I have joint custody(not physical) and I have pleaded with her to see the court appointed psychologist. The psychologist even called and she refuses to see him. This would help the kids so much they are 6.11 and 13. She continues to take them out of state on my scheduled visitation days as well as makes medical decisions without consulting me. This is all in violation of the divorce decree. She continually puts the blame on me when in reality it is both of our faults. She had her friend a recently released mental patient watch the kids in order to save money. Meanwhile I never miss one child support payment and sometimes pay three weeks at a time. Even now when I see her she screams and yells at me in front of the chldren about being late to a basketball game, Any advice on what to do once she gets the court papers?
2007-02-11 11:29:57 · 7 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hard one, situations like this are never nice to deal with. Probably the best thing you can do on your part is show up on time to pick the kids up, if she starts yelling and screaming at you just try to hustle the kids out as quickly as possible and don't let her bait you so that you yell back. Give the kids at least one mature, dependable parent to look up to since from the sound of it they can't depend on her to be adult about things. If you are worried about her reaction to the papers, maybe as that someone from the local police dept. accompany you there to pick the kids up. That will also give you documentation as to how she acts. Good luck to you and your kids!
2007-02-11 11:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The contempt is exactly what you should do, and file contempt every time she pulls this on your visitation time. You also need to file for the physical custody of these children. It is also a violation of the divorce for her not to consult you regarding anything concerning these children. Best way to get proof of her verbal abuse is carry a tape recorder in your pocket, turn it on when you get there, and tape all conversations with her on the phone. Discuss (for proof) how she does not have the children ready to go with you on her visitation days. Also get some info on the mental patient that she is leaving the kids with, this is another violation. When she gets the papers? Ignore her, if you go to pick up the kids, be armed with a tape recorder. Attorney and Judges likes this kind of proof. Sounds to me like you have a good case here to turn this thing around, take the kids, let her have to pay support and come for visitation. I do not know what state you live in, but in Texas, she would have lost them already.
2007-02-11 11:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an appointment with The Children's Protective Services division in your city. When you do have a court hearing, it would be very helpful to have a home study submitted by a State Agency with their observation and possible recommendations. It is not mentally healthy for young children to be involved like this. Best wishes
2007-02-11 11:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by tylernmi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a court order is likely not going to improve things. the kids don't need to be in the middle of arguments. your lawyer should try to tell her lawyer that these actions are not acceptable. by the way, how did you get papers filed on a sunday?
2007-02-11 11:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get proof and take it to court. Have the psychologist go to court with you or write a letter.
2007-02-11 11:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep an eye on her make sure she knows you love the kids and the judge will decide it all ,make sure you have dates of things and reciepts
2007-02-11 11:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by bill n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
iF WHAT YOU SAY IS TRUE, WHY ARE YOU WORRIED?
2007-02-11 11:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋