he said he loved me twice when we were together and it was in the same day. he looked like he ment it to. but the next day he broke up with me. he was going though alot of family problems then. but idk. just a few days ago he whispered in my ear that he still loves me and i said the same to him. but after that it was like he never said it. we're friends but i still love him to death. so idk if i should believe him when he said he still loves me, last time i did i got really hurt. should i believe him? - i want to, but i dont want to get hurt like that again. he's the only guy who can make feel this way. help?
2007-02-11 11:49:21 · 15 answers · asked by lumpy_rockstar_fairy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Many times people will realize they miss something and try to get it back, especially after breaking up with someone. It's up to you to decide what you want to do. You can choose to pursue a relationship again with him, or you can choose to move on. If you choose to move on you should not have any contact with him for a couple of months, at least. That will give you time to get over him and find somebody new. Unfortunately you cannot choose not to be hurt again, it will most likely happen (either because of him or because of someone else). There's not much you can do about that except to accept it as a life experience. Keep in mind, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
2007-02-18 16:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he's at the point where he just wants the attention. This kind of thing happens a lot. When a relationship end you are far more lonely that you were before the relationship even began...and even if you know that it wont work...you go into this "i don't care who loves me...as long as somebody does" thing. So (even though you a probably a great girl) he is probably just soaking up all the attention he can get. Be careful, because if he finds someone else to give him the attention that he is craving...he'll drop you with no explanation...
I hope that's not too harsh...but I've been there, and It hurts...I want you to be aware so you can protect yourself.
One more thing...I know it seems like he is the only guy that makes you feel this way...but when you meet someone who really loves you...you'll realize how little this guy actually means.
2007-02-19 05:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by LoveBats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real query is, do you need to be with him? If no longer, then ignore him. If it is attention he's looking for, don't provide it to him. However for those who do, work whatever out with him. Start slowly, simply as friends and notice if it will work this time. Don't soar into a relationship for the reason that he needs to otherwise you think you will have to. Do it on the grounds that you wish to have to.
2016-08-10 15:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if a guy hurt you more then one time. then it is time for you to look on. because sooner or later this guy will hurt you where when a good guy comes alone you will be so hurt from this one you want see the good in him. and before you know it you will be pass your husband by. for some one that going to be hurting you for the rest of your life. don't do that to yourself you are better then that
2007-02-19 08:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by marsha w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE ARE ALOT MORE FISH IN THE SEA BABE ! don't get caught up on this one he sounds like a jack *** to me one of those guys that just wants you when he wants you and throws you away when he is done! why do us women fall for that ? i think it's that want what u can't have deal. the only thing that i can see this guy is good for is friends with benifits and i am sure u don't want that because there is already feelings involved so i say tell him to beat it!
2007-02-19 05:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him. If he truely loved you than he wouldn't hurt you. If he really 'loves' you but acts like that then he has issues. There are a ton of guys out there, get away from him & let a good guy find you.
2007-02-19 07:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....you said he went through alot of problems with his family maybe he broke up with you because he felt that he needed to be with his family and didnt want to hurt you. but he did right. well if really love him and he says he loves you ...you should consider talking to him and tell him how you feel......if you guys are meant to be...there is nothing that will seperate you. fight for ur love but ake sure you dont get hurt.
2007-02-19 07:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run,run as fast as you can from him.You answered your own question ,'I DON'T WANT TO GET HURT LIKE THAT AGAIN '.He's not the only guy to make you feel that way ,didn't you say that you were hurt ,that's not the greatest feeling .Let yourself heal ,then find the person who makes you feel like a million dollars ,always ,with problems and without problems because that's just life
2007-02-11 12:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by colliedogcody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the genuine question is, do you prefer to be with him? If no longer, then forget approximately approximately him. If that is interest he's calling for, do no longer supply it to him. yet once you do, paintings some thing out with him. initiate slowly, purely as acquaintances and notice if that is going to paintings this time. do no longer bounce right into a relationship simply by fact he needs to or you think of you will desire to. Do it considering you prefer to.
2016-09-28 23:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by heusel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 1st question is he married? If not then find a way to talk to him and tell him what you really feel. If he is still in love with you then wait until he is stable and ready. Love always finds its way.
2007-02-19 11:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋