My wife is for sure! You know the term, "You give a little, you get a little", it doesn't apply in our bedroom.
2007-02-11 10:48:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Last time my significant other and i had sex was like 4 or 5 years ago maybe 5 or 6, it's been so long i don't even remember. We kiss and hug daily but she doesn't have any desire for sex. She use to be the most horny woman i've ever known but she isn't interested in the least bit anymore. She isn't cheating, i know that for a fact, as she doesn't have time for it in her busy schedule.
2007-02-11 10:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, the term "sexually selfish" does not apply to a couple who sincerely love each other and truly desire to make the other person happy and meet their needs. When we give to each other and are thoughtful and considerate of each other, then the other person can't help but feel good towards us and want to reciprocate. If one person wants it more than the other, and it isn't just a case of a greater libido, then I think that both people should do their best to be as thoughtful of the other's feelings on the subject as possible, and try to meet those needs. This means respecting one person's need to sleep or not be intimate, when that person really has that need. It also means respecting the other person's needs for physical intimacy as often and/or as varied as necessary. It should be a give and take. That way, there is a happy medium and both people are feeling like their needs are being met. When both people's needs are met, then the physically intimate times they do have together are more meaningful and special. Since you say your wife doesn't apply that principle, I would suggest trying to do something that you ordinarily don't like to do, but you know if would mean a lot to your wife. Show you that you care about her feelings and emotions with regard to the things that are important to her. When a woman feels taken for granted, her desires are turned off. I'm not saying you are taking her for granted. I'm saying she might FEEL like you are. Try this and see if it works. Do little things to show her you care. You don't need to make extravagant efforts. My ex-husband used to give me flowers, but he would do it so often, when we couldn't afford it (we struggled), that not only was it no longer special (flowers should be for a special reason), but I couldn't enjoy them because I worried about the cost and what item in our finances would have to be juggled. If I got up in the morning and discovered that he had packed me a lunch for work (unexpected), that showed me that he cared, and I would be thinking of how sweet he was all day long. Get where I am going with this? Anyway, this is just my take on this, from my own personal experience. I hope this helps. Many women really don't fully understand the needs that a MAN has because it's all about "he doesn't meet my needs". Yes - it does have to be a give and take from both people. I hope your wife will also learn to give a little as well, and then maybe she will start to see an improvement in the areas that she is concerned about too. Good luck!
2007-02-11 11:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO way. are you loopy? Marriage is so sacred. no count what its for extra effective or worse... isnt that what you pronounced on the adjust? except they are abusive or hit you or something.. issues like this arent valid motives for divorce. There are different information on a thank you to get sexual delight. in the event that they cant do something anymore.. you will detect different information on a thank you to do issues mutually.. and it could nevertheless be sexually stimulating for the two certainly one of you. purely think of and be resourceful approximately it. Love is love.. its no longer lust.
2016-12-17 14:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is sexually selfish. When he gets off that's it ot's done, he doesn't even consider that I haven't gotten there yet; Of course I always let it go and do it myself. LOL But when the situation is reversed him he whines and mopes about it all day until he gets what he wants.
2007-02-11 14:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by MsTrust 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am single at the moment, but my ex-husband was definetly selfish in the bedroom. my now toy, i try to do 50/50 but he loves to spoil me. im not selfish i just have a really good man (booty call)
2007-02-11 11:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not. I've spoiled my man rotten.
2007-02-11 10:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um...lol...i can't answer this one here...sorry. lol
2007-02-12 02:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋