My wife's new hobby has reunited her with an old childhood gal pal who shares the same interest. This girl has made sexual advances toward me. The first time it happened, I told my wife and she kind of blew it off even though she knows this girl is capable of messing around on her husband. The second time it happened and I told my wife about it, she was more convinced but is still persuing a new found relationship with her. Why would my wife want a girl who wants to screw her husband hanging around? Is this a test, trap?
2007-02-11 11:42:44 · 15 answers · asked by The Central Scrutinizer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you tell the friend you are NOT interested? If you did, and she persists, it is sexual harassment. I'm not talking about legalities and stuff; just not a nice or civilized thing to do to someone. It makes you uncomfortable and she persists in it.
If your wife cannot see what her friend is doing, or cares so little for your feelings, then shame on her! She either has some very weird agenda herself or she is extremely insensitive to your feelings.
If I were you I would openly address the problem in front of both of them--- See what their reactions are.
2007-02-11 12:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a faithful husband. Why don't you talk to your wife's friend? Just 'quietly' record all the conversation that you will have with that girl.
Do you have a mobile phone or something that you can use to record your conversation without her knowing it. Make sure she doesn't know it so she will just act normal. If you can do it on video the better.
You can use that as a proof to your wife.
I just think that your wife's friend is stabbing your wife in the back.
That kind of woman is not a good friend. Save your wife and your relationship.
Mine is just a suggestion.
2007-02-11 12:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I just don't understand. Someone hits on my hubby (not currently married but been there, done that for many years), friend or not, they would be told nicely ONE time that they're over stepping their bounds. The second time...it's on. If she's testing you, one time was enough that should have proven to her you weren't going to fall for it. If nothing else works, as a last resort I would confront the friend right in front of my wife. Get it out in the open when you are all together.
2007-02-11 11:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her that? Perhaps it is a test...or perhaps she really likes this woman and has enough trust and faith in you that she feels nothing would ever happen.
I'd bring the subject up again though, and discuss it frankly. And if I were you, next time girlfriend made a move on me, I'd make it VERY clear what I thought about any woman who would do that, much less someone who claims to be your wife's good friend.
2007-02-11 11:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife trusts you apparently. However, she needs to confront the friend. Or maybe u should make it clear to her friend that you are not interested and you would appreciate if she kept her advances to herself.
This will reassure ur wife (if it is a test), and it should be the end of the advances from the friend.
Personally, if i was wifey, i would lose the friend. I dont want another woman deliberately disrespecting me. Just my opinion.
Good luck.
2007-02-11 12:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why she would want to still be friends. Let me ask you this. Have you seen childhood pictures of them together? Any proof of any type of history whatsoever? I'm just wondering if this is a situation where she has hired a "childhood friend" to hit on you and see if you are faithful. You clearly are so if that was the case why she would continue I don't know. Maybe she is trying to see if she "doesn't believe you" will you cave? Seems awfully fishy if you ask me.
2007-02-11 11:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what that is?? but you best to stay away from her friend.. and if she continues to make passes at you.. then confront her friend with the truth in front of your wife.. that is the only way your wife is going to take you sereous cause she may think you are just acting jelous of her friend of the time they are spending together.. so do what i tell you and you will see results. good luck.
2007-02-11 12:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably a test. You're wife probably put her up to it, to see if you would cheat on her. Don't fall into the trap. When it happens again, don't bother saying anything. Your wife will know about it. No. one rule, if you're going to cheat, make sure your wife does'nt know her.
2007-02-11 12:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by mike r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't no but it don't sound to good. I sure wouldn't want some friend of mine hitting on my man. If it is a test trap as you but it it is a sick one. Why don't you ask your wife this question?
2007-02-11 11:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by letitbeyou1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she trusts you not to do anything. It isn't normal for her to still want to be friends with her. You should talk to her and tell her how much it bothers you. She is lucky to have such an honest man. Alot of men would have jumped at the chance.
2007-02-11 11:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋