I have been seperated for alomost two years and the divorce is being held up by a few things. I wish it could all be over so I can move on with my life. I have not gone out or things like that during the process. I am ready to get out and meet new women. I just can not seem to get myself to do that before it is all final through the courts. Is that crazy?
2007-02-11 10:49:25 · 13 answers · asked by unsirtnty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you need "completion" before moving on into another relationship, so be it. There is nothing at all wrong with waiting until you actually feel comfortable with it. You say you are 'ready' but your inability to just do it says something else.
Two years is not a lifetime--- clearly, the separation and divorce have meant a lot emotionally to you. You are still healing and that is far preferable to rebounding into all kinds of crazy relationships just to kill the pain.
Get out with friends--- put yourself in positions where you may meet women with similar interests, etc. and see about making friends with some--- romance not being your number one concern. Eventually you may meet someone that you will want to be with so much that it will feel very natural to take the next step. And who knows--- by then your divorce may be completed anyway.
Good luck!
2007-02-11 11:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to do the right thing, why be in a hurry. If you meet someone they may not understand what you are going through, so it is best to start a new life clean. Take it from someone that was married for 28 yrs. then divorced and rushed in to find someone to fill that empty space. enjoy what you have now so you can be good for someone new.no looking back wishing you would of waited.Be strong and someone will come when you are not looking.Love yourself first, then you can love others better.
2007-02-11 11:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by imik in tx. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing...too many times I see someone getting a divorce and the next day they are in another relaitonship because they can not be alone. With that idea, they are gambling on that person being the right one or hoping so. You have given yourself time though to heal, and now after your divorce, you will full and ready to start dating again and giving someone a chance...
2007-02-11 10:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by St.Jeb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not crazy, but just make sure that you don't confuse meeting women, and becoming invovled in a serious relationship with a woman. Having a relationship might be unfair to the new person, but there is nothing wrong with having companions.
2007-02-11 11:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to re-group after the divorce is final get to know YOU.
Set goals for just you to accomplish do not rush into a new relationship to soon
2007-02-11 10:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're clever and appropriate for waiting until the divorce is very final. as quickly as that's totally final and over with then once you're waiting initiate relationship slowly returned. yet no longer until you sense you're waiting to. Dont permit human beings rush or push you into it. Take it sluggish and do issues your way and at your man or woman speed.
2016-11-03 04:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are still a little burnt around the edges. It's good to be alone during this time because you could make bad choices out of lonliness.
2007-02-11 10:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not crazy....it would be crazy not to be ready to move on.
Take that energy and get busy fixing those things that's keeping you from getting on with your life.
2007-02-11 10:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not crazy to want to meet new women but id wait till your divorce so problems won't arise
2007-02-15 10:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not crazy, just hang in their it all shall pass! Good Luck!!!
2007-02-11 11:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Domino's Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋