Im a bit worried cos I think I'm a freak. I very much beleive in equality and so does my husband which is cool. I recently found out (thru trial and error. lol) that I love it when my husband dominates me sexually. I think i like it too much. iss this wierd?
2007-02-11 11:09:03 · 17 answers · asked by baba o'reilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Freak, maybe. Wierd, no. Different things turn different people on. You aren't as alone as you might think in liking a bit of domination in the bedroom. It has nothing to do with how you view the outside world. As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else experiment away. A lot of it could be a novelty thing - its something new and therefore its a turnon. Or, it could be a mild fetish. As long as it doesn't cross over into the rest of your life and start effecting the way you live and as long as it doesn't become the only way in which you achieve gratification, I think you are perfectly fine. In today's world, women often take on roles of leadership in other parts of their lives, so its kind of fun and kind of a relief to let their hair down and let the man do the driving in the bedroom. There are men who experience similar feelings as well. You could always try a little role playing once in while - sometimes with you being the dominant one and sometimes with him being the dominant one. Who knows, he may like to be on the submissive side as well every once in a while. Visit your local novelty shop and buy a few toys for yourselves (i.e. blindfolds, fuzzy cuffs, etc..). Experiment and have fun. Like I said, as long as it isn't an obsession that is effecting the rest of your life, then you should be perfectly fine. The previous posters are right- just discuss your fantasies with him, make sure you are both okay with what is going on and set up a few ground rules and a pre determined safety word so in case he does something you are not comfortable with he will know that its time to stop (and not think your resistance is part o f the game)
2007-02-11 11:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way hon. There is nothing wrong with letting him dominate you in the bed, or you dominating him! My husband and I take turns every night. It is a great thing to be able to spice up the bedroom games when you are married. Enjoy it honey! Don't worry about it making you a "freak", Just have fun!
2007-02-11 11:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Angela K 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look - what goes on in your bedroom between you and your husband, is your business, and is PERFECTLY okay, as long as it is okay with you and with him. It only stops being okay when one person doesn't like something. If you like being dominated, and your husband doesn't mind, then enjoy yourselves. It's supposed to be special, fun and beautiful. The only thing that makes it less than that is trying to live up to someone else's standards, instead of what the two people involved are happy and okay with.
2007-02-11 11:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both happy with it and it doesnt get out of hand then what you and your hubby do in your own bedroom is your own business (unless you'd like to send me some pictures) LOL. Have fun.
2007-02-11 11:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by cinsingl83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not weird at all, just part of your personal dom/sub tendency. What ever you like, go for it! Just make sure you guys agree on a safety word before he ties you up! 9-)
2007-02-11 11:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a freak! As long as you & your husband are enjoying yourselves, that's all that matters.
2007-02-11 11:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a weird freak. Oh well. As long as pain is not involved.
2007-02-11 11:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Rani 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird I like the same thing. I think that it is a "being a man" thing. You feel like he is a macho man and you feel like you are fragile and womanly. At least that is how it is for me
2007-02-11 11:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its not weird tell your husband about it and tell him to step his game up and stop tapping that AZZ like a gentleman b4 i step in and show you how bay area boys get down
2007-02-11 11:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Priesd D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
nope not a freak at all .. lots of us out here as long as you are both comfortable with it
2007-02-11 11:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋