My husband and i?

Question

My husband and i got married Oct. 7th and in December he decided to leave me. He moved to St. Louis and i stayed here and moved in with my dad *not financially stable enough to raise a 9 month old and pay the bills*
All I do at night is sit at home and watch tv, take care of my son, talk on the phone or get online. Every day my husband calls me and asks me who i had over at my house and what i did and who i had sex with the night before. And I always have the same answer, which is I was at home w/ the baby and my dad and the cat (ooo the cat) all night the night before.
Why is it he thinks he can continue to run my life when he's not even here to watch me actually do nothing? Why is it he thinks he can accuse me of doing these things when he's the one that left me?
I also know that he's gotta be having sex w/ sum1 in St. Louis because of the way he acts. How do i get him to tell the truth about that?

Answer 1

Hi there
First of all if the husband left you and the baby you don't owe him anything I would tell him to go to hell. Tell him it's none of your business in what you do. Just keep sending child support and if you are not getting it look into it. I tell you that has to be the lowest of the lowest leaving you after 2 months and a baby on top of it all. If he does not want to work things out with you then you tell him to get lost and you are moving on with your life. I hope you are getting child support from the as. h... and if not you should go for it. I hope things work out for you. If you want to keep in touch my e-mail address is [e-mail] I hope things work out for you and you know the word Karma it's coming his way you wait and see! Take care!

Bruce

Answer 2

First off I want to say how sorry I am to hear about your current heartbreak. I truly am. Men are a differnet kind of person. He feels that he can control you and know what is going on and ask you all kinds of questions, make you feel like the a** because he is trying to transfer his feelings onto you. Don't let him do it. He will probably never tell the truth about "the other women". I have been divorced from my ex for 9 years and he states that he never cheated. Which is a lie. Anyway. I would avoid his calls, but maybe answer once a week-granted he is the father of your child. File divorce. This guy is not reponsible in the love department to take care of you and your child. Good luck.

Answer 3

He thinks he can because you are letting him.
Get public support, if that is your only option right now, and let them go after him for child support. If things are nice with your Dad, stay there--- if not try to get your own place but do not give the jerk your new number. In the meantime, if he calls, tell him you have nothing to say to him and hang up.
Move on with your life. He is a loser and you know it. Yet you are hoping he will come back to you, so you talk to him every day and tell him how lonely and empty your life is without him.
You're feeding him--- he has his life plus knows you are back there pining for him.
And what about the poor baby?
When you hear his voice ask when the check will arrive and then say good-bye. Use all this extra empty time you have to learn a skill so you can support your child in a year or two's time when welfare runs out.

Answer 4

First he left you.Do you really want his details? Hes trying to control you by saying the stuff that he says to hurt you. He left you so hes trying to give you the guilt trip for him leaving.Don't fall into that trap.Let him have the guilt. Don't answer the phone every time he calls your entitled to a life too.You need to see family court to get support for the baby .It take two to make the baby but you need help to support the child.What business it of his where what and who your on your own and you can do it.

Single Mom once too

Answer 5

You tell him flat out that it is none of his business what, who, when, where, or why when it comes to your personal life. He left, he made that choice and he needs to understand that by doing that he gave up all rights to knowing what you are doing. You need to stop worrying about getting him to tell you the truth and start asking him when he plans on helping you with raising your child. Do not give into him when he starts to ask you such things, turn it around and only discuss with him issues concerning the child. If he keeps on about what you are doing then hang up on him. Move on with your life and enjoy it. I hope you find someone that will show you that marriage is not ownership, it is a partnership. Good luck hon.

Answer 6

For one he obviously left the marriage but never left caring for you behind. Some people think that they can still control you to justify their actions. Since he is so far away there probably is nothing you can do to see if he has someone else. You could stop taking his calls. Don't answer when he calls even if you are home. Stop giving him the control make him jealous. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Just straight up tell him it is none of his business anymore. If he wanted to be involved in your life this much then he would have stayed in the marriage. He made the decision and now he must live with it. Then hang up the phone. It sounds like your dad is being a trooper. You have support. It may not be your husband like it should be, but don't forget to be thankful for your dad. Good luck.

Answer 8

JNext time he asks tell him you were out having the best sex of your life with a African American built like john Holmes and you could never go back to his small weena again. That should get some kind of reaction from him. Usually when we are mad we say things we normally wouldn't so he may in retaliation say what or who he's been doing.

Answer 9

listen, u just need to leave him alone and stop takin his phone calls..hes NOT goin to be honest with u, BUT hes accusing you bc he know what he's been doing!! and guilt makes you do things like that. he sounds really immature and u are left to do ALL the hard work, raising his child! Next time he calls..tell him u were out..met a really nice guy and he rocked ur world! WATCH him squirm!! he deserves it!

Answer 10

Why do you even care at this point if he is having sex with someone else.. Do you even want him back?

To answer your question... I don't know why he THINKS he can run your life from St. Louis, but as long as you make it clear to him that he can't, and you stop letting him, and stop answering his questions, then he will know he can't.

If you keep answering his questions, then YOU are the reason he is running your life. You are letting him do it!