Ex-husband and new wife?

Question

M ex-husband recently got remarried. He never bothered to even tell me he was dating anyone, he left it up to our 6 year-old daughter to tell me they were married. Yesterday when I dropped my daughter off at his house for visitation he told me that his new wife is upset when I call him and that I can no longer call him. The only time we ever speak is when it is relating to my daughter, when she is sick, when she has school meetings he needs to be aware of, when she has birthday party invites during his visitation time. I NEVER call him just to talk, I only call when it is relative to my daughter and there is information that he needs to know. I need to know what to do when I need to inform him of something happening in my daughters life without causing conflict.?I dont care if she gets pissed that I call I just dont want him taking it out on me, which I know he will. BTW I am taking him back to court for full custody in June.

I am concerned about not notifing him of matters that effect our daughter because when I do take him back to court for full custody he will use it against me.

Answer 1

Just keep doing what you have been doing, its not your fault your ex married an insecure person, you two have a child together, and like you said your going for full custody in June, let the chips fall where they may then, and if he starts wondering why he doesn't know what's going on in his daughters life then its all on him! Good Luck, just keep up what you have to do legally for now for your daughter sake and your chance at full custody, and then hopefully in June you will have full custody, and he will learn from his mistakes, who cares if he takes it out on you, what do you mean by that, if he touches you then file a restraining order. Other than that it's just words, write it down so the court has the information in June, that you made an attempt to tell him what is going on and that he didn't want to hear it anymore. Good luck

Answer 2

Make agreement with him to use email. Since there may be legal actions in the future, emails make great documentation of visitation, activities, expenses, his concurrence or non-concurrence on issues, etc. Make sure both agree to inform each other if email addresses are changed so "I didn't get it" is not an excuse. Don't erase any email. Whether you agree or disagree on an arrangement, reply so and not igore an email. Don't use foul language.

Whether his new wife likes it or not, he has to deal with it. He cannot put any restriction order on you because there is a legitimate reason involving the daughter. The court will understand that the parents need to know regular and emergency contact information.

Answer 3

you are doing just fine, if she gets all pissy then so what, you don't call him to socialize, you call him about your kid, and if he doesn't want to be bothered then tough titties, thats part of being a parent

now about this thing about him getting married without you knowing? i don't understand why he would need to inform you of such matters, if he gets married i seriously doubt he has to contact you and get your blessing

if he has a problem with you then he should state it, if his wife has a problem with you then she should keep her mouth shut

perhaps you should go with a video recorder and record him while you ask him if he has a problem with you contacting him about situations or things that come up pertaining to your child, if he says yes, he has a problem with that then so be it, you can then take the tape with you to court to show that he does not have an interest in his own child, should make your case that much better, if he says he has no problem, then the next time he opens his mouth about how his new wife don't like it then tell him to keep his dog on a leash because you would hate to see the legal ramifications of her interfeering with a parental rights situation

Answer 4

I think SC has it absolutely right. Or if email will not work, mail him once a week reports--- keeping copies of that as well.
Like some of the other answerer's, I think you have more feelings for him than you are talking about--- but regardless, you have a child together who apparently stays with him part time, so communication is necessary.
Did you ask him how he expects you to communicate on legitimate issues about the child? Even for pick=up times etc. some communication is necessary.
Whatever you end up doing, document it!!!!

Answer 5

when you go for full custody make sure the fact he said you weren't to call is brought up by you,by the sounds of it he has a nasty wife now.good luck to you

Answer 6

I don't believe you. You started out complaining that he didn't tell you he was getting married, and then later claim you only are interested in contacting him to relay information about your daughter.

You contradict yourself. Look up the word "Integrity", and then let him go.

Answer 7

he can't take anything out on u, and his new wife is insecure and immature. if u need to call him do so but maybe at work instead of at their house. that should upset her, like she is trying to do to you. and why not take him back to court for more child support while your at it.

Answer 8

Leave him alone if that's what he wants. He doesn't want to be involved. He's the one that told you to stop calling, so he can't bring that up in court. You can though.

Answer 9

Tell him you have no problem with that. See him in June.

Answer 10

Do what you have to do to take care of your child.