what to do about violent ergs??

Question

lately i've been having flashes where i just want to go out and fight some random person. i haven't acted on these ergs yet. anyway i was wondering what should i do to tame these emotions? i can't just drop them or bottle them up it just builds up. i also tryed hitting inadement objects but the number of holes in my wall tell me that isn't doing much. can someone help me? how do i handle this stress without becoming a terrorist?

Answer 1

Try to control yourself. Think to yourself about this and remember that violence isn't needed. I know you can't lose it right away so maybe you can go to a guidance counselor about this or maybe a physcologist. If you don't want to do this just try not to think of violence and stop playing or watching anything really violent.

Answer 2

The next time you feel one of these violent urges, take a look around you. Try to take in everything about the environment you're in. The more you do this with thes urges, the more you'll start to see a pattern of what helps to trigger these urges.

Once you've figured out your trigger, you need to figure out the reason WHY these things trigger these urges. This is going to take some serious introspection on your part.

When you feel on of these urges coming on, don't push it away. Experiance it, fully and completely. Let it rage at the very forefront of your mind and seriously pay attention to everything yo are feeling. Is it just anger, or is there some other emotiongs involved such as sorrow, guilt or shame? Try writing in a notebook everything that comes to mind, don't censor yourself one bit. If it comes to midn right it down. Try to write the words as if they would look if they were a feeling. Later, once the urge has passed, go back and read what you wrote, study the way the words look, remember how quickly and frequently they came along. This will help you to live the urge, get it out and deal with it in the consious part of your mind, as opposed to shoving into the unconscious where it will affect you in other ways.

The most important thing for you to do is figure out what is causing these urges, confront it, deal with it and move past it. This has to be done in a completely open and honest manner.

If you feel these urges are going to take over, you should seek professional help before you hurt yourself or someone else. Until then try deflecting the energy into more positive activities. Go for a run, take a boxing class, lift weights. Anything that is going to leave you feeling light and empty afterwards. Simple things like this go a long way for helping us cope with stress and anxiety.

Answer 3

At some point you will not be able to stop your urges. You need someone to talk to, someone that can help you resolve when these urges start and then receive advice on how to control them. You are obviously angry about something.

Answer 4

Listen to Pachabel's "Cannon in D", JS Bach's "Brandenburg Concerto no. 3", or Vivaldi's "Spring"

Answer 5

Not to be funny but try getting professional help. You could be
manic-depressive or bypolar or something to that effect.

Answer 6

"How can we effectively deal with our anger?"
Please take a few minutes to patiently read this, Thank You, and have a great week.
Anger is an inaccurate assessment of reality. Why? Because, by definition, it is based on exaggeration or superimposition of negative qualities. However, when we are angry, we do not “feel” we are exaggerating or superimposing anything. We feel that we are right!
In fact, the angry mind seems very clear: “I’m Right, and Your Wrong
and you are the one needing to change !!”
“Under the Influence of Anger, we select a few negative qualities and form a limited view that we are then reluctant to change. Psychologists speak of a refractory period that accompanies an emotion. During this time, we are closed to any advice or “reasonable” interpretation that contradicts our view. We can neither think clearly about a person or a situation nor accept the other interpretation of it that well-meaning people offer! When the emotion subsides and then we are able to look at the person or the event more clearly, we readily see that anger’s interpretation was inaccurate!! Anger is also inaccurate in its assessment of reality in that it does not perceive a situation in a balanced way, but views it through the distorted picture of “I”, “Me”, “My”, “Mine”. Although we think that the way a situation appears to us is how it really exists out there objectively, when we are angry, we are, in fact, viewing it through our Self-Centeredness. Due to this self-centered view, anything that happens in relation to me {ourselves) seems incredibly important.
Ask yourself, are you really happy, when you are angry? The answer is undoubtedly, NO. We may feel a surge of physical energy due to physiological reasons, but emotionally, we feel miserable.
Therefore, from our own experiences, we can see that anger does not promote happiness. In addition, we do not communicate well when we are angry. We speak loudly when we’re angry, as if the other person were hard of hearing or we often repeat what we say, as if the person had a bad memory, but this is not communication. Good communication is expressing ourselves in a calm, reasonable, controlled way in which the other person understands. If we raise our voices to another, they usually just simply tune us out. Under the influence of anger, we do not express ourselves as calmly, nor think clearly. Under anger’s sway, we also say and do things that we later regret. Years of trust built with great effort is quickly damaged by just a few moments of uncontrolled anger. In a bout of anger, we treat the people we love most in a way that we would never treat a stranger, saying horribly cruel things, or even possibly striking those whom we love. This harms not only our loved ones, but also ourselves, as we sit aghast as the family we cherish disintegrates.
This, in turn, breeds guilt and self-hatred, which immobilizes us and further harms our relationships and ourselves. If we could just tame our anger, such painful consequences would be avoided. And maintaining anger within us fosters resentment, and bitterness.
Through the development of Patience, comes Loving-kindness,
Compassion and Wisdom. Transforming our attitudes, and our minds through Patience, Tolerance and Compassion we are able to remain internally undisturbed in the face of harm and externally act for the benefit of others. But when we choose to express our anger, our words and deeds hurt others. And expressing our anger does not rid ourselves of the anger. On the contrary, each time we express this hostility, even if it is by beating a pillow or screaming in an empty field, we strengthen the habit of feeling & acting out its unhealthy energy. What happens if one day there is no pillow around to beat, or if there is no empty field in which to scream in, and we are only surrounded by human beings? Also, suppressing anger will damage us mentally or physically, as well. Expressing anger is one extreme and suppressing anger is another extreme. In both cases, the habit of anger remains in one form or another. “Transforming our attitudes and our way of thinking through the cultivation of Patience, Compassion, and tolerance is the answer! ‘It is the ability to remain internally calm and undisturbed in the face of harm, or difficulties’.” Patience does not involve pasting a plastic smile on your face while hatred simmers inside. It involves dissolving the anger-energy inside so that it is no longer there. Then, with a clear mind, we can evaluate various alternatives (while remaining calm and undisturbed) and decide what to say or do to remedy a situation.
Mental Calmness gives us the space to evaluate situations clearly and thus to make wise decisions. And this is the foremost advantage of Patience.
Patience allow us to live free from guilt, pain, grudges, resentment, and the wish for revenge. Then we are able to communicate effectively with others, and our relationships are peaceful, and more harmonious. Instead of being ripped apart by anger, they are deepened by attentive listening, and kind considerate speech.
Training in Patience: The meditation of observing our anger involves quietly paying close attention to the storyline behind anger. We note the blood rushing to our head, our heart pounding, the emotional pain of hurt feelings, disappointment, & unfulfilled expectations. Simply observing these, “but Not reacting to them by clinging to them or pushing them away, we experience them as they are in the present. In doing so, we watch them arise And Cease in their own accord.” Mindfulness is very effective in letting go of Negative emotions. “Techniques in which we re-frame the situation constitute most of this volume, and they fall in the category of Analytical meditation, in which we investigate our thoughts, feeling, and perceptions to discern if they are accurate and beneficial. Changing the way we describe and interpret situations subdue anger because we stop exaggerating and projecting negativities onto people, situations, and objects. In this way, the external event, its meaning, & our position in it appear to us differently, and our anger evaporates.” Meditation on love and compassion (which many do as form of walking meditation) strengthens these positive emotions in our minds, and hearts, which is very beneficial because these emotions act not only as antidotes to anger, but also as measures preventing it from arising. So for some, mindfully observing their Thoughts and emotions allows anger & hatred to subdue naturally, while for others, a more Analytical approach is necessary. Through investigation, we need to see clearly that anger is a distorted state of mind that misapprehends its object {either the person or the situation). For some, it is good to often reflect on the disadvantages of anger in order to make them determined to step back and not blindly indulge in anger. Because different approaches work for different people, the Dhammapada {of Buddhism) teaches a variety of techniques so that each one of us can establish a repertoire that works excellent for each of us. But remember, subduing anger, to cultivate Patience and tolerance properly is a slow and steady process. Don’t expect it to disappear overnight. Reacting in anger is a deeply ingrained habit, & like all habits, it takes time to unlearn. Developing Patience, which the major antidote to anger requires a great deal of determination, effort, and patience.
Another way to overcome anger and self-centeredness is to regard our enemy as a friend, who benefits us. How can we see an enemy as a friend? First, by harming us an enemy gives us the opportunity to manifest Patience and tolerance. Think about this, who really gives us the best opportunity to demonstrate patience, compassion, and tolerance? Not our friends, because they are nice to us. It is our enemies. Through having an optimistic attitude, we can clearly see that it is our enemies which help us that infinitely beneficial, wholesome quality of Patience. It is those who harm and offend us that actually give us excellent opportunities to cultivate Patience.
This Patience is the ability to remain internally calm, and undisturbed in the face of harm or difficulties. Through the situations in life which we are faced with, patience and wisdom are cultivated and the anger-energy within us is dissolved, resulting in a peace of mind, and happiness.