what do i do?

Question

im in tears, my boyfriend of 3 years and i have been engaged since november, just recently i found out i am pregnant, i was going to wait for 3 more days to tell him (on valentines day) problem is he just left me this morning for my CO-WORKER AND BEST FRIEND!!
what do i do now i love him and dont my baby to be without his/her father!!

he left me at 11 a.m. it is now 8:30 pm and he just walked into what was our home crying cuz he was upset he is in the shower and should i take him back?
He doesnt know i am pregnant yet...
my ex best friend called me crying to and said she is moving to calgary (other side of canada)....WHAT DO I DO NOW....

is he playing games.....or did he leave me for her to break it off with her and come back to me.......help

He is being very appoligetic and i can tell he is hurting from all this i mean 3 years with him i know what he does for every emotion...

Answer 1

Start looking into adoption so this baby can have TWO reliable, committed, stable parents. This whole melodrama makes me think you two are teenagers and a baby deserves better than the games you two are playing. Its unfortunate that you allowed an unplanned pregnancy to happen.

Answer 2

As hard as it is, I wouldn't tell him that he's the father. Of course, I really don't know how it works it you didn't tell him. Do some research first before making a decision. and be sure what your rights are just in case there might be a custody battle or see a lawyer. I would rather for you to be safe than sorry. As far as your so-called best friend goes. I would cut her out your life for good and your boyfriend along with her. I've been there but, in a similar situation. The thing was I found another job and got out of it. It did make me feel better and my life got better. It will just gets worse anyway and besides you're too good of a person and he certainly doesn't deserve you. I'M SO SORRY that he did this to you and your best friend. Above all, at the workplace! Oh boy, what I would suggest you try and do is pull yourself together and find another job and get away from the situation. Your first priority is you and this beautiful little one you're bringing into the world and focus your life on blue or pink!
Don't worry about being a single parent. Hopefully, you have your parents (when your ready to tell them) and better friends or relatives you can depend on to help you through this. I know you can do it.!! Prove to these people in the meantime( I know it won't be easy) that you NOTHING bothers you. Whatever you do ignore them no matter what, unless it's business. Be professional and show them you're definately a better person than them. If anything is said about...........just walk away and ignore,ignore. I so hope things will work out for you...I hope this was helpful!

Answer 3

Oh hunny, i am soooo sorry. What an a$$ he is. But, u need to pull yourself together, u dont need to be crying. Not good for the baby. I am in somewhat the same boat. I am 7 months pregnant, my bf walked when i was 4 months. But, hey, its his loss.
Well, like it or not....u still gotta tell him. If u do, it might make a difference with his decision. However, u need to rethink the situation now. Can he be trusted? If he does come back, is it because he loves u, or is it for the wrong reason?
Talk to him, tell him you are pregnant and see if the two of you can come to some sort of resolution.
I honestly wish u all the best. Email me if you need someone to talk to. Good luck hun.

Answer 4

Dont worry about him and move on with your life without him. Go ahead and have this precious baby and once it is born go after him for child support. Raise this baby as best as you know how and you do not need a man to do this with. You can let him know that you are pregnant with his child But do not take him back or play his games.

Answer 5

Tell him now that you are pregant with his child. If he is not going to support you and the baby look into getting child support checks! I know that your life feels like a mess right now but you have to stay strong and do what is best for you and your baby. I would suggest joining a support group. Maybe with a local church or just a "moms group" of some kind. Being pregnant and having a baby alone is hard, you need someone to support you.

Answer 6

I'm so so sorry sweetie, however you still need to tell him. It might not do any good, but he has the right to know that he's a father-to-be. Think about it, has he been faithful, is there any way he could have been sleeping around on you? And do you really need someone like that in your life?

Answer 7

(((hugs))) I'm sorry this happened to you ... please take extra special care of yourself during this time. I wish you well :-)

Here's some Dr. Phil advice;

In time, it is absolutely vital to put the pain behind you and move forward with your life and love. Otherwise, you are giving away your power to the people who hurt you.

Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.

Be careful about the language you use. When you use catastrophic terms like "nightmare," "terrible," and "horrible," you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Focus on what you can do.

Don't embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you'll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high.

Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you know there's a risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest. You can go through life suspicious, or loving and laughing

Answer 8

Aren't you glad you didn't marry this jerk? And don't you wish you had used protection so you wouldn't have this problem . You can't do anything that will solve the problem. It takes two people to have a relationship and only one to end it. Are you sure you love him after you found out what a creep he is? Perhaps you love what you THOUGHT he was.

Answer 9

Tell him about the baby then let him go because if he is unhappy you will be unhappy and that is no-way to raise a child besides what kind of idiot leaves his girl of 3 yrs for her friend, and what type of friend is that anyways.Neither of them are worth the tears your shedding.

Answer 10

Talk to him and tell him. If you've been together for 3 years, I hope he'll change his mind. If he doesn't you're going to have to be strong for you baby's sake. You can raise the baby by yourself. Women do it all the time. You don't really want to be with someone that would cheat on you with your best friend. I wish you and your baby the best. God bless.