i have a friend,he's gay and very promiscuous,how can i shove in his head that he needs to use protection?

Question

im just worried about him.he is right now with 4 guys.i dont know how he do it.but i know he is not using condoms.

Answer 1

Take him to an Aids hospice and let him see for himself the consequences of having unprotected sex!

Answer 2

You cant!!

He's a grown man, and if he wants to go out and do grown man things with 4 other grown men and no condoms, that's his business.

He's gonna have sex with whoever he wants howerver he wants, and it's not your place to make him do it any other way.

Yes, he's taking his life in his own hands by doing that.

But the key word in that sentence is HE - HE is taking HIS life in HIS own hands - it's his decision and that's that. It is a bad decision, but it's his decision to make.

You're his friend, not his mommy.

Just like straight guys, gay guys don't like being told what to do by a woman (it doesn't matter if your 100% right and he's 100% wrong - it's the principle of the thing and the fact that you're right makes it even harder for him to do it your way).

It's a male ego thing, and there's no way around it for you!

Sorry - but that's just how men are.

You can't change a man!

So do yourself and your friend a big favor

Please do NOT be the typical nagging female, constantly pestering him to change!!

Instead, accept him and love him AS HE IS!!!

He's a grown man, and he likes to have raw dog sex with other men - you probably knew that about him when you became his friend, and it's unfair to expect him to change now!!!

Don't be a pestering nag, love him for the man he is, not the man you want him to be!!!

Bottom line, like I said above, YOU CAN'T CHANGE A MAN!!!

So ignore the girls above who told you to nag or scare him into using condoms, and just get used to the fact that your friend is into irresponsible unprotected sex! It's his life, and he's living it on his terms and there's nothing you can do about it!!!!

Answer 3

He has free will. He's out there and he is aware so let it be. When AIDS bites him in the promiscuous it'll be too late for him to say oops I should have listened. People sometimes have to learn lessons the hard way. You can't save him from himself.

Answer 4

You can't and it's not your place to do that. He already knows the risks, so it's up to him as an adult to make choices. You can worry about him, but you can't, and shouldn't, try to change him.

A wise man once said "It's hard enough to change my own behavior - I have no chance of changing anyone else's"

Answer 5

Have an intervention with people that have AIDS. Let him see with his own eyes the risk that he's taking before his luck runs out.

Answer 6

You need to show him what could happen if he isn't safe, and also show him the benefits to wearing a condom he needs to know the risks if he doesnt use one.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Bills little one has an excellent idea. My step sisters mom died from AIDS from using dirty heroine needles & if he saw her in the last months of her life, he'd for sure use protection

Answer 8

Print out huge pics of STD's and like an aids virus.... If that doesnt work then he deserves what he gets

Answer 9

I have a couple of friends .. guys and girls ... they are all straight and very promiscuous.

Its not a one-sided issue, is it?

Answer 10

i don't feel sorry for him, i feel sorry for whoever is gullible enuf to sleep with him & HE gives THEM aids cuz he didn't no he had it. something like that happened to my neighbor. the hubby was a cheat & passed aids to his loyal wife. she died of it two months after giving birth.