I need to talk to someone?!?

Question

I have really bad problem trusting people about my problems. The problems I'm having are like, friends, boys, and school. I asked my dad to go to therapy to get all of these things out because I don't trust anyone! But all he did was yell at me saying that all I have are teenage problems and that I will get over it. But they aren't that simple. He just doesn't get it. What should I do?!?!

Answer 1

Well your father is right sugar ,,,, but I don't agree at all with his method of delivery as you've explained it ,,,,I'm on your side in this but therapists and counselors cost allot of money ,,,, Anywhere from $150.00 to sometimes $300,00 dollars an hour ,,,, Possibly he hasn't got that kind of money ,,,, Few ever do ,,,, But then again there are publically funded counselling centers that are available ,,,, But usually counselors in places like that aren't good enough to make it with their own practice and a publically funded center is the bottom of the barrel for them so to speak ,,,, What ever you do ,,,, DO NOT try to fine anyone on the internet to talk to about this ,,,, They are all strangers that could really care less ,,,, Probably less than one tenth of a percent of the people on the computer is qualified to sit in a counselors seat anyway ,,,, Especially this guy that calls himself ,,,, anubhav 5 ,,,, His answer definitely indicates that all he's looking for is a cheap thrill and he's letting his glands do his thinking for him so any answer you get from him or anyone like him is a waste of time ,,,,, You are your fathers daughter and you went to him with an issue looking for answers ,,,, And you did the right thing by trying to go to him ,,,, I don't know how many parents wish or wished their child or children would have come to them before something bad happens or happened ,,,, He as your father should have been understanding and taken the time to sit down with you and at least discuss this with you in a concerned and understanding way ,,,, He's obviously one of those that think children's problems are just trivial things and not important ,,,, What he should be doing in this situation is to at least hear you out and take what you have to say seriously if for no other reason than you are his little girl ,,,, Allot of parents fall into this behavior and their children's problems or situations seem trivial or nonsensical and don't merit the time ,,,, But also there are allot of parents that WISH fervently that their child would have come to them before something bad happened ,,,, I would hate to see your father in this situation ,,,, And too there are parents that seriously regret it if their child had tried to go to them first while there was still time for a workable solution but they just blew it off ,,,, They are the ones that always say to them selves ,,,,,,"God if I had only listened when my child tried to talk to me about this earlier" ,,,, And they wind up wishing that they could turn back the clock to have a chance to do it over or differently again ,,,,Guilt is so hard a thing to live with and it NEVER goes away ,,,, But it appears that's where your father could wind up if he doesn't get cut in ,,,, Childrens problems might be trivial for most parents but they are very real for the child no matter what it is ,,,, If a person (and this includes you for later on when you have children ) is going to have children then they need to be prepaired to deal with all aspects of child rearing ,,,, The parent should be the one to take the time himself to step in and be that counselor he can't afford to at least help you to arrive at some acceptable solution to your dilemma ,,,, It doesn't appear that your father is doing this and I'm very sorry for you ,,,, I don't know your family situation or whether he's the only parent you've got ,,,, If possible you should try to talk to your mother about it too ,,,, Or you can go back to him and say something to the effect ,,,,,,,,,,, "Look dad ,,,, I have a problem ,,,, It might not seem important to you but it is to me ,,,,You are the only one I have to turn to and I'm asking for just a little bit of your time to help me try and figure this out" ,,,, This may sound like you are trying to lay a guilt trip on him but I think that maybe he needs it ,,,, Also in doing this you are trying to give him a second chance to avoid the parental problems of guilt I mentioned earlier ,,,, As a father he should realize that teenage problems are just as big and worrysome to teenagers as adult problems are to adults ,,,, He might be right and I think he is that you are just going through a phase but it's something that should be addressed because it could possibly escalate and send you down a wrong road that could amplify the problem ,,,, This situation does need to be tended to and if he still refuses to take the time with you then you might try going to a school counselor or maybe a teacher you like and can trust and explain and discuss your problem with him or her ,,,, I would try approaching your father one more time though and say to him what I suggested earlier ,,,, This at least will give him a last and final chance to tend to his daughters needs as a parent should ,,,, If he still doesn't want to deal with it then at least you can say that "Hey I tried twice" ,,,, He should feel privileged to be able to help you with this ,,,, His yelling at you is wrong and he should realize it ,,,, If he can't afford a professional then he should be willing to try and take the professionals place with you ,,,, After all he is your parent and a parents job is to be a back stop for problems ,,,, a nurse ,,,, a cook ,,,, a house maid ,,,, a mechanic ,,,, seamstress ,,,, accountant ,,,, Laundress ,,,, painter ,,,, plumber ,,,, electrician ,,,, a shield to step between his/her children in times of doubt ,,,, danger or uncertainty ,,,,and yes a counselor too ,,,, or anything else that should arise ,,,, A parents work is never done as long as the children remain under their parents roof ,,,, Allot of people don't give these things a second thought ,,,, Two people comtemplating having children should think seriously about just how much they love their children before they have them ,,,, They should have their minds working ahead of time before they put their bodys to work conceiving them ,,,, I really and truely hope my suggestions work for you sugar if you deside to act on them,,,, I just wish I could do more for you ,,,, I feel that you deserve the best ,,,, I think that you've asked a very good question here also ,,,, It's a question that I'm sure allot of teens may have but like you ,,,, don't know what to do about it ,,,, It rates a star where I'm concerned ,,,, Once again good luck and try to stay calm ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,

Answer 2

Have you ever thought of talking to someone else in your family or a friend. I mean that is what a friend is for to be there for you when you have a problem. Your family should be there for you no matter what. Your dad probably does think that is just a teenage problem because the things that he went through when he was your age is completely different from how things go on. I would say try talking to someone else in your family or a close friend....maybe even a complete stranger. Sometimes they are the easiest to talk to and they can give you better advice than anyone else can.

Answer 3

Try to remember he doesn't get it because his parents didn't GET it and he is doing the best he can..but you have another PERFECT father that is just right always ..because he doesn't look at what we see he looks at your heart. He is your dad basically in matter well of your heart and of your soul and the peace u have; He is the only way you have love because you can not love unless he loves you first He is the source ..the other is base on need. Just tonight ..ask God ..what do you think Lord ? Just ask him to love you extra right now because you are having a tough time!! This is hard er if you do not heal with the Lord because you then look for this love or understanding from a man and he can't do it either..no that they don't want to but they are searching for the same..someone to get it..if you allow The Lord to parent you you will have that confidence with men later. You are some special that is adored !You will always be let down not just from people but by yourself..he Lord is the only reliable rock but this is to teach us not to base our happiness on circumstance or what others say .,.place your hop higher and it will never let you go![ Did you know Jesus called His father by different names.one is ABBA.. the name means bascially Dad or dady very familiar..there are time he scold s and times he conforts and ties he just hugs us Like the perfect Dad who can see out hearts! The you cant each this to your dad and he can have anABBA too!

Answer 4

i would go to the school counselor if you don't have one call a local crises line they are great with answers.if you don't ask around and you don't start putting a little trust in people you might end up like me.i cant trust anyone and i have a really hard time expressing my feelings to people.its not a fun life but at the same time its a good thing to hold on to cause you will always be able to tell when people lie to you.that is one gift you will appreciate when your older and in relationships

Answer 5

You should stop speaking in generalizations. You need to ask what you should do about SCHOOL. What should you do about friends (particular friend). What should you do about boys. I am sure that you already have an answer for each question. You are most likely trying to see if your answer is the right answer.

The right answer is easier to get when you ask someone that is close to you a simple question. This way they will share their feelings, and thoughts.

Answer 6

mmm.. your dad could maybe not be the best ot ask. men tend to not understand. when i was around your age i worried the same about all my problems. most the time they are school problems that eventually go away ..they come with the process of growing up..but if YOU deep down without letting the "wanna be victim" get the best of you think that they are deeper than that..than go to your school and speak to a counselor..they are "confidential" and you can trust them. i am always here to if youd like to e-mail me.
Good Luck hun

Answer 7

If you have real bad problems on trusting people then why would you ask a complete stranger on the internet, when they can mislead you and further break trust. Just aksing

rabidrotty

Answer 8

You can email me if you want to. You can trust me because if you tell me your problems I cant be going to your school or to your house and telling people all your problems cuz I dont even know where you live in the first place. So talk to someone online its easier than talking to someone who knows you. If you tell one of the people you know they could go everywhere and tell people you know what your problems are unlike people like me online who are more trust worthy cuz you know we cant go around telling people your problems.

Answer 9

Ask your dad to consider taking you to see a counselor and he will know for sure that you are serious. If not and you would like to try your counselor at school they will hear what you got to say and take the right steps in getting you help.

Answer 10

Do you have a friend you can confide in? Or a school counselor? Life is hard and it's important to have someone to talk to. If your dad isn't willing to let you go to a counselor do you have another adult you can talk to?? Good luck!!!!

Answer 11

Please go see your high school counselor. They understand what you are going through and have special training to help you. They can also talk to your dad, if you want, so he'll understand how important this is to you and they can recommend affordable help for you. Asking for help was very wise of you and I'm proud of you for doing it. I'm sorry your dad didn't understand and disappointed you. But don't give up.