My sister-in-law and I are going to bridesmaids in our sister-in-laws wedding. She has stated she does not want us to be pregnant at all (not even early pregnancy). We don't think it is right. Just wanted to know what others thought.
2007-02-11 11:21:02 · 22 answers · asked by hottee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm not sure that I understand her concern for your pregnancy - at least if you are newly pregnant and not even showing. If you aren't pregnant or don't plan on being pregnant, I wouldn't worry about it. There's no reason to get worked up over something that doesn't exist at this point.
If you are pregnant, there's nothing you can do about it anyway. What does she expect you to do? And if you get pregnant, especially without planning it, is she going to be mad at you? What for? And what would you do about it?
Sounds like she's being straight up ridiculous! If she's concerned about pictures, I can see wanting the uniformity of everyone looking as much alike as possible, but everyone is an individual and it only adds to the story behind the picture!
Good luck!
2007-02-11 11:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Amber R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get some bridesmaids who aren't sexually active or married. I wouldn't want to be standing up with a gal who was so shallow, to tell you the truth.
I would say that the role of bridesmaid is about supporting the bride, not about obeying her or letting her dictate what's best for their life and family. If she's more interested in how her wedding party is going to look than how they will support her, I'd let her have shallow, obedient, useless bridesmaids.
Of course, the duties of bridesmaid can be tough on someone who's pregnant. Having to stand up for hours in heels and an uncomfortable dress isn't the greatest even for gals who aren't pregnant.
2007-02-11 19:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by dreemac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's right. My bestfriend got married and i was the maid of honor and i was pregnant and so was another girl. I shouldn't matter cuz it's your life not hers what gives her the right sure its her wedding but its your pregnancy and if she is embarrased by that she probally wants everything to be proper and she is being selfish. If someone told me that and i was pregnant i would be like ok well i guess i won't be in the wedding. She should be happy for you or whoever is pregnant. I bet she would have a diff opinion if you were the one getting married and she was pregnant and you said that. I don't think it's right period who is she to judge and shows how selfish she is. I think pregnant brides maids are pretty for some reason lol i guess cuz they glow.
2007-02-11 19:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by everlasting_matchstick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well isn't that too bad for her.I was 6 and half months pregnant and I was a bridesmaid for my brothers wedding.My sister in law was just fine with it and I even had to get a special maternity dress made that did not match the others!!I think she should be a little more understanding.
2007-02-11 19:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Pearce 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bridezilla in the making. Who the heck cares if the bridesmaids are pregnant, as long as the bride isn't? Now THAT looks silly.
2007-02-11 21:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is awful to ask someone not to start a family because you do not want any pregnant bridesmaids. She sounds like a real piece of work.
2007-02-11 19:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that's a pretty crappy request. Let her know how you feel and ask her why she doesn't want pregnant bridesmaids. They do make great dresses these days to match everyone else's in the bridal party.
2007-02-11 19:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she has no control over whether or not you're pregnant! That's just ridiculous. I was eight months pregnant with my last for my sister's wedding (and I was matron of honor). I wouldn't have planned it that way, but that's when the wedding was...
2007-02-11 19:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it is crazy ...... why does it matter if your pregnant or not?? I am getting married at the end of next month and one of my bridesmaides is prego! And i think its cute and she looks really good in the dress we picked out!
2007-02-11 21:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by HaZeLeYeZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a 32 wk pregnant bride so i don't have a problem with it. If your trying to conceive and she's asked this of you it's very selfish of her. If this was requested of me i'd rather not be a part of the bridal party and her ludicrous demands.
2007-02-12 07:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋