are woman abused as much as they say?

Question

i realy am sorry if i am not asking this question the wright way. who many of you out there have been abused. the word abuse covers a wide renge of things, from psychological to sexsual and any thing in bewteen. the reason why i ask this question is because a friend of main was abused by her old boyfriend, some time ago. as she was telling me this she also said that 1 in 3 woman are abused. when i asked more about the astatistic, that was all she kwen, the munber it self. so insted of just looking up information in the internet i thought woudl get some answers from real people. man are also welcome to bring there opinion forward.

Answer 1

You might say that women are probably abused far more than they will admit. The shame that the abuse holds and the victimization that accompanies these emotions cause a great many women to not tell anyone the pain they are enduring.
Abuse can be sexual in nature, as in a young teen who is harassed at her first job in a fast food rest. It can be physical as a wife suffering from domestic abuse. It can take the form of sweatshops where illegal female immigrants work for hours for pennies. You need not even look past North America to see many examples of how women are treated with inequality and frequently violence and femicide. Ask any police person and they will verify that very few domestic assaults or rapes are ever reported because of the extensive shame and humiliation both of these crimes cause with the stigma.
I haved worked for twenty years in health care and I have seen a great deal of severe abuse. I have also seen young girls who cannot even look into your eyes because their spirit and souls have been stolen from them. Yes abuse is a problem and the majority that suffer are females and children. The reason being because they have less power, resources and protection.

Answer 2

In my opinion those statistics include the woman pissed up with her own conduct after a night out and calling date rape. Sometimes if family or boyfriend catches her fooling around she may cry rape to escape the condemnation of significant others.
If a couple with kids break up mother wants custody and she knows accusing husband of child abuse gives her a ticket to custody. Try to imagine other scenarios. Many women are really abused and significant proportion also is milking and abusing the system for their own benefit.

Answer 3

some women get overly abused. alot of women take abuse secretly because they are scared of losing their husbands, he might just abuse her more if she threaten to call the police. some men are so bold as to threaten to take the kids if the woman decide to seek refuge especially when the woman is a stay at home mom.
i have spoken to many woman young and old and it seems loke there is an epidemic of abuse that the world do not know about. because the women suffer silently. come tell me that is not abuse when a stay-at-home-mom cannot even purchase a fancy underwear or a hair do because all the money she gets is from CCTB and the man pockets all. she has no financial freedom. the man can purchase smokes as soon as he draws his paycheck but he cannot take care of the mother of his child who sacrifices her job, walks out in cold temperature to catch the bus to take the kids to programs. He thinks all her friends are brainwashing her and she should cut them off from her life.yet he is always out with his friends after work. what time does she get for herself. NONE! BUT HE he goes to the gym,buys smokes, eat out where she cannot even buy an underwear.
women are battered,insulted, have sex with when are tired and just need some rest. some men think women are super women or an energizer battery.
imagine a long hard day with a breastfed baby, a 3 year old toddler and an 11 years old child who all attend programmes in the community. the mommy doing all the running around. after settling the children in bed, she takes shower and just tries to read a book but her husband demands she pleasure him. After all she is not a robot and in my eyes that is abuse.

and trust me i see alot of women who take it with a smile because the men let it look like they are getting the best part of the bargain. they must bear it or suffer. but aren't they already suffering?
i knew a man who before leaving for work in the morning, would disconnect the television so his wife would not watch television. the only radio in the house had no batteries and it could not be pugged in the curcuit.
young girls being pimped and men thinks they are genial.some women are scared to speak to their husband because he will storm.because the men know they are scared ,they slam doors, try to belittle them and the list can go on.

Answer 4

i wouldnt be surprised if ur friends guess of 1 in 3 women get abused is correct. nor would i be surprised if it were more. Many women who get abused dont talk about it because they are ashamed or they blame themselves or because they dont want friends/ family to dislike the abusive partner. Many people dont consider the occassional slap or shove to be abuse so they wouldnt bother to report it or even consider themselves abusive or abused. It is not ok for partners(men and women) to abuse each other and if they are they need to get help or get away from the relationship especially if children are involved.It is not good for anyone.

Answer 5

I've worked on crisis help lines and yes, many women are raped and never tell the police, and often don't tell their families. They've seen how society blames them for their rapist's actions.

I've also talked with a number of women who have been raped as a child (under 12) by a male family member or male family friend. The women didn't tell anyone until they were adults since they were afraid that'd be hurt even more by their rapists (plus, incest and child rape wasn't even discussed 30-40 years ago...no one admitted it could even happen).

I've also talked with women who were being beaten, slapped, kicked, etc and didn't leave because they were afraid the man would kill them (some had left and nearly been beaten to death). Often their families didn't believe them, since they didn't want to believe that their son was capable of such brutality. Other families thought that was how women deserved to be treated.

Sexual harassment still occurs in the work place, I worked at a location where pornographic pictures were left in women's offices by some of the male staff, some men told dirty jokes to men in front of the women, and some of the men talked about how women looked in front of them to other men (these were computer programmers at a company headquarters, in the 80's).

I wish it wasn't true, but 1 in 3 women being raped in their lifetime sounds true, in the US. It's estimated that 1 in 4 girls (under 12) are raped in the US, usually by their male family members as well.That doesn't include battering or sexual harrassment.

Answer 6

The truth is, there is abuse *equally* in both directions|

But it is important to qualify this|

This abuse of *man on woman* and *woman on man,* does not apply to all men and women|


The abusing man is the *macho man,* which is the perversion of masculinity|

The abusing woman is the *feminist woman,* which is the perversion of femininity|

The macho man abuses the *good woman,* and the feminist woman abuses the *good man|*


So we have *four elements* in this system|


(1) The *good man* who respects and cherishes the good woman|

(2) The *good woman* who respects and cherishes the good man|

(3) The *macho man* who abuses and uses the good woman for his own gain|

(4) The *feminist woman* who abuses and humiliates the good man for her own pleasure and satisfaction|


We can see the dynamics in play here|| ||

Now both feminsits and machos conspire together to do *two things|*


The first thing they conspire together to do is get machos together with good women, and to sic feminists on good men|

The second thing they do is conspire to prevent good men and good women from getting together|

They do this by telling lies to one about what the other does or says| This is to lead the good man and the good woman to a false impression about the other| Many romances that would have been wonderful have been thwarted by this means|


What is *most* perverted is that when a good man and a good woman are in the process of getting together, they will bring a macho man into the good woman's life to steal her from the good man| This will ruin the good woman and emasculate the good man|


This sort of stuff is also written into government laws, where if a good man persues a good woman the honorable way, he is up for harassment charges|

But if a macho man persues a good woman with trickery, just as an aim to use her and then when he is done with her spit her out, then that is OK with everybody|


Understanding the dynamics involved is half the battle of fighting it|




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Answer 7

Yes. Out of a group of 10 women, 8 will admit to sexual abuse within their family. I am one of the 8.
It leaves you with poor self-esteem and an inability to recognize abusive behavior in boyfriends and husbands.
A question I have is "Why do so many men abuse?"

Answer 8

I think that some women make up stories or over dramatize to get attention...BUT< I can speak from expeirence. I was raped by a guy that I dated. We broke up and he got angry..the rest is historty.. Not all guys who have been accused are abusers.

Answer 9

A lot of women that get abused don't tell anyone. A lot of men get abused and most of them don't tell anyone.

Answer 10

well i am a 26 years old woman, and i was raped by my dads freind when i was 16. and my husband is very verbally abusive and has hit me once, and choked me once, i told him if he ever lays a hand on me again, i'm out and he hasn't touched me since, but the verbal has never stopped. sometimes that is worse. your bruises on your body fade, but wounds on your heart stay forever.