well you see i fell in love with this guy, and hes stright and am not. so am gay and i fallen in love with a guy at my school. the past week i have been avoiding him, not looking at him becuse every second that i do this sharp pain is in my heart and i cant seem to shake this feeling off. The worst part is, i see him filrting with other girls and that makes the pain even bigger, and painful. i just dont know what to do anymore, and am tired of fighting.
2007-02-11 11:14:56 · 10 answers · asked by Bicente G 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What you have is a crush. I'm well familiar with it as I've suffered from them also.
You cannot change the fact that he's straight and likes girls, so the only thing you can do is let him go and put your interest in things that support you better than this painful crush.
He's not the only one out there and not even the best one for you!
Love yourself, be kind to yourself. Find joyful activities to put into the building of your life.
You will find love with a like-minded individual with whom you can build a life.
2007-02-11 11:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by flywho 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do about how you feel, but there's plenty you can do about the way you act. If he's been friendly in the past, it's cruel and unnecessary to avoid him. However, you must not put any meaning behind simple things he does as a friend. If he is heterosexual (and most men are) then you must not show your feelings for him.
Although feelings are extremely intense in our teens, they are also typically quite brief; in a few months you'll meet someone else that you will feel attracted to, and you'll lose that intense feeling for him. Try and get into a Gay/Straight Alliance, Gay Teen, or other support group so that you can meet men who will be interested in returning your affection.
2007-02-11 12:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the people answering the questions " get cured" or "the devil is temping you" are huge closet cases or they would not be in the gay section of answers. Right!? But anyway don't pay attention to those idiots. You are gay so what. You were meant to be that way, or you would be straight. But to your question....Its just a crush, you will go through alot of crushes trust me. I had a crush on a straight guy. He was my best friend. It was hard but I realized that I deserved someone who like me back the same way. And to rebuttal the guy who said don't you want to get married and have kids....Um... gays can have kids too. Its call artificial insemination or adoption or even going as far as intercourse with a girl. I have lots a freinds who have kids and are gay. Good luck dude!
2007-02-11 11:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by cordn8or22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you will possibly have asked me this question a year in the past, i might of have responded the comparable way maximum men have already got, which have been basically in it for the appearance, and intercourse yet iv come to discover over that element how a lot a guy can love, and the way captivating it relatively is to sense that connection with somone
2016-12-17 14:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do the same thing anyone does when they fall in love with someone who, for whatever reason, they can't be with: let it go. Cry, mourn the fact that you can't be together, grieve, and then get over it and find yourself an awesome guy who will be able to love you back just as much as you love him.
I'm sorry, I know it hurts, but it'll fade. Hold strong.
2007-02-11 11:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Move on my friend. You're just gonna get beat up. Look for a nice gay kid, to hook up with. (I assume that you're young from the question). Watch their eyes, you'll figure out who's interested!
2007-02-11 11:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by ramblin' robert 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are not gay, you only want to think so because of what you have heard. You are not tired of fighting, you just want selfishly what you think you want and not really wanting to fight. Satan is trying to lead you down a path and you are suckered by people who tell you it is alright to pursue that which is abnormal.
2007-02-11 11:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by zeepogee 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is normal to feel affection for someone of the same sex. It is perversion to express that affection sexually. The Almighty gave men a great gift in love sex and marriage. If you take it apart, you destroy it!
2007-02-11 11:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
im in love with a girl and i ima girl...i see it no different if i was in love with a man...i love who i love and there is nothing wrong with that
2007-02-11 11:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get a sex change, and change your name to Michelle, THEN approach him.
2007-02-11 11:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋