How often and how do you experience homophobia the most? (Ex. Derogatory remarks, violence, and exclusion)?

Answer 1

Normally through dirty looks when you're walking down the street or where ever with a friend or partner. I've also had people say things to my face before, but I've been mostly lucky with my interaction with homophobia. At work I've heard people say things that would be considered completely inappropriate, but being that it would be hard to prove it I turn the other cheek.

Oh, and the biggy would be online in forums such as these. The internet gives people such freedom that they feel it's okay to say whatever they want even if it is completely hurtful and cruel to others.

Answer 2

I'd say there's a lot more heterosexism than there is homophobia. The concept of compulsory heterosexuality: "straight until proven gay" wherein everyone assumes that not only are you as an individual straight, but also when addressing a group they tend to pretty much pretend gay people don't exist. On an interpersonal level, that's probably the most frequent thing I see. On an institutional level....yeesh there's too much going on. No one says "boo" about a man who has, for YEARS, made a habit of consciously lying about the results of research and how they can be applied; they say he is to be given "equal time" in the name of fairness. Wouldn't want to impede on his beliefs, afterall, with our pesky reality. There's the fact that on a national level, we've never had a true ally. We've had people who were less our enemy. A president elected on a gay rights platform passed some of THE MOST overtly discriminatory laws still in effect.

Answer 3

I rarely ever experience it.

Honestly, the only time I've experienced "derogatory remarks" is when someone is mad at me for some other reason and simply "hits below the belt". I wouldn't consider this homophobia because their intent is to personally hurt me for some other reason, not to hurt my community at large for who we are.

It's like when someone uses a derogatory racial remark against a single individual because they cut them off on the road. Chances are they have plenty of acquaintances of that race and would never think to say such things to them, nor do they probably even truly believe in the remark itself.

Now my lack of such an experience is probably due to where I live (The San Francisco Bay Area, California).

Answer 4

I'm amazed how much I hear homophobic words coming from my school children in classes K - 5. Obviously, they are hearing such words in the family and I have to think that it stems from a culture thing. For such hateful words to come from such innocent mouths, makes my heart sad. Tolerance Education has to start much earlier than highschool.

Answer 5

I pity the person who says a derogatory remark in front of me.

Answer 6

Derogatory remarks, usually. I haven't experienced the violence aspect of it since high school. One guy grabbed me once a couple of years ago and threated to beat me up. I stayed calm, glared at him and said, "If you're going to do this, you'd better make sure you murder me because if I survive, you won't." He ran away. Dumb bastard.

Answer 7

true story this a few years ago my family and i was out on a sunday drive heading though country villages we had been on the roads for ages i asked my kids and missus if anyone wanted to go to the toilet as i needed a pee anyay then i just glanced a public toilet as i drove past so i stopped the car 50 +metres away
my youngest son 9yrs old wanted to go then as we both got out of our car it rained very heavily so we both ran as fast as we could staight into the mens side toilets
thankfully i was 1st in as stood there was a bloke in his late 40`s and a bloke in his 20`s both pants round ankles both had each others pick in their hands tugging each other off and necking each other
i stopped in my tracks put my lad in the cubicle so he could have a pee all i could hear was those to moaning the rage inside me was unreal
those two are the luckiest gets walking as i didnt want my son to see me beat the **** out of them i took my son back to the car leaving them to it my musses wouldnt let me go back in
if i walked in on my own i would have pissed in the cubicle and
forgot it every one to their own
if one of you two ever read this board and a bloke and his son ran in on you in your sex act both think youselfs the luckiest tossers on the planet as you can still breath you have my missus to thank

their is a time and place for all

Answer 8

No homophobia here!