rid of her because she's no good to have around.

Red Flag 1.she's cruel( cruel people don't care about how they make others feel)

Re Flag 2.she disses ur boyfriend( jealous maybe because she either don't have one of her own, she wants him for herself or if she has a b/f he doesn't treat her the way ur b/f treat u) plus jealous people are always trying to make trouble for others) also behind every joke lies the truth

Red Flag 3. She stomps off ( rage) maybe thats because she feel she's not in control

Red Flag 4.She calls u a *****( name calling is another way she showing u she's jealous) She know that calling someone a ***** makes that person upset

Red Flag 5.she takes ur food( don't want u to have anything so she feels in control if she can take something from u, taking something from someone can hurt so she wants u to hurt)

Red Flag 6. She trys to get u to say bad things about another friend( she wants u say something so if it gets back to ur friend Kyle she will say it was u who said it and she may even tell Kyle this anyway) plus in u talking about Kyle makes her feel good because she don't like Kyle. Maybe she's jealous of u and Kyle's friendship( like she's jealous of u and ur b/f)

Red Flag 7. trys to make u feel gulity( mind games she wants u to think ur doing something wrong because she knows she's wrong

Red Flag 8. She ignores u, she knows she wrong but refuse to accept it

Red Flag 9. talks about u to her friends( two face)

Red Flag 10. she comes back like nothing happens( she does this when others have had enough of her so she needs to go somewhere( plus u keep allowing her to come back)

Red Flag 11. She's bad mouthing ur sister about ur boyfriend( trying to start trouble between u and ur sister

This girl is not a friend she's a troublemaker, she's jealous, she's two faced and a backstabber( u can't turn ur back on people like her) I mean she even does this in ur face and don't care how it makes u feel.

Why are u hanging out with her, the only reason she hangsout with u is because ur allowing her to and u don't have to do that.

She will always do this, u can't trust a person like her because she's unhappy and she wants others around her unhappy too because she doesn't know any better.

I counted 11 red flags and thats too many red flags. She means u NO good sweetie and u don't need anyone in ur life who means u no good.

She's talks about u, other friends, calls u names, said bad things about ur sister and she takes things from u

Why do u need her around u? what reason she needs to come around if all she's gonna do is make trouble?


End this so call friendship, u have no reason to hangout with her. If she trys to talk u into hanging out again say no, cut off all contacts with her. Next time u talk with her tell her ur ending this so call friendship, this friendship is over. If she ask why give her a list of the reasons why and tell her u can't have a person in ur life who's always, calling u names, talking about u to others, disses ur sister, friends and boyfriend. Tell her u have tried to figure out something good about her but u can't think of a thing.

Make sure u tell anyone else who knows u and her before she gets to them first because she will go to them and say things about u, once u go to them 1st and tell them ur ending the friendship with her they will already know and what she say to them will mean nothing and since they know the kind of person she is they shouldn't be too surprised u have ended it.

She will continue to bad mouth u because now she don't have u to hang out with anymore and she'll need to find some new friends.

Once u do this u will feel better about not having a person like her around.No matter how much she trys to hangout with u again, tell her until she learns how to be a true friend u want nothing to do with her.

Maybe the other friends will do the same and she really won't have anyone to hangout with and if she wants friends she'll think about the way she is and she'll change her ways( for the better I hope)

Good Luck Sweetie, I had a few people like that in my life and I had to let them go

Answer 2

Has this girl been this way the 5 years that you've known her? If so, why have you waited this long? She seems very insecure if she feels that she needs to behave this way. She keeps coming back to you because you allow her to do so. Ditch the rude chick and find some friends that won't act this way. Tell her straight up what you think and why you are ditching her. She needs a wake-up call in the area of friendships. Obviously, she doesn't know how to be a true friend.

Answer 3

Sounds like to me that you need to get rid of her. All she is doing is bringing you down. Why do you want someone who is always going to talk bad about you and make you feel bad about yourself. Honestly you need to get rid of her. Another thing is that if you are still in school (as in haven't graduated High School yet) you will see that you will not be very close to the people that you were before. You will go off and meet new people. After college if you go you will be able to count all of your close friends on one hand and probably not even have to use all of your fingers. I am a person that gets along with everyone and was very popular in High School and college, but I only have one friend from back in the day and I have been friends with her since the 1st grade.

Answer 4

If she is acting like this everytime you guys get together then i seriously would tell her not to come around anymore as you don't like how she is talking about your man or your family(cos family comes first no matter what). Also you could very careful of what you say to her from now on if you decide to keep her as a friend but that would be your ultimate decision, we all here can advise you but you have to make the final decision though.

Hope that helps you.

Answer 5

I would tell her that you don't wanna be her friend anymore and that you're not liking the way she's acting and she seems to be putting alot of pressure towards you, never ever have a friend make you feel guilty over nothing cause that is not a true friend there.

Answer 6

Any one can say DUMP HER. But I know how you feel. You really know that she is the worst friend ever. And you shouldn't even be near her. But what makes it hard is that she has been your friend for years. I would tell her what you told us. It will work.

Answer 7

True friend? Please wake up and smell the roses, she is only using you. To me that bi*** is just pretending to be your 'friend'. You sound like your a nice person with a great personality dont let that bi**** who*** try to put you down she aint no friend shes just an as*****.

Answer 8

well i do not think she is worth all the trouble if you just leave her then you can have a better life and you will not have to worry about her or what she is saying

Answer 9

if you have to ask yourself whether shes a true friend, chances are shes not.

Answer 10

dump her, she sounds like a bad friend.