How Do I Get Over A Violent Crime?

Question

I asked a similar question like this one but I wanted to know how do I get over something like this. See I am a victim of violent gang rape. And even though this happen 6 years ago this month. I'm still having the nightmare's the trust issues, the depression, the crying, and I keep reliving what happen to me. My boyfriend get's upset when I cry or talk about it like he is tired of hearing it. So I just wanted to know is it normal for me to keep going through this or is something wrong with me. Please I just need some advice. How do I get over something like this and will the pain ever go away.

Answer 1

You need to get a bunch of ex-convicts to gang rape your boyfriend in a dark alley. Then, when he tells you what happened, tell him to get over it.

What a loser. You don't need him. What you're experiencing is totally normal. I'm being serious when I say this, but I watched A Clockwork Orange (one of my favorite movies) and I saw what I think is a gang rape scene. No f.cking wonder you're shaken up. You need to have a reliable support system. I hope those f.ckers that raped you got their justice served. Don't be afraid to seek professional help if you think it'd soothe some of your anxieties. Good luck, and I'm sorry that happened to you.

Answer 2

I agree with what the others have said so far. I too was a victim of a violent gang rape. I would not have survived the after math of nightmares, PTSD, etc without the love & support of my family, friends, & my counselor. You need therapy to help you get some closure to this issue. Check your local area phone book to see if there are support groups in your area. Also you can try the yellow pages online for the community you live in.

Answer 3

have you been to group sessions? Or have you and your boyfriend gone through counseling? These are very important for both your recoveries. If your boyfriend wasn't around, he has no clue what your stress factors are. Let a lone what you have gone through.
This may leave you scared for a very long time, until you get help. And he boyfriend gets upset, thank him for his support, and ask him if he would like a shaft rammed up his ***. Not once but 10 to 12 times. Let him know his anger isn't helping you at all. Once you really get pissed and start fighting back, you will remain helpless.
Get the help you need, forget about others feelings, they weren't there, they didn't go through your trauma, and they DON'T know how you feel.
My daughter was raped at work, when she was working, the guy tried to kill her by pushing her into an industrial dryer and turning it on. They never filed attempted murder charges on him, just the rape.
Good Luck, and God speed your healing.

Answer 4

Okay, a gang rape and your screen name is "sweet sexy"? Most individuals who have been violated in the way you say you were, would refrain from such personal references as sexy. Yes you need to seek counseling, woman who have been raped can go through the mental effects many times for the rest of their lives and a gang rape is more devastating. I will pray that you will find peace from this and will be able to go on to live a life where you can hopefully forget what happened, while it is easier said than done, time does heal most wounds and the mind does cloud, so may the future bring happier things and times to out weigh the past. God Bless.

Answer 5

You know, that sort of thing is more common than you know|

Good people everywhere are being subject to the most horrible trials.

I know of one girl in which a boy drove her to a location to have her gang raped. They he acted all innocent and said that even though she was out with him, he didn't know where she was|

I could see her in the Church with all her femininity stripped away|

But when I saw her a few months later, she looked much better, mostly back to her feminine self| So she was definitely healing in a significant way|

You are in great pain now, but believe it or not, you are in great shape| I can see from your icon that you are a very beautiful woman|

We have to know that all things are allowed for a reason|

It may seem to be the most horrid thing imaginable at the time, but in the long view, we understand that it was the best thing that could have happened, because we wouldn't be who we are today if we hadn't suffered that trial. There are secret joys and secret knowledge that can only be given if one has been baptized in fire first|

I know that this sort of thing is true from experience|




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Answer 6

That is a terrible thing for you to have gone through. What you need to do is to get into counseling to find closure. You are suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome. You were in no way responsible for the attack. You did not ask for it to happen; you are not a bad person and did not deserve this to happen to you. If you cannot afford counseling, call the rape crisis hotline and talk to someone, or get in a support group of people like yourself who have been victims themselves. You need to talk about this, and this would enable you to do this. When something tragic happens to us, the people around us cannot understand what it is we are going through. They can sympathize with us, but then after a while they begin to tire of the crying and hearing us talk about it. That is why it is important to talk with others who are experiencing the same trauma in their lives as you are. God bless you, and please call your local law enforcement facility or outreach programs to find a program that can and will help you.

Answer 7

i am the victim of a horrendous emotional crime. the act was deliberate, intentional, and destructive.
first i experienced disbelief that people could be this evil. i then moved into a 3-6 month severe depression where i emtoially beat myself up and wanted death to take me away from the hurt and pain. next came my wanting to get even period. i wanted my assailants to hurt and suffer as much as i was. i still hold onto this, four years later. my final stage was to accept the past and move into the future.
this is not to say that i forgave and forgot. hell no! i dream, as you exxpressed, about the hurt and pain at least 2-3 nights per week. i see a pyschiatrist every three weeks to learn coping skills. nothing seems to free me from the hurt and hatred. it's consuming me.
most of all, i have to live with the realization that i was brutalized and no one went to my defense. i was so weak and beaten down that i couldn't even defend myself. i will have to go to my grave feeling like a loser.

Answer 8

Yes, you can work through this. You really should seek out some counseling services, they are many times offered for free or very low cost through a rape crisis center. Or you could contact a psychologist. There are numbers listed in your local yellow pages, such as rape crisis hot line. This would be a very good place to begin. And please do seek some assistance in dealing with this, it will not just go away, you are going to need some trained professional support. Good luck to you and God bless****

Answer 9

I think you are having flash backs. What happened to you is something that most of us could never imagine. Have you been to counseling? Even if you did go in the past. I think you should go. Because this is still having an impact on your life. What happen is not your fault. But you need to get help. So you can go on with your life and have a happy productive life

Answer 10

It is o.k. to feel angry. It is o.k. to be depressed. It is o.k. to be scared. It is o.k. to have nightmares. It is also o.k. to be happy. It is also o.k. to have sweet dreams. It is also o.k. not to be depressed.
The only thing to ever have trust in is God. The memories of that day are what protects you in the future. Your dreams are simply sorting things out in your brain. The fact you ask this questions is proof of the healing process.
I suggest that you educate others on ways of preventing this from happening to other people. What has happend to you has stored enormous power within you. It will soon become a source of strength with the acknowledgment that you survived something that many don't. What more can this planet do to you? What more is there to fear? You took the worst the world has to offer and you emerged victorious.